Wedding Forum - Is this normal or odd?...

Hubby and I have been together for coming up to 6 years and married for almost 2 years now, we got engaged in January 2012.

In that time we have been for lunch/dinner at my parents more times than anyone could count and they have taken us out too. The gesture is reciprocal and we also have them around loads for lunch/dinner and have treated them for meals out.

FIL with his girlfriend is often included in the family meals round at ours, including Christmas day, New Year, birthdays (my dad and him have birthdays a couple of days apart so do them joint birthday meals) and fathers day. Plus ad hoc meals just to see each other or when SIL with her family are round.

FIL has even been for a meal at my parents house for a big family get together.

Since we've been together i have not once been to his house for even a coffee and never taken for a meal either. Basically there has been absolutely not one instance of our hospitality being reciprocated. Hubby doesn't seem bothered by this.

Is this normal or odd?

I'd understand if he didn't have 2 pennies to rub together but I know he is more than comfortable.

Maybe he feels that things should be done for him. Many older generations feel that that is how it should be.

We've been to the inlaws a fair amount for meals, And every year we have a get together at my parents house at christmas with the other family members.

He most likely feels that his children/children in law should be inviting him round. That's just how some are unfortunately.

Hmmm maybe.

It's funny as my parents love having us round for meals.

The relationship is weird. Hubby and his sister aren't close to their dad, a lot of family issues with their mum and dad marriage breaking down and SIL blaming their dad for it all. Apparently he was lucky to even be invited to her wedding so he was just treated like any other guest and hubby gave her away and did the speech normally the FOB does.

Hubby just doesn't have much of a relationship with his dad and it's only since I've been on the scene that FIL has had any hospitality from hubby.

I'd just have thought that now he does get numerous invites round for massive meals that he'd make some effort.

I'm slightly annoyed because of course when he does come round it's me not hubby that does all the prep, cooking and cleaning up afterwards, it's a lot of effort.