Wedding Forum - How much??...

Hi Girls,

Ive had my bridesmaids over last and I told them I want to go abroad for a long weekend for my hen do, how much do you think people would pay for it? I dont want to see a hotel I like and have my heart set on it if its going to be way out of budget. So far I have 9 confirmed people and 3 that haven't replied yet xx

thats really good! who is it through and when? x

If it was a good friend organised well in advance id pay a couple of hundred. Im finding sorting my hen out a nightmare!

me and another BM have been looking at prices today online, unfortunately you cant get prices for any mroe than 9 peopleso will have to go into the travel agents at the weekend. We are thinking that it will prob cos the same for 4 nights as it would for 7, for some reason it often tends to be cheaper, so she has suggested a girly holiday incorporating my hen, and maybe spend ing about 250-300 for a week, all inclusive if we can get it x

We've priced up mine for Majorca,3 nights all inclusive for an August weekend fri-mon is coming up around £196 pp x

I think it really depends on their financial situations hun. Personally I couldn't afford to go abroad as I just don't have the funds to and nor do quite a few of my friends, however I have other friends who would think nothing of spending £200-£300 on a hen weekend away so only they can answer how much they would be prepared to pay for it really, sorry not much help I know xxx

I am already having 2, one here for the others that arent able to go abroad, and also for the older people, going to travel agents on saturday x

I think as lots of the above posts have said: if its a good friend then i would probably be willing to spend up to £200/£300 depending on my situation at that time!

My hen is a week on Friday and my close friends have all paid £150 for the weekend (going to London) and then will need more for spending! Also having a local hen for other friends that arent maybe as close or who couldnt afford it!

If it was me i would defo get some rough prices for different destinations and see what everyone says! :) Hope it all goes well :) xx

I have just had mine and felt bad that the accommodation was £30 and the mini bus was £23 - we went to Whitby for the Goth weekend. Personally I think going abroad is a lot to ask friends to pay out for especially as they will no doubt be paying again for things for the wedding.

Have a look on travel republic, we are going to benidorm for 3 nights all inclusive including flights and insurance for £250pp

I know someone who got really upset and resented the fact she was pretty much forced to pay £350 for her FSIL hen, for which she was also a bridesmaid. Her FSIL is a doctor and all her friends are also doctors or in other very well paid jobs, my friend earned about half of what everyone else did and struggled to afford it but couldn't let her down so suffered financially in silence.

It's just really unfair to expect others to pay so much, unless you know they can all afford it.

Not sure I would be willing to spend £150 for one night. I'd happily pay that for a weekend away somewhere. If its going to be too much for you could you maybe suggest the two of you go out for another hen do another time and do something a little more purse friendly?

Hopefully she should understand not everyone is well off and can afford so much. That is why my Hen was broken down into parts so people could pick and choose the bits they could afford to come to and want to join in on, that way everyone was included. It was lovely to see so many come out for my Hen weekend but not all at the same time, some came just for the night out, others came just for the spa and some came for both, then some of us stayed in the hotel too.

Costs of hen party's can spiral, there's always the hidden costs no one thought of and the last thing anyone wants is to be resented by friends for having a hen people can't really afford but feel obliged to pay out for. I fell out with a bride who was having a full day of chocolate tasting and a meal out in the evening. I asked if I could just come for the meal out because the chocolate tasting was costing £35 per person (this was about 9 years ago) and I am allergic to dairy which meant that actually I wouldn't be able to taste anything given most chocolate will have milk etc in it. She basically ignored me after that, so I didn't go to her hen or wedding! To me it was upsetting that she couldn't understand I had an allergy which meant I'd be paying money which at the time was a lot to do something I couldn't participate in. I made it clear I would come for the dinner later but she just turned. Makes me upset and angry now just thinking about it.