So his stag is looming. I'd love to say that I'm OK with it but the underlying worry is still there. I grumpily packed his bag and added crisps and red bull and cookies, ibuprofen, paracetamol and stomach settlers. I also gave him so mind blowing sex last night so he doesnt forget that I am an OK person really. lol. His family are equally as worried as me but I keep telling myself this time next week it will be over.
Ive got my daughters friends coming for a sleepover on Friday, she has a party to go to on Saturday, another party to go to on Sunday and back to school Monday. Ive deliberately packed lots of stuff in to keep mysel busy but I know in the wee hours I will inevitably be thinking about him.
Ive come here for a good moan and to ask you ladies what you did to keep your mind off his stag do.
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CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
Aww bless you Stephanie, he's a very luck man to have you packing all that stuff for him, despite the fact that you're not happy he's going to I hope he appreciates that. The sex part made me lol.
I am not sure there will be much you can do to be honest, even keeping yourself busy you will still think about him but you just have to remember that he loves you and he's marrying you and at the end of the his stag, he's coming home to you.
It won't be long until it's over. Sorry, not been much help but don't feel like there is much anyone can say, you'll think of him no matter what because you love him x
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Hi Stephanie
Why are you so worried?
I just kept busy when my OH was on his stag do, but he kept in regular phone contact and it was quite an unusual stag do insofar that they went to a cathedral!!!
If you sit and fret it will feel all the worst for it. Like Nicola says, he is marrying you at the end of the day and this is all part of the lead up to it!
xx
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CommentAuthorFlossie
What is it that you're worried about?
I wasn't worried at all when hubby went on his stag. He text me a few times throughout the day/night and the next morning so I knew he was ok, but I was just so pleased that he was having such a fab time. I suppose it also helped knowing he was with some of my family members as well including my dad so he had to be on his best behaviour ;-)
Is your OH having a messy one?? You'll be surprised at how quickly the time will pass xx
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18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
I should have written "refer to my previous post" regarding stag do. It will explain my woes.
Thanks Nicola your post did make me feel a bit better. I suppose I'll just keep myself busy and drink lots of wine throughout the weekend... hopefully it'll lull me into an undisturbed sleep.
And wooooo my first gold star, I only just realised!
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CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
I was going to say, the other option is just to get really drunk, eat loads of chocolate whilst watching chick flicks in your pyjamas and make the most of having the house to yourself :) xx
CommentAuthorFlossie
I've caught up with your other thread now... I would just ask him to text you every now and then, just so you know he is ok, not too drunk that he can't text, etc... rather than having to sit there on your own wondering what he's up to/if he's ok. Like Nicola said I would just make the most of having the time to yourself - have some girly time and pamper yourself xx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Thanks girls. Just ordered a nice @sda shop with wine chocolates and a new movie, I might be 5lbs heavier when he comes back with all the comfort eating. haha :-)
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CommentAuthorMaxineP89
More mind blowing sex to knock the lbs off then lol
Looking forward to becoming the 3rd and last Mrs McLauchlan
CommentAuthorStephanieM158
haha Maxine :-p I'll be putting the work in this evening, our last night together tonight. :-((
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Aww bless. The sex part made me laugh lol my hubby can also take too much drink so I was a little worried about him going but I was fine when he was away. I just thought it's his stag he can get as drunk as he likes and I was happy enough not to be there to see it lol I knew he had a few friends though that would look out for him. As it turned out though he was fine. Didn't get too drunk and just had a good time. Whilst he was away I stayed at my mums and got her to watch also whilst I had a girly night out
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorStephanieM158
That sounds fab Danielle. He went yesterday. Its been about 29 hours sonce he left and ive had a few texts and a cal this morning. They put a dildo in his bag cos they wanted him to get arresyed at security (somewhere in the land of man humour that must be funny) he was sick when he arrived and today they did drunk pedalowing on the beach. Sounds like hes having a good time I know there are several million things hes doing that i would most probably frown at but right now ignorance is bliss. Just got to get thrpugh the weekend... Saying that now hes actually on the stag do im not dwelling on it anymore.
He left me little notes around the house as well whoch i had fun finding.:-)
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Aw that's sweet. As you say ignorance is bliss. Just think it's his one and only stag so just let him get on with it. As my hubby told me...what happens on the stag stays on the stag lol. He was joking though
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
Aw Steph that sounds lovely that he did that. I understand your concerns and hope you are feeling ok. Not long to go now to he's home xxxx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
He phoned earlier, said he wants to come home. Seen a few pictures on f.book (which i promised myself i would avoid... but oh well)
He's been violently ill the past two nights from too much booze and by the looks of it he's on it again tonight. Its surprising how fast the time has gone. His first night away was like a normal working day so he wasnt much missed. Second night my eldest had some girls over for a sleepover which kept me occupied until 11:30pm and been awake since 5am. (I literally dont know how they have so much energy, Ive been on caffinated drinks all day) then she went to a party at lunch, my son went to a party at 3 and got back home for 6, time for dinner, bath time and bedtime. Got one party tomorrow and homework to do for school etc then it'll be Monday a normal working day and he'll be back home at 7:00pm.
I hate to say it but its been easier and tidier since he's been gone. LOL. And I have enjoyed starfishing and not shaving my legs. sorry but I havent.
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Well at least you know he won't be doing it again anytime soon if he's so hungover lol
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorStephanieM158
i spoke to soon....... absolutely fuming.
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
What's happened??
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Inevitable stag pictures. Didnt mind those.
Two random pictures uploaded of him with his arm around a woman and they look uncomfortably close. Tbh it looked as if they where kissing. The next second the pictures have been deleted. Somebody obviously realised i could see them.
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CommentAuthorAnikaM60
Omg. Your going to have to wait till you can speak to him and find out for sure what was going on for sure. He's not going to want to jeopardise anything between you two
CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
Did you manage to get a screen shot? Insure they weren't kissing,I'm sure it's a dodgy picture taken that looks worse than it is. Hope you are ok xxx
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Oh no. Have you spoke to him? I'm sure there's an explanation. Hope your ok
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
Oh my goodness Stephanie I hope you're ok. I am sure it will have been a bad angle but you desperately need to speak with him (if you've not done so already) and clear up what's happened. He may be able to get his friend (who added/deleted the photo) to send the picture again so you can see it properly to hopefully see it's not what you think you saw.
Please let us know you're ok though xx
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
Hi Stephanie, I really hope your OK, not a nice thing to see at all and then for it to be deleted! Fingers crossed for you it was just the angle. Glad his stag is over now and hes back home x
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
edited
Hope your ok Stephanie
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Hope you're ok Steph.... I'm sure there is an explanation to it all xx
Thinking of you xx
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CommentAuthorMichelleC961
Hey hope your are ok and managed to speak to OH xx
CommentAuthorEmily17
Hope you are oh. Have you managed to speak to him now he's home.
I'm sure there is a reasonable explanation. Sending hugs xxx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
So he got home about 5pm yesterday. I'd already spoken to him on the Sunday about seeing the picture. I was quite laid back about it all saying Id seen it but acted like it hadnt bothered but told him it was disrespectful for somebody to post it online. He laughed- but the kind of laugh that made me think wait he thinks its funny, not the awkward im a cheat laugh (does that make sense?) It turns out his friend told this guy who uploaded the picture to take it down because it looked dodgy. They where just close because they where talking, like you do in a club, and the reason the picture was taken was because they where all making fun out of this woman (I dont know why, I was sort of miffed they where making fun of her)
Anyway he got back in yesterday and in all honesty I was just happy to see him, he hugged the kids and got all teary because he had missed them and I forgot about it until the kids went to bed and when we sat we discussed it again. He is being genuine, Ive known him long enough to know when he's lying. He hated the fact he'd given in to his friends wishes going to Kavos and wish he would have stuck to his original idea....he's been violently ill all weekend and said it was just a bit too long to go for.
So the photo was a dodgy angel, he told his mate off for posting it in the first place, his friend apologised for doing it and all is Zen in the Murray/Carr household again.
Thanks for your kind words ladies. xxx
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CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
That's great news Stephanie, I was sure it would turn out to be nothing but could totally understand why you were annoyed about it.
That's it now - the stag is over and you can enjoy the run up to your wedding :) xx
CommentAuthorEmily17
Brilliant. At least its over now and you can look forward to the wedding xxx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
anxiety levels back to normal. :-) x
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CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
Yay :D byebye stag... bring on the wedding!!!
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CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Great news Steph..... Now look forward to your wedding xxxx
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CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
Glad to hear all is ok xx
21st May 2016 xxx
CommentAuthorAnikaM60
That's great. Glad it's all sorted and put to bed
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Good to hear all is well and nothing more came of it. Now for wedding times.
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CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
Glad all is good and phew the stag is over and done with xx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Thank you to everyone who made me feel better throughout the stress of the stag do. Thank goodness its over with.
We've had a bit of a rough year, with the wedding hes worked long hours and spent an excessive amount of time planning the damn stag do we've been totally neglecting each other. We talked about it and we found thats probably why I felt so hurt by him going. Anyway things are on the up now and we're both in a better place. Honestly couldnt have got through it without u all xx
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CommentAuthorMichelleC961
Yay- so glad yiu have sorted it and can now focus on your big day! Xx