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    • JEm1905
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    Last night I got to thinking about venues for our evening reception.

    Wifey has given me set demands :
    Somewhere that takes peoples breath away
    No manor houses, country homes, barns, town halls etc
    Only one castle is in her mind if she was going to have a castle, same with football grounds
    No zoos or botanical gardens
    Somewhere we can have a buffet so the whole family is comfortable and the food is edible

    So with that earache still ringing and her demands set I started looking... Is it too early? What if I put a deposit down then changed my mind in the years to come? Would we save money by booking now? Is her demands even possible in the Birmingham area?



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    • Flossie
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    That crosses off a lot of potential venues!!! There is certainly no harm in looking now to see what is available and what's out there, but I think with 4 years to go it's much too soon to put a deposit down.. looking at it from an insurance point of view (if you took out wedding insurance), they would not cover any deposits back more than 2 years prior to the wedding date.. I think booking 2 years in advance would allow you plenty of time, however, it sounds like you are needing a unique venue which may get booked up very quickly. Reading your little profile bit underneath your comment, you have a set date - is this date really important to you, or would you be willing to change if you couldn't get that date?

    A lot of venues probably wouldn't even allow you to book now. Our venue were taking bookings for 3 years in advance but I know a lot of other venues wouldn't take bookings that far in advance. Our quote takes into consideration the price rises that will occur in 2016 so we are not actually saving ourselves any money, but some venues might be willing to honour the current years' prices when booking xx

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    • Flossie
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    If you do need to travel out of Birmingham, would you be willing to do that? By booking earlier you would be giving your family and friends plenty of notice to save up for fuel/hotel costs, arrange baby sitting if necessary, etc... etc... But I would still say 2 years would be more than long enough. You might not even have to travel too far out of Birmingham.. we aren't getting married in our home town. Our venue is about 30 mins away xx

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    • JEm1905
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    Date is a must unfortunately don't see the point in changing date when its the day we got together and day we had our civil partnership, plus makes it tons easier to remember the anniversary dates haha.

    I'd happily travel outside Birmingham to find the right place, one place I've spoke to would let us book now and its local to home but with it being in the local it is leading onto a public play green we wouldn't particularly have exclusive use of the grounds :\

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    • CatherineR
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    I would wait a couple of years definitely because when we started planning we have changed our plans so many times that it has gone from having a beautiful country house in the countryside to now having a church wedding followed by a hotel reception and that's not to mention all the other things we've booked, changed and lost deposits on things! If I've learnt anything from all of this is KNOW what you want before booking and be 100% assured that you won't change your mind in a couple of years!

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    • InDreamland
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    No harm in looking and researching but maybe commit to a venue closer to the time. Unless you find the perfect place then can maybe secure it at this year's prices thus saving you money in the long run.

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    • ElizabethF49
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    My venue have bookings for 2019 already.

    I don't think I'd take the chance with wedding insurance only covering 2 years, but I don't think its too early to look and research places of interest

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    • JEm1905
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    Thanks ladies I have fallen in love with this local one (spotted it when we went to their firework display) just exclusive use really putting me off currently.

    Also waiting for some info to come through on said castle the boss wants.. Can't even more member the name of it and her football ground is already off limits..

    Oooo wonder if people would travel from birminghsm to Leicester.. RUGBY!

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Certainly no harm in looking just yet, gives you plenty of time to view different places.

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    • JEm1905
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    Cheers ladies makes me feel a little more normal that I'm only a year off 2 booking lol

    We have so much planned already apart from numbers haha

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    • NikkiE58
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    Aww your date is my birthday! Don't change it, it's a good date! Haha!
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    • NikkiE58
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    I actually wrote a really long reply to that, but only one sentence showed up! :/
    Basically, I was saying to keep looking, as you do have quite a while. What I first thought I wanted in the first month, changed drastically as soon as I started going to Venues and Wedding Fairs! Maybe your missus will have a change of mind when she sees some places?
    Also, look outside the box, there are some really beautiful unique venues out there, such as Vineyards that hire out their stone wine cellars, and you can have your dinner by candlelight! Same as the caves in Cornwall I think, where you can married and have a wedding breakfast in the romantic caves! Or there are the glass Orangeries where they can look great all dressed up, especially as a lot of them have flowers, but I know she said about no botanical gardens, but there must be some pretty amazing places that one she visits them, she might fall in love?
    But, if you do decide that you really want this venue that you're looking at, I would perhaps use this time to get the contact details of other couples who have married there and ask them what their experience has been like with using the venue even though it's not exclusive? Their opinions might help you decide? Also, I wouldn't advise booking until you are covered by insurance, as Anything could happen in 5 years, and you wouldn't be covered! Speak to the venue and ask what they can do to help you get around the whole deposit/insurance thing, they may suggest that they pencil your date in, and only contact you to secure it if another couple enquire about the same date?
    Good luck and happy hunting! X
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    • JEm1905
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    Good idea about pencilling us in!

    So Kenilworth castle has go back to us and it would cost around £2k just for the ceremony not including coaches to get everyone there so going to book a viewing there in the new year for sure along with bouneville pavilions too!

    We didn't have much of a party last time so want this one to be as big as we can lol x

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    • Flossie
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    Wow.. sounds like a big wedding! I'm not jealous at all... ;)

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    • JEm1905
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    Lol Flossie I'm a very cost conscious bride! I will be looking for the budget option so currently unsure on Kenilworth castle but might fall in love so who knows.

    Its a long journey and can't wait to see where it will take us :)

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