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    • CommentAuthordrlouloubug
      Posted: Sep 10th 2015
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    Im getting married next year, and our venue has quite a limited number of people who can attend... is it ok to not invite people who invited you to their wedding and also, is it ok to not include a plus one if the person is single- I have 2 single friends but they are part of a bigger friend group and so it wouldnt be like they would be left on their own- the same with a couple of cousins

    Thank you in advance :)
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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 10th 2015
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    You shouldn't feel the need to explain yourself when saying to someone you are not inviting them, but if you do, tell them it is due to limited numbers at the venue.

    I think its totally reasonable. x

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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 10th 2015
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    Put very simply, yes it is ok. You decide who you and your OH want at your wedding as it is your day. An invite to a wedding doesn't mean the invite must be reciprocated when you get married. People have different weddings so someone who is able to invite the world can't expect to be invited if you a choosing to have a smaller day.
    With regards to your single friends, if they know other people at the wedding, a plus one isn't necessary. We haven't given anyone a plus one because many friends are part of wider groups so they will know other people. Some of these guests have partners but as we don't really know them they haven't been invited. X
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Sep 11th 2015
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    It's absolutely fine to not invite people who invited you, you decide based on how close you are to potential guests.

    We had a rule on plus ones that unless they were in a relationship for 6 months or more or were going to not know anyone else they didn't get a plus one. We didn't want to pay £140 for a complete stranger to attend our special day.

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 11th 2015
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    We didn't allow plus ones for single guests at ours. No one expected it. If a guest had a partner that we hadn't met the partner was invited, but we didn't give every single guest a date. As for people who's weddings we had attended, it wasn't an issue for me because all the weddings I've been to were people who I was still close to at the time of the wedding. However I'm sure there were a couple of people whose weddings my husband had attended who didn't get invited. Sometimes if a wedding has been a while ago people drift apart in the meantime.

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 11th 2015
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    Yes. No 2 weddings are the same. We went to my husbands cousins wedding but we didn't invite them in return. It was not out of malice. They had alot of guests and we didn't. I'm sure if they had the amount of guests we had, we wouldn't have been on their invitation list
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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 11th 2015
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    I saw a pic on book face and have uploaded it to my photo album. It's tongue in cheek, but it made me think of this thread. It made me laugh x

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Sep 11th 2015
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    Lol that is hilarious!

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    • CarolH81
      CommentAuthorCarolH81
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 12th 2015
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    Haha that is so funny, tempted to send it to somebody but will be good and hold back! x
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    • HelenC944
      CommentAuthorHelenC944
      Posted: Sep 13th 2015
     
    I find it difficult when HTB doesn't want to invite people, but I feel we should; such as a friend from university's husband who neither of us know...I guess the etiquette would say to invite him?
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    • FutureMrsW
      CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 13th 2015
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    Yeah I can't help feeling really obligated to invite some people due to the whole etiquette thing, and I know that if I were invited to an old friend's wedding but couldn't take the OH, then I would feel rather sad and lonely on the day. Yet there are definitely people I really wouldn't invite if I felt I could 'get away' with it. Such an awkward situation :\

    Maybe we'll get a lottery win and then numbers won't matter as much \o/




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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 14th 2015
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    You invite who you want to invite, at the end of the day it is your wedding. I invited some to my wedding and would not expect an invite to theirs, one uni friend is getting married next month, she's not invited me to hers even though she went to mine, people should not expect it

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