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    • KirstieP2B
      CommentAuthorKirstieP2B
      Posted: Jan 21st 2016
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    Hi, this is my first time posting here so hi everyone.

    I was thinking of having me, my fiance, both sets of parents and my little 'brother' and 'sister' who are 6 and 7 on the top table as my parents will obviously be looking after them on the day. I spoke to my mum about this and she's worried that my fiancé's family will think I'm favouring my family over theirs. This is definitely not the case, it's just that I won't be seperating any children from their parents on the day so don't think it would be fair to separate my younger 'brother' and 'sister'. What do you think? Xx
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    • CherilynH13
      CommentAuthorCherilynH13
      Posted: Jan 22nd 2016
     
    I haven't got as far as the top table but the last wedding I went to was my aunt's and she had her, her partner, both parents, all the groomsmen and the bridesmaids and me at the table with her and no one thought she was favouring anyone
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    • StephH96
      CommentAuthorStephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 22nd 2016
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    Hi Kirstie, welcome :)

    Just have a quick word with OHs family, say something like, 'you don't mind if .... are on the top table do you as we aren't separating kids from parents'

    I don't think it's unreasonable, I should think they would be OK with it once you explain why.
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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 22nd 2016
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    I think that's a good idea for top table, not sure why ur oh family would think that maybe if they had kids same age and they weren't on table then fair enough. Are they bridesmaid and pageboy for you?mir so then defiantly not a problem as many people have them on top table. I've decided we are having me n oh our two daughter my mum n dad my oh mum and his best man on top table as his dad's not with us anymore and my moh has a young daughter and I don't feel right seperating them at meal time. As long as you and your oh are happy go with it. His parents will be there so I wouldn't worry too much x
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    • KirstieP2B
      CommentAuthorKirstieP2B
      Posted: Jan 22nd 2016
     
    Thanks for the reassurance. My 'sister' is my flowergirl and my 'brother' will be one of my page boys. My OH'S nephews and nice are also going to be in the wedding party but the venue isn't big enough to have them all on the top table and I wouldn't want to separate them from their parents as the youngest is only 4 xx
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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 22nd 2016
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    If anyone says anything just say all kids will be sat with their parents :) as that's all that you are doing and if they take it wrong then that's their issue. We are only having some of oh nieces and nephews as flowergirl and page boys as don't have enough funds to have all of them so chose the ones we actually see enough and have some relationship with x
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    • KirstieP2B
      CommentAuthorKirstieP2B
      Posted: Jan 23rd 2016
     
    Yeah that's what I'm planning on saying, just don't want to upset anyone. My fiancé has three nephews and one neice so not to much hassle to include them xx
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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 23rd 2016
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    Could you maybe talk about the table plan when they are present and maybe ask them if they would prefer to sit with certain propel so they are aware of where they will be sitting before the day and who will be where so it won't be a surprise and you won't need to worry then :) x
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 23rd 2016
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    I don't think that's unreasonable as his parents are on the top table too. Speak to OH and to you in laws. I can't see anyone complaining x

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jan 23rd 2016
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    They're so young so can't see why it would be a problem. Maybe speak to them to see how they feel and also explain why you want them on the top table.

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