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    • Myranny
      CommentAuthorMyranny
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I've been thinking about wedding speeches quite a bit lately. Obviously my dad will be giving a speech, as will H2B (though i think that will be short and sweet) and H2B's best man.

    However, I also have a best man and he mentioned the other day about needing to start work on his speech so he'd have perfected it by the time the wedding comes. I hadn't really thought about it, but I had expected him to give a speech.

    In addition to that, I had also wanted to give a speech. Nothing major, just a few words, and I pretty much already know what I want to say and it's likely to be less than 5 minutes. So I just wondered, how many speeches is too many?

    It sounds... well, weird, but i don't want 4 men to stand up and basically talk about me/us and our wedding. i feel like I should be saying something, and I wouldn't ask anyone else to not say anything.

    Does it matter how many people give speeches? I've been to VERY few weddings as an adult. One of which the best man gave the worst and frankly most painful speech I have ever had to sit through. It lasted 10 minutes and I swear to God he said less than 20 words. Completely unprepared, and only he and the groom spoke. At the other, there were 3 speeches, one of which was hilarious and it was kind of nice. Is it more about the time frame in which speeches are given than the number? How long are you ladies allowing for speeches? xx
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I don't think it really matters how many speeches you have.. obviously the traditional speeches are from father of the bride, the best man and the groom, but I know what you mean about wanting to speak for yourself as well. I have thought about making a speech as well but not sure yet. I'd say 5 speeches wouldn't be too many - if it's what you want then that's all that matters! We're allowing half an hour for all speeches and we're having 3 (maybe 4 if I make one) xx

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    • Zoe.L66
      CommentAuthorZoe.L66
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    You can have many people as you like giving a speech, I'd have the people that mean most to you ask them to keep it short and sweet if you are having a few then other guests won't get bored or uninterested :). Xx
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    • *The NewMrsMalin*
      CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I don't think there is a time limit as such but speeches are better if they are shorter; We were allocated around 15 minutes for speeches so I think 15 - 20 mins is average.

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    why dont you spread them out ... one before the meal one before dessert and the other two after the meal ?
    and give each a 5 mins tops slot

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    • Myranny
      CommentAuthorMyranny
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    Good idea lala, I think that might be the way to go. Will speak to my dad but might be an idea to have him go first, 2 best men before dessert, and h2b followed by me at the end before Casino starts.

    I didn't get bored at my uncle's wedding, I think that was about half an hour but they were also good speeches. Lol.

    I think just asking the question has made up my mind. I don't want to limit anyone too much, if they want to say a lot, especially my dad. My best man and my H2B I know will keep it pretty brief anyway. 4 out of the 5 are good speakers too, just H2B that's not so good so I think it will be okay. And most likely will total under half an hour.

    If anyone gets bored well... they can bugger off. Hah. xx
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    I like lalas idea x

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 9th 2015
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    Agree with lala. You don't want them all together, people may end up switching off, spread them out and limit the time, even five mins is a long time speaking. Just say it does not have to be that long but no longer.

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    • michgib
      CommentAuthormichgib
      Getting married in 7 months
      Posted: Jun 10th 2015
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    Brilliant idea lala
 
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