Sadly my Husband to be's dad died before he was born and ive noticed that hes getting rather upset that his dad wont be there, i totally understand what hes saying! His Mum has being with her bloke since my h2b was young, so it seems acceptable that hes on the top table with her, the thing is my partner and him have never seen eye 2 eye really, hes lived alone since he was 16! My partner, my dad & the best man will be in Black suits with Cadbury Purple cravats. I was talking to my mum and said do you think His mums partner should be in the same as the others?As he is on the top table and is one of the wedding party! What do you girlies think? I asked my h2b what he would like and he said hes not sure, as he doesn't want people to think hes his dad.. But then he said yeah i think he should be in the same, Hard Hard Hard thing. Feel so sorry for him!
Another thing, My h2b has asked his brother to be best man! which i was totally fine about. This morning my h2b came back off the night shift and we were talking about his best man and he said he thinks he just going to tell him not to bother about being best man as he cant reply to messages hes sent to him, i get where hes coming from as had to let my Maid of honor go as she wasnt the slightest bit interested!! Anyway i asked him who he would have instead and he says he don't know, he's just started at a new job so isn't close mates with anyone, Its such a shame about his brother! I know how much it means to him especially without his dad being there:( Don't know what to sat anymore, Just in case i say the wrong thing:(
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Yes I do think that his step dad should be in the same as the rest of the male side of the party , I understand that they don't get one brilliantly but he has been the one who " brought him up "
There may be a reason the brother isn't replying to txt , try ringing him
i think he should be wearing the same as well... I really don't think he should get rid of his best man especially as its almost a year to go! people generally will never be as interested in your wedding as you are, he probably just thinks its ages away! i would never get rid of anyone now I have asked them to be involved (unless for a life or death reason)as I just think it could cause a rift and if someone did it to me I would be so upset/angry. why don't you try and include his dad in another way...I am having my nans rings as my wedding ring, we are going to put my parents and grandparents wedding photos on display to honour the memory of those who aren't there with us on the day. maybe he could have a photo of his dad on display or even in the pocket of his suit or have something that belonged to him on the day?
CommentAuthorVelcro
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i wouldnt ditch the best man, especially with a year to go. he's probably just being a bloke about it all. my htb has only just shown an interest in the wedding, and thats the groom, so id just advise him to sit on it for now and address it nearer the time
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CommentAuthorAmyK
Our best men still haven't shown an interest other than coming to our house to try suits on - its a man thing!! You could always offer h2bs step dad a coordinating tie at least - I've got them for the men in my family, including my stepdad x
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CommentAuthorcasbride87
im in a similar situation, my dad passed away 4 years ago, my mum has been with her partner for a year, we are having him in the same as the grooms men as my mum has chosen to be with him, we are having a picture of my dad on the top table where he should be, maybe talk with your h2b and speak about how you can include his dad in the day aswell if he wants to?
