Okay so this is my first rant of wedding planning, thought I could avoid the stress but yesterday everything got blown out of proportion. I was looking at wedding cars for myself from the hotel I am planning to stay in to the ceremony. H2B asked if we were getting transport for the guests from the ceremony to the reception, I started looked at ideas and got a quote for a big red London bus. I thought we could use the bus to transport me and my bridal party from the hotel, then go from the ceremony to the reception with all the guests on the bus. H2B loved the idea and so did I. So we rang his mum and I asked question like does the reception venue have an archway? Will it be a waste of money? Will people use it? She said that most people will want to drive to the ceremony then to the reception then back home again. I thought this was fair enough and told H2B, he got so annoyed saying no cared enough about our wedding to pay for taxi's. It would make the wedding look cheap people driving, no one will have fun with so many people not drinking due to driving. He then went on to say we should just cancel and have our wedding in a couple of years when we have a wedding budget like his cousins. Her wedding cost 38 grand, we don't have that kind of money to spend on a wedding. I tried to reason with him saying the only thing that mattered was us getting married and us having a good time. The date we are getting married means a lot to me so for him to just want to cancel really hurt my feelings. Its not like we have a small budget we are spending 8 grand and most family members are helping us out with doing us freebies (I have family members in the wedding industry) and paying for things (my mum paid for my dress).
I'm just worried now that maybe he is having doubts about our wedding, I don't want him to think our wedding is cheap and no body in his family cares.
Is he being unreasonable or am I not being sensitive enough to how he is feeling about not wanting people to drive?

I think he's being unreasonable. I couldn't give a stuff whether we had a budget of £100 and got married at a bus stop, neither could H2B. We're spending £3.5k max and that includes 2 weeks in Egypt! Maybe he feels inferior because his cousin spent so much - but he needs to remember that the memories, meaning and enjoyment of the day are absolutely nothing to do with how much money is spent xxx

why on earth would anyone (even if they are wealthy) spend 38k on 1 day?? I know the costs soon mount up, but that's a crazy amount. It's your wedding and not his cousins. You aren't being cheap, you are still spending alot on your special day. It's not about money. You can have a wonderful day without looking cheap. Sometimes throwing lots of money at the day can make it look tacky (you only need to look at David & Victoria Beckhams wedding lol)

My wedding is going to come in around the £12k mark. I will be organising transposrt for guests who dont want to drive but will ask them to contribute and we will pay the outstanding balance as we want everyone to have a good time. Pay for the bus as guests will appreciate the extra effort just let them know on the invites that you have hired transport from the ceremony venue to the reception venue as there may be some who drive and then say they dont want to go on the bus as they will need to take their cars or pay for taxis back to te ceremony venue to collect their cars. I think we under estimate how stressed out about the wedding our fella's get. Sit him down and give him a shoulder rub while you discuss it. I have used this trick to keep my man calm before in discussions i know could get quite heated xx

Sounds like he was just having a bit of a stressed moment. Glad it got sorted. X

I think he is most concerned that he wants it to be perfect for you seeing as you found the bus and it was dismissed in a way. I think he more did it because he cared more than he didn't, you know what men are like! Glad its sorted. X

I've asked our guests to RSVP back to say whether they'll need a seat on the coach I'm booking for them - hardly anyone has said yes! So of course, I've thought the same as you, about most people driving and not drinking, but it turns out they're just planning on abandoning their cars at the reception venue and collecting them the next day.
If you chose a coach or mini buses, would that be cheaper for you? (There's only 3 miles between venues for us, so there really was no point in doing anything expensive for our guests.)
Maybe a compromise like that could demonstrate to your fiancé that you're thinking about money & that there's no need to save up to spend what is quite frankly an enormous amount of money on your wedding day just because his cousin did.

oh for heavens sake, he needs to get a grip ...tbh who cares that his cousin got married where prince Charles did ...surely the most important bit is that you are getting married rather than how much money you can throw at stuff. if people dont want to drive i presume as adults they can make the decision to either use taxis - car share - or stay locally...

and sorry but what all this rubbish that the cousin could only use one venue ? why was she banned from others ?

i organised two weddings one in usa and one here and only spent 6k .....

we're having vintage double decker buses for our guests and the ones I've told it to luv the idea 38k is ridiculous (thats 50% of my mortgage) we have a budget of 12k which we consider a lot of money if the date means something to you as well i'd stand my ground forget what his mum says i'm pretty sure most people will luv the idea xx

Perhaps we should simply remind our other halves that it doesn't matter how fancy anyone else's wedding is - his bride is the loveliest which trumps them all!!