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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 13th 2017
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    hey ladies,

    so ive never been on a hen do before (apart from my mums when i was like 7 lol)

    im leaving most of the planning to my 3 hens ive just given them an idea of what id like, and there will probably be 8-10 of us in total there. Do i pay towards stuff? we are doing a long weekend in essex, im not bothered about fancy hotels etc but im not sure if im to contribute to the hotels and events we do? Obviously im happy to pay if brides normally do!!

    Thanks x

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    • Wundatigga
      CommentAuthorWundatigga
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 13th 2017
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    I am not sure what the done thing is either, but I am paying my own way, but I am planning my own too to not sure if that makes a difference.

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    • CommentAuthorLoz K
      Posted: Jan 13th 2017
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    I think you should go into it as if you are paying for it. Your hens will probably pay for everything once you're there (i.e. drinks, etc), or sometimes they try and split the cost between them so that you don't pay anything, but I wouldn't rely on that as each set of hens are different, plus it depends on what they decide to do!
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    • FayeH
      CommentAuthorFayeH
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 13th 2017
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    I believe that convention is that the bridesmaids should all chip in a little extra to cover your costs for the hen party, but as Loz said it would be prudent to assume that you are paying for yourself and put money aside for it in case they aren't aware of that.
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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
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    thanks ladies :) yea ill definitly set aside money and will be more than happy to pay my way! I just have watched some programs on tv and sometimes the bridesmaides all chip in, so ill see how it goes! xx

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    • Wizbit89
      CommentAuthorWizbit89
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 13th 2017
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    I have literally zero ideas of what is happening on my hen , my maid of honor has a facebook group which I created and added my 10 hens too (she gave me a limit based on what is being planned). I made this group then left and handed her all admin rights, I now cant see or be involved in anything so who knows lol

    maybe I am a bit too trusting haha
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    • CommentAuthorClaire1978
      Posted: Jan 14th 2017
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    Just booked our accomodation for my hen night in Liverpool August Bank holiday. We are staying in a windmill :-D
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2017
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    I wouldn't expect others to pay for your share of the hen do as whilst it may be the done thing it may not be fair if bridesmaids/hens are not in a financial position to do so. I say this because I've literally dried the tears of a bridesmaid before who couldn't afford her own costs towards the brides Hen weekend, let alone contribute towards the brides costs too.

    You will probably find though that you will be treated in some way by your bridesmaids and hens depending on what they can afford, from buying your food and drinks, maybe organising a surprise, to if they can afford it paying for you 100%.

    Bits of my hen were paid for by my bridesmaids but I certainly didn't expect it. I did pay for some myself. Same for my sister, I pretty much paid for most of her costs when it was her Hen but she bought everyone drinks by ordering and paying upfront for them.

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    • MrsC2Be
      CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
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    Definitly, ive set some aside and asked them to just let me know what they need from me and when :) i honestly wouldnt mind as i dont expect, im grateful they are planning it and thats totally enough for me! xx

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    • CommentAuthorClaire1978
      Posted: Jan 15th 2017
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    I just want the girls to come to min, thats all I ask as we are all spread out all over the UK with being in the Armed Forces. I cross my fingers :)
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2017
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    I'm with IDL on this one 100%.

    Although it would be nice of them to do so it cant be expected. They will treat you to what you can afford.

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    • KathleenO17
      CommentAuthorKathleenO17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 16th 2017
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    I wasn't expecting for them to pay for me as there is only a small group of us. My OH has had to pay zero to his and decided where he was going before my plans got moving. Both my OH and myself have offered to pay for me but they just won't budge so I will be getting them a present and treating them when we are there they because I do feel bad that they are paying for me on top of paying for themselves.

    I am such a control freak usually so it is really weird relinquishing that control to someone else but my MOH is good and we have really similar tastes so I know it will be good. We are going to London for the weekend - somewhere I have yet to go so should be good. Regarding the money once the plans are in motion just ask them to tell you what they need from you and then hopefully they will tell you then x
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    • List Of LifeH
      CommentAuthorList Of LifeH
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