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    • SissyS
      CommentAuthorSissyS
      Posted: Jun 18th 2014
     
    I am having an very alternative wedding This aug, but have a very traditional family & the thought of them being there is stressing me out so much that I haven't invited them yet! I swing wildly from thinking that I should invite them, all will be fine & they will enjoy themselves , to thinking I will be awful & the stress will tip me over the edge lol! We are quite close but only see each other once yearly, & they r all posh & judgemental, whereas I & my partner & friends are a bit wild & individual & definitely not posh! Please help me decide! Xxx
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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 18th 2014
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    Sorry hun , don't think any of us can make this decision for you.

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 19th 2014
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    This really is a decision for you to make. My side of the family, especially cousins and one if my siblings are quite chavvy and to be honest even though I get along well with them I know they won't mingle very well with my OHs side and also our friends. We are inviting them but I do know that a few members if my family might get a bit rowdy and colourful with their language after a few drinks however I've decided I'm not going to worry about it as it's unnecessary stress and I feel I might be overreacting a bit. Likely the day will go perfectly.

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 19th 2014
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    Don't invite them then... But be prepared for backlash either way your decision goes x

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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
      Posted: Jun 19th 2014
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    Only you can make that decision hun. I know your wedding day is for you and H2B, but are you prepared for the backlash if you don't invite them? Unfortunately it's your choice, only you know how close you are, how upset they might be and how alternative your wedding plans are. Surely if you're close, they will be happy to see you happy (or am I wearing rose coloured glasses here?!?!?) There are always going to be posh and judgemental people, but will it affect the happiness of your day? Hope you can decide and not stress too much xx
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Jun 20th 2014
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    All I can add is if you are as close as you say they will enjoy your wedding for no other reason than it's YOUR wedding.

    You say it's an alternative wedding but what do you mean ?

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 20th 2014
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    I am only inviting 4 members of my family, but I don't have a close family. You should ultimately do what you want. There will always be consequences to whatever decision you make, but it is YOUR day, it's up to you.
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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 20th 2014
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    Is it because you don't get on with your family or you are all just different? If its just difference in likes/interests then I wouldn't say to not invite them, I'm sure they would want nothing more than to be a part of your wedding even if it's not to their taste. If its because you don't get on then that's a different story that only you can decide x

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 20th 2014
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    I agree with what everyone else has said, if you didn't want to invite them because you didn't get on then I would say def don't invite them, but to be honest if you are quite close then I would still invite them if the only problem is you think they have different tastes to you. But only you can really make that decision as only you know what they're really like.




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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 20th 2014
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    if we invited people based on who has the same tastes we do, we would literally only be inviting a handful of people. Your theme has nothing to do with anyone else, its supposed to reflect you and h2b. my mil has outright said she doesn't like our theme, but had to concede that it does reflect our personality, so why should we have all hearts and flowers just to conform to what is 'expected'

    i can't imagine anyone being rude to you at your wedding if you are as close as you say you are. some people should just keep their opinions to themselves. My mil included!

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 21st 2014
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 21st 2014
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    Velcro.

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    • Katya
      CommentAuthorKatya
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 21st 2014
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    the fact that it is different to the "norm" is what would usually get people talking & mingling a bit more... it will be beautiful no matter what you choose to do... & the fact that it is not the norm will mean that people are more llikely to remember it a bit better. Sometimes its better to deviate from the public view of what is normal.

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