A friend of ours has sent H2B a message today asking if he can sing at our wedding. He heard we are having a band and would need to use their system. I have never heard him sing and ive known him for 5 years so this has come as quite a shock. I dont know if he is any good but I do know the sort of music he likes and he would not be the kind of act we would book at our wedding. We dont know how to turn him down without offending him! I was thinking of saying there is no time between the band playing and the DJ as they are just playing their set and leaving for the DJ to begin. What do you ladies think?
CommentAuthorclairenina
If you feel uneasy about it, as your wedding is only 6 weeks away, you could always tactfully let him know that the order of the day is already organised, and you don't want to make any additions at this late stage.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
If u feel bad turning him down, why not just ask him to come round and hear him sing first,then you can decide?x
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I would ask him what he wants to do as you feel uneasy as you know the type of music he likes. or if he does not want to tell you , ask him to tell your MOH and she won't tell you what but will let you know if its appropriate.
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
Honestly with 6 weeks to go I would just politely say 'thanks but no thanks'. I wouldn't ask to hear him sing, or what he might want to sing, as that just opens up a can of worms potentially eg what if you ask to hear him and he's terrible? You're then going to be faced with saying 'No, sorry' and it's going to be obvious it's because you don't think he's very good; similar goes for asking what he would like to do.
Music is really important to us and we're agonising over all our playlists to make sure there's a good atmosphere all day and night. Aside from that, our wedding is not a karaoke/free for all; we want to listen to the musicians we've hired and paid for, not our friends and family (harsh as that sounds); if he sings, you might get other people 'wanting a go' too. In short, if someone I'd not heard sing asked me 6 weeks out if they could sing, it would be a definite no.
In terms of how to turn him down, I would probably just say that we're finalised our playlists with the band and/or that they won't perform with outside performers. Another option would be to say you don't want other people asking to sing too, so unfortunately you're going to have to say no. Just be polite and nice about it, thank him for the offer etc, but stay firm.
I agree say that there is no time between the band playing and dj starting... you could also say that the band won't allow him to use their system... as they probably wouldn't to be fair for insurance purposes.
CommentAuthorBecky1608
Good post Barbie! I agree with the other ladies about telling him the timings and DJ already organised xxx
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CommentAuthorShowgirl
Completely agree with Barbie! The only person allowed near a microphone at our reception will be the DJ.
CommentAuthorStephanieK77
Thanks ladies. Its such a bizarre request! I used to a lot of singing myself but would never just ask to sing at a friends wedding unless I did it professionally at the time and had my own equipment. I think i will use a few of them in case i need the extra excuses!
