May sound like a daft question, but I'm not sure what to do about handling gifts etc.
I'm unsure if either side of our families do gifts or cards at weddings but if any do - we'd really prefer they avoided physical gifts since we rent in quite a small flat so don't have the room for it but will be saving to buy our own place. But I worry putting anything about it on the wedding website/in the invite will come across cheeky and like we're expecting something from them?
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach it? Maybe a wording suggestion to gently communicate that if folks feel inclined to gift us anything, we'd appreciate money to help us build up a deposit?
Met 2004. Together 2007. Engaged 2012. Tying the knot 2017.
CommentAuthorFlossie
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We will be asking for contributions to go towards our honeymoon.. we were going to put a poem in with our invitations but I've changed my mind now as think they sound too assuming. We're just going to put a simple statement on the invitation.. something along the lines of "Please do not feel obliged to get us a gift, your presence on our wedding day is more important to us both. However, for those who insist on a gift we would be very grateful for any donations, all of which will be put towards our honeymoon that we are planning to take later in the year. There will be a post box at the venue for cards." (this was taken from someone else, we will probably re-word it a little).
We will also put this on our wedding website :)
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorSarah D
There are lots of nice poems you can incorporate if you G00gle it you will see loads xx
Became Mrs Duthie 7th October 2016
CommentAuthorEmmaG
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We have this on our wedding website :)
We’ve lived together for quite a while, With all our pots and pans, And as we don’t need homely gifts, We have another plan! We know it’s not traditional, But it’s easier that’s for sure, To have no wedding list at all, Your attendance means much more! For those of you who do insist, We have a savings pot, A small gift to add to this, Would really mean a lot!
I then have added that we saving for a minimoon to see The Northern Lights :)
Soooooo excited to be marrying my Best Friend !!
Life is Wild, Love it Live it !
CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
I personally don't like poems they ramble on for too long and them just ask for money at the end.
We have a small flat too.
We just put your presence at our wedding is the best gift you can give us, however if you would like to give us a present a gift of your choice or a donation towards our honeymoon would be very greatfully received.
I didn't really like all the poems that were about so I copied parts from 3/4 different poems and made our own personal to us, but making sure it mentioned that the most important thing was that our guests there instead of gifts. When I showed MIL she said it nearly made her cry LOL?! x
Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Just put a note to say that you don't have a gift list and don't expect presents however if anyone wants to give a gift a contribution to the honeymoon would be much appreciated. They don't need to know the money will be saved for a deposit x
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorAlishaN
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