Little rant. Trying to organise stuff for the wedding and anytime iI ask H2B for his opinion he just agrees with whatever I say or just tells me to get on with it. I booked the first venue veiwing the other day and he was just like yeah ok just remind me when it is. Not sure if he just is not that bothered about what type of wedding we have or where just so long as the costs remain low. I love him but sometimes I would happily put my hand round his neck lol xx
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
That is probably nearly every single H2B on here that has more than 6 months to go !!!! Some of them with 2 months of more from waht the girls have said !! Honestly, my H2B is exactly the same ! He's an absolute pain in the A !! You'll get times where your H2B gets really involved and then the next day he'll be really distant again because he's remembered how far it is away ! It's just (most) blokes for you ! Mine hasn't even bothered looking at the sample pics from the photographers we have meetings with, he just says book the one you want ! But if he doesn't like them when we meet he'll definitely have something to say then ! And when we were walking around our venue, I was saying awww do you love it, I love it, do you love it and he was just like 'Yeah it's nice...' They really don't have the same mind set as us.. I really wouldn't worry about it, and just trying not to strangle him lol.. Even though at times it is very tempting!!! xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
So glad it is not just mine then. Think I am gonna get my mum to come to a venue for a peek about at the weekend seeing as he is too busy lol. I am sure at some point he wil get excited I just feel that all I talk about is the wedding But once I get the big things booked then he can go back to not thinking about it xx
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
I'm afraid that's exactly the way it is and the exact reason this forum was created !! Lol.. We will be here day and night to be excited with you :-) And I'm sure the girls that have gone from 28months like you and me down to getting married on here can give you a rough timeline of when his interests will perk lol.. I've given mine the duty of the cake, something to put cards in and the suits.. Two of which are now complete surprises for me until the day lol.. Apparently he's nearly finished the card putter inner, so maybe give him something that is souly his that he could get excited about ? Lol.. xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorRachaelC80
Being over two years away he probably can't even see your vision??? We started planning our Wedding 7 months ago. As soon as we set the date I asked him about the suits, presents , music etc?? He just kept saying its too early, I haven't thought about it??
Just over 6 weeks away and all he talks about now is the Wedding, ringing his BM to make sure his suit has arrived, texting me music choices for the signing of the register, checking seating plans on line!!!
I'd love my h2b to be like that, we've had countless disagreements over things we've booked because he is sooo involved in the decision making! I'd love him to take more of a backseat to the planning so I think count yourself lucky lol... I think he'll become more involved as the wedding gets closer, think he doesn't feel the pressure yet even though the day itself will come round a lot quicker than he probably thinks x
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I don't mind him being laid back, I honestly don't. I just wanta little excitement from him and a little bit of an opinion. Iwould hate to have our wedding and then a few years down the line he turns round and says I really wish we had done this or we hadn't done that. xx
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
When he realises things are turning to actual things and not just plans, his opinions will become truer.. Like I said with mine and the photographer.. His opinion will come out if he doesnt like the person.. Most of the guys don't see it as we do.. xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
Thank you Georgi xx
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
It's ok :-) Always here to help xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorcarnally
You are definitely not alone. We got engaged in December 2011 and are getting married in October. I've found that thorough the planning process, if it's something that he's interested in, he'll have an opinion. Everything else, I get the same response - yep, that's grand/fine.
I wouldn't worry about it all. Try to involve him in things like the entertainment/music, cars, honeymoon and suits.
The wedding will fly around. Also what I've found is that men get more interested in the big things. With the finer details, thats usually left to the bride.
Good luck
CommentAuthorRachaelH78
My h2b dosent seem interested at all! Ive just learnt to accept it now! Lol. He will do certain tasks if i set him something but it has to be quite small and he takes a while to do it which frustrates me anyway! Maybe once the stag do is out the way he'll be more focused! xx
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
lol he did get excited when I bought him his kilt. A bit early I know but it just happened he was trying one on to hire for hs friends wedding next weekend and I had just gotten a bonus at work. Anything else he just shrugs his shoulders. I guess you guys are right he will let me know about the stuff that really interests him xx
CommentAuthorNicoleee_x
aye my h2b isn't really bothered tbh. he's looking forward to us getting married but all the details, venue, flowers etc he's not fussed about at all.
CommentAuthorclive
Not *all* guys, thanks you! :-))))))
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Don't worry Clive we're not tarring you all with the same brush! My H2B and I are pretty equal on the planning. One or other of us will take the initiative on getting quotes for something, but we'll have a good discussion on it before we make the final decision together.
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CommentAuthorKatherineR45
mine was the same until we actually started to go to book things then he started to show more of an interest x
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
Do you have any tips Clive? it would be appreciated but clearly you want to plan which is why you are here xx
CommentAuthorVelcro
Appolgies if this has already been said as i skimmed through the replies, but it's 28 monthsaway, he WILL be interested but much much nearer the time, and I think sometimes, regardless of how far away it is, we need to remember that some men just wont get swept away in the excitement of it all like us women, especially if youre starting to talk flowers and centre peices at them.
My chap is interested, but it's still too far away for him, he's got himself set on overtime and paying as much as we can this year off, and then will concentrate on planning and stuff next year. I DO know he would definately have an opinion if i suggested something and he didnt like it.
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CommentAuthorSarahB814
My h2b was exactly the same, saying yes and nodding at the right time. He was interested in the point of getting the money together and if i did suggest something he didnt like he soon piped up. However its only been in the last month hes actually showed real interest in the wedding, tho i think hes still more interested in going to blackpool after! rofl
CommentAuthorclive
Cathryn;...Apart from the 3.30 at Kempton, no, not really! Lol.....
It's easier said than done,I know, but don't get stressed out. The time spent doing that could be put to good use sorting out what you were getting stressed about in the first place. Best tip of all though is to enjoy it! :-)
Get the major things booked first (Photographer, venue, cars, reception). if reputable, these are booked up to 18 months-2 years in advance.
Elinor: That's the best way to be. There's no arguments then.
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
Clive how did you know I worked in the bookies? Although if you have a tip for the 3.30 kempton it would be appreciated (or any other race as I lost £12 on the national)
I amsure you guys are all right. As we get closer and when it comes to actually putting money towards something he will get more involved and excited. Hopefully once we see our first venue he will have an opinion xx
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Try not to be upset if he doesn't get as excited as you though.. When we went to see ours I was soaking it all in, bubbly and excited and all I got was 'yeah its nice' and 'yeah I like it' and I pulled him up on it and he said 'if I didn't like it, I'd say so' So if there is no objections you're good to go and just enjoy your excitement ! Or take your mum as well for someone to be excited with like I did haha.. Xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorFinally Susan B
Mine drives me nuts - always watching footy or something when discussions are going on.. then few weeks later saying "would be nice if we had x " arghhhh after we've already booked or ordered y
Up until we gave notice with the registrar I had hardly any input from him (except to sometimes ask the cost lol ), which adds to the other posters experience that he'll get involved when it feels 'real'
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
The only money mine wants to know about is his budget for the cake !!! I am wedding planner and bank manager in one ! Lol xxx
I can't wait to become his Wife :-) <3
4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorStephF5
My H2B is hurrendous i have organised everything and arranged every trial and when ever I ask his opinion he says whatever you want because im always right (good start really) haha but gets frustrating the next thing is to tick off booking the honeymoon and asking his opinion on it is getting harder i like lists and he goes whatever you want i am like F**ks sake man!
CommentAuthorGemmaB596
Is there anything that he is particularly passionate about that you can put him in charge of? For example, my other half loves cars whereas, to me, a car is something to get me from A to B. A car doesn't bother me, but for him it is something he can get quite excited about so I've told him that he will be in charge of transport. I think I have been quite lucky, however. I do need to remind mine to contact certain people or look at certain things sometimes, but at other times he is also the one who will initiate conversations about different ideas he has had, and will be honest if he doesn't like the sound of something.
CommentAuthorMrsM12
My Husband was EXACTLY the same ' what ever you want dear' 'Do what you like' it really pee'd me off... However I should have known I was with him 6 years before we got married he has ALWAYS been the same and he's still the same now. I'm that used to it now that I tell him he HAS to make a decision. lol