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    • jaffacake
      CommentAuthorjaffacakeGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    ok so getting married in july,my mum is selfish always has been judges but never helps is now having an affair and told me about it, want to tell my step dad but cant! or do i? he's doing the speech and cant be so two faced its really stressin me out! my real dad is gonna be there with his wife feel bad for not askin him to give me away but step dad brought me (up well kind of)
    3 little boy ,a part time job,a busy h2b,mate just had heart op,other mate lost her baby,my sons have all kinds of tests and have no maid of honour my best friend died afew years ago and dont want anyone else to do the job so doing all the plannin on my own,every ones turnin to me for help and i'll always be ther for them........... just needed to let it all out.xx
    • jellytot
      CommentAuthorjellytotGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    oh thts poop :( i found out when i was 15 that my dad was cheating on my mom.. i read texts on his phone. i told her (stupidly on her birthday) because i couldnt live with the guilt. i suppose its abit different with your mom actually telling you about it though. maybe you should talk to her and tell her how u feel and ask her if shes going to tell your stepdad. then u gota put urself in his shoes.... if u wer being cheated on would u want to know? and how would u feel if someone close to you that u trust knew, but kept it from u? x
    • CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    ok you defo sound like you have to much on your plate to handle,you need to be honest with people tel them that you would like help.with regards to your mums affair,personally speaking i couldnt sit there and let my step dad make a heart felt speech knowing she was having an affair,honesty is the best policy,but id also say that your mum has been rather selfish doing this to you just before your wedding
    • iluvcakes
      CommentAuthoriluvcakesGot married 6 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010 edited
    Aww bless you sweetheart! That's an awful lot to have on your plate!!
    Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding and welcome to ukbride xx

    BIG HUGS coming your way. I don't really know what to say about your Mum, I'm shocked to be honest! Why tell you something like this just a few months before your wedding??! How well do you get on with your stepdad? To me, honesty is always the best policy and I couldn't bear the thought of him making such a heartfelt speech and not knowing what's going on xxx

    Became Mrs Robinson 4th October 2012 xxx
    Can't wait to do it all over again on the 4th October 2017!!

    • Relfy
      CommentAuthorRelfyGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    oh honey, you are having a real bad time at the mo.... (((((HUGS)))))). With regards to your step dad, if i was in the same position, i would keep out of it. Tell your mum that you are not interested in hearing about the affair and have nothing more to do with it. If your step dad comes to you regarind it then i wouldn't lie and would tell him. Unitl then there is not much you can do about it.... my thoughts are with you babe.... ((((((more hugs)))) x x
    • charliemeg
      CommentAuthorcharliemegGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    aw big hugs hun, that really wasnt fair of your mum to put all that on you. I dont think i could sit there listening to my step dad make a heart felt speech about me if i knew i was hiding something from him, but unfortunately only you can decide what you are going to do. My thoughts are definately with you . You really dont need this stress
    • Magsy
      CommentAuthorMagsyGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010 edited
    sending big hugs your way xxxxx

    • farmerswife2b
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    your not having an easy time pet. your just right to have a rant if it helps at all we are always here. x
    • x~Hails~x
      CommentAuthorx~Hails~xGot married 3 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    dont really know what to say just wanted to sent some hugs your way


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    It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.
    • spooney24
      CommentAuthorspooney24Got married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 13th 2010
    I would say to your mum that she really needs to tell your step dad as it unfair for you to know about her affair and for her to dump this on you. As for doing all your wedding planning on your own after all you have on your plate, is there anyone close that can help you out just to give you a bit of a break? x

    26th December 2007 - the day I met my special man
    8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
    24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
    became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
    • jaffacake
      CommentAuthorjaffacakeGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 14th 2010
    THANKS EVERY ONE FOR YOUR SUPPORT.it was nice just to have a rant but im back on the wedding train now theres no one to help really but i did speak to my h2b and hes been really supportive and doing as much as he can.my step dad is still me dad no matter what happens so told my mum that im disapointed in her,want her to be happy but will never lie for her so i can only see wats to come.xxxgood luck to you all.happy planning.xxx
    • catch
      CommentTimeMar 14th 2010 edited
    shame on your mum to burden you so and with the wedding so near you just don't need it, now it takes two to tangle so she amy have been unhappy for a while and now she seems to be bursting to tell someone, but poor you, l do hope everything goes to plan for you ((( hugs))) x
    • Mrs Rebecca Hossfeld
      CommentAuthorMrs Rebecca HossfeldGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 14th 2010
    jaffa..we're here to lend a bit of support if you need it.

    As for your mum, it's awful that she has dumped this pressure on you..I told my mum when she was screwing around on her relationships she needed to grow up & face her situation not hide from it..she did not like me for ages for that, but she saw my point in the end.

    I do hope you get some more support hun..hugs your way & so far you are doing amazingly well :)
    • Daffy
      CommentAuthorDaffyGot married 7 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 14th 2010
    Oh hun, big hugs. Thinking of you... xxx


    • mrsr2b
      CommentAuthormrsr2bGot married 7 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 14th 2010
    awww huni, such a lot u have to deal with!!!
    • Claire Sky
      CommentAuthorClaire SkyGot married 8 years ago
      CommentTimeMar 14th 2010
    oh hon x what a difficult time xxxx you need any help with planning just ask!! xxxx
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