i havnt been on for a while and i wont be either, me and my now ex have broken up and it is very messy indeed. my dad dropped our son off to him earlier and i said he was to be dropped back by six pm. he never answered this but he knew he had to be back, he has since been emailing me saying hes not bringing him back and il see him in 8 days! i really dont no what to do, me and my son are staying with my parents as he wont leave the flat (its a council flat) and i have to go to the CAB tomoz.
i would like to thank everyone and i will pop in from time to time xxxx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Awww no thats so horrid of him how dare he seperate a child from his mother. If the break up is messy fair enough but when one partner uses a child as a weapon against the other thats just not nice! there is a chance the police may be able to force him to return your son as a friend of mine had to do this but her ex had taken her son out the house without her permission so i dunno if that was a contributing factor to the police helping, but it may be worth a shot?
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CommentAuthorEma
Oh thats awful chick. How dare he bring a child into it, thats not at all fair on your son. I guess your better off without him. I hope you manage to resolve things and move on in life with your son. Big hugs xxx
CommentAuthordizzydora4
i think by the sounds of it you are both much better off without him. ring the police and get your son back, he should not be seperated from his mother hun x x
CommentAuthordebs x
Go to a solicitor and get custody of your son, I had this problem 15 years ago and had to fight through the court to get my two back from their father cos I didnt have custody, dont know if its changed now though but get legal advice - hope it all goes well hon x
Like the others have already said, contact the police. I hope everything gets resolved quickly hun and I am so sorry to hear of your bad news :( xxx
CommentAuthormrselbie
Go to the police, oh sweetie you must be so hurt :( I am so sorry he is behaving this way :( It is just the worst thing someone can do in a break up, use a child against the other partner.
CommentAuthorHellsfire02
contact the police hon, but if he's on the birth certificate i dont think there's much they can do as he hhas as much right as you do concerning your son, I'd be setting custody in motion as soon as x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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When i first seperated from my ex babe he did exactly the same every time he had them he phoned texted and said i would never see them again they were going to live with him or he would bring them back when he was ready not when i wanted blah blah blah. I phoned the police but because he is their dad they couldnt do anything which meant there was nothing i could do but wait and hope :-( I went to my solitor and started divorse procedings straight away for adultry and got them to do a custordy order saying that they llive with me and when he has them he has to bring them back by such and such and if hes anymore then half hour late then i can get the police to bring them back.
As for the council house they will NOT give a single man over a women with kid/s a shared tenacy house so phone them and explain the situation they might be able to help BUT unless he signs over the lease to you then they cant really do much (my friend is trying to get her ex out of their joint tenacy council house at the mo but till he signs hes sleeping on the couch, not ideal but thats the council for you) SO my advice solitor FIRST thing in the morning for a custody order to be put in place then go from there hun. GOOD LUCK
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CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
Most council's do not do joint leases and the flat should be in your name only. If you explain the situation to them, they may be able to do something but at the moment he is living in your flat with your son. As everyone has said, you need to get some professional help. Good luck.x
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CommentAuthordebs x
How old is your Son honey, cause what happened to me is their father told them to tell the police (cos I called them first) that they wanted to stay with him and I couldnt do anything, he got a custody order and I had to fight it, it took me over a year to get my kids back even though he had during that time been taken back to court by me for non-accidental injury to my Son, the courts did nothing cos he had the custody order and I didnt, now they are settled and grown up and have never forgiven him for what he did as they lost a year with their Mum all because he wanted to hurt me, good luck and hope it all works out for you x
CommentAuthorSuzi
Awww hun... I think he will bring your son back!!! I would contact the police and tell them what he has said (just to keep a record of it) and see what they suggest but I think you will find they will tell you to wait until 6pm... Hang in there, I think he will be back x
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CommentAuthorGoff
Ring the police - now!
The longer he keeps him the less it will go in your favour when you go to court.
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CommentAuthordebs x
Have you got your son back hon, been thinking about you all afternoon x
CommentAuthorfelicity.h
hey. i hope you have your son back. im pretty sure as your not married. being the father or not you have alot more rights that he does when it comes to the children. thats what the registrar told us lol. he obviously has rights but if hes ment to be bringing him back but just texts you to say you'll see him in 8 days then im certain the police can get him back to you. but deff agree get a custody order sorted straight away, before he does. Hope it gets sorted. x
CommentAuthorHellsfire02
hey hon, hope its going ok and you've got him back x
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
oh hun thats awful cant imagine how your feeling right now. i would get a little book and make a note of this and any texts etc he sent as you may need it in court later xx
