I havent been on here for a while as thinking about the wedding scares the hell out of me.

I'm currently working two jobs, - 1 full time and 1 part time - have 2 kids and I'm absolutely shattered! H2b doesnt help out lately at all. I'm not coping and despite telling him this, nothing has changed. I come in from work and cook dinner, make packed lunches, iron clothes, wash kids and get them ready for bed and H2b comes in a relaxes. Then there are some nights where I have to go back out to work my part time job and if not, I'm generally doing the housework. I also work Sat and Sun too so I never have a day off.

All this just makes me think that H2b simply doesnt give a s**t about me. I love him to pieces but I'm hurting so much right now. Keep thinking I may be better off on my own. Sorry ladies, just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading xxx

I agree with bridalmiss, sometimes you just need to give people a little nudge and they will be fine, even if he doesnt help out with the wedding, he could help out with putting the kids to bed and running a hoover around the place. good luck.x

Me and H2B have had this very issue in the past (slightly different working circumstances though) and I had the very same thought that I was better off alone.
I sat him down and pointed out how I was feeling (under-appreciated, lonely etc) where I thought things were going wrong and stated that if things didnt change or at least he started to make more of an effort to try, we wouldnt be together for much longer as it wasnt fair on me. Think I termed it as 'a single parent in a relationship'. When talking I was truthful and it hit him for six at how depressed it was making me and how serious I was about spliting up from him despite the fact that it would of sent me into a complete mental breakdown and slowly things have got a lot better. We occassionally back track but work around the issues surrounding it.
As bridalmiss said, talk to him and give him the chance to sort himself out and prove to you that he does want it to work (I gave kerrian a month and if I didnt see any change, we would spilt) and see how things go. That way the ball is in his court, then if you do split (HOPEFULLY NOT!!) at least you can say you gave him a chance. xx

some men get so wrapped up in their work that they seem to forget when they come home the place isnt tidy because some fairies flew in and done it or that the kids get fed and washed etc all by themselves! it just doesnt register how much is done to them cos they r not there seeing it! when i get to that point of feeling like hes not doing enough, i stop doing it all, yes the house starts looking a tip and yes its annoying but feels good when he starts asking 'wheres my work shirts' and i say 'on the floor where u left them' lol then they start to think how much u do. either that or i go very quiet! my oh knows when theres something wrong when im not talking cos im always talking so that gets him thinking about what he could possibly have done! lol hope this helps, but best of all tell him straight out u r doing so much around the house and for the kids and working and u would like to relax for once, good luck x