So so so so angry just now! Just been to see our local priest to see about getting permission for OH to marry me seeing as I'm not catholic... he was such a t**t! Firstly, told us condescendingly that we're on the road to hell for living together. Then was surprised that I was polite and mannerly for a non-catholic (he more or less said as much). Scoffed when I said we wanted to do things the right way and pointed out again that we are living in sin, asked if my MIL2B knew we live together... seriously does he think I hide in the shed everytime she's round? Then when talking about our son he dismissed the conversation as if my son was the ultimate sin.... it took everything in me to hold my tongue - 1 because I didnt want to make my OH feel uncomfortable and 2 because I knew if i said anything he'd put it down to not being brought up catholic! Complete bawb! Not to mention the fact that when my OH said his name was Barry, the priest made reference to the IRA member Kevin Barry.... totally inappropriate! He also told me that he was sorry he hadnt answered my callls yesterday, he knew I'd rang and rang but he was cheering on the rugby... obviously got his priorities right!
Going to contact the priest at the church we're getting married at, explain how our meeting went and ask to do the authorisation request through him - I never want to have to speak to that ignorant old man again!
Sorry for the rant but I just feel that I'd never let anyone speak to me like that normally and I will not apologise for how we choose to live our life to some jumped up old sh*tebag!
J xx
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
Is he going to be performing the ceremony?
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CommentAuthorpanther_87k
it annoys the hell out of me how people think they can behave like this! hope you wont have to deal with him again, there must be a way around it
CommentAuthorlaurabrown83
Unfortunately hun you will find that some catholic priests are very traditional and really do not like the reality of people living in sin and having kids out of wedlock etc. Especially the older ones! Hope the priest at the other church is nicer and more moderna and understanding in his opinions :-) x
CommentAuthortweedwedding
I can't believe people like that are still around! Well done you hun for holding back and being the better person! x
Not the first time ive heard of that happening, poor you. Hope you find a nice priest to marry you xx
CommentAuthorJill
Hey thanks for your msgs, no he wont be the one performing the ceremony thank god (so to speak lol). The priest at the normal church we go to is lovely but had said that as we're not in in his parish area (we go to H2B's home town) that we'd need permission from our local priest. It's not our normal priest doing it either though as we're getting married in my home town, but the priest there was lovely when we spoke to him too. This one was just so rude! I sat thinking that I couldve said to him he was right, we're headed for hell so if thats the case we'll leave, not have the religious ceremony, not take our son to chapel and live a good old sinful life where neither my H2B or son follow the faith. I'm half expecting to see him in our front garden exorcising the demons and praying for our souls! It's people like him that put people off the chapel - narrowminded, ignorant views. Told MIL2B about it and although i wont repeat what she said, she swore like a trouper saying she'd have brought him down off his pedestal with a few choice words... and she's the religious one lol
So anyhow, thanks as I needed to get it off my chest! Just bought loads of new wee clothes for my son too and that's made me feel loooooooooooooooooads better (even if it is probably another sin to have done so).
Jill x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorsuzky123
thats diabolical. I wouldnt have him any where near my wedding. Another example of someone making a religous ceremony difficult
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CommentAuthorGriff
I hate priests like this they are not showing the level of tolerance and expectance that they preach to their congregations. This acceptance and love is the corner stone of their religion so I never understand how they can think they are above it like that! Luckily the priest at Mikes church (also catholic) is lovely and as mike lost his nan not so long ago the priest is 100% backing our getting married xxx
CommentAuthorricky
This type of behaviour is one of the main reasons I would not consider getting married in a church. If you believe in God then God is supposed to be everywhere. If you don't believe in God and the only reason you are getting married in a church is for the 'photograph' opportunities then I feel that is hypocritical and is making light of people who do believe. Won't rant any more but so much tosh is spoken in the name of religion!!!
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
what a d***head. id put a complaint in about him x
CommentAuthor*D*a*n*n*i*
im sorry to say but thats cathloics priests for you!! its a strange world we live in and no offence to your OH but i lived in ireland for a while and the amount of headlines there were about catholic priests being pedo's !! and in one case wen one of them pleaded guilty the church goers still raised money to get him out of prison!! strange strange people lol i just think religion is a waste of time i dunno lol civil ceremony you cant go wrong lol
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CommentAuthorKimi
I'd be spitting feathers at him and probably would have said something like "so I guess we cant reconsummate our relationship as soon as you've finished the ceremony then" meaning right there and then - just to dig the dagger in a little more.
I have no time for people like that any more. I get plenty of people telling how their faith is the best. TBH I have no issues with faith I just don't want it shoved in my face.
I work in a CoE school and if I want I can wear my pentagram or a cross (collect crosses because I like them not as a faith thing) or anything else. They don't push their religion on me and I don't push my religion on them. If the kids ask I tell them but it rarely comes up.
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CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
At least he won't be performing the ceremony! When my brother got married (we are non practising catholics), he was living with his wife and had a child. It's a real shame that people like him put people off getting married in a church.
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CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
omg!!!!! i would have told him where he can shovve his rugby game!! cheek, that is so rude!! no wonder you are so angry i would have been too! he sounds like a bitter miserable old man, who quite frankly shuldn't be doing what he does if he cant even be bothered to pick up the phone when someone calls, but would rather sit and cheer on the bloomin rugby!!! no other word for it, he is just plain ignorant and rude! grrrrr
CommentAuthorJill
Thanks everybody... cheers me up knowing that I'm not alone in thinking he was an ass!
Ricky, I'm not religious, wasnt christened but my H2B believes and I know that he wants to do it that way even if he wouldnt push it. The photo's at the chapel we're getting married in would be rubbish anyway - we're getting them all done at the reception - I think one of the big things for H2B is to be able to take part in the religious events for my son - take communion when my son makes his first communion etc and not made to sit like a leiper (spelling?) when everyone else goes up coz we're sinners lol
I do have good news though! Phoned the priest at the church we're getting married in, explained how the local priest made me feel (politely though) and he couldnt have been nicer! Told me not to worry at all, that he thought it was admirable that I want to do it this way for my family and that if need be he'd sort the paperwork for us, despite being in a completely different diocese. He said (and I quote) 'if he was pissed off at having to do the paperwork he couldve asked you to make a small contribution seeing as you dont attend his parish'. So feeling much better about it now. Couldnt sleep last night for thinking about it and told H2B this morning that if I was met with the same attitude again it wouldnt be happening! I think he's a little relieved!
J x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Then they wonder why people lose their faith. Glad that you don't have him on your big day.
CommentAuthorJill
Thanks hun. I totally agree - it annoyed me that I felt like I was giving something, agreeing to bring my child up in the Catholic faith then this ar$e was throwing it back in my face. I was really torn last night thinking about it, replaying in my head what I really would've like to say to him lol x
