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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    I'm sorry but I really need to have a rant!!

    OH has just messaged me to tell me he's planning his own stag do and its just going to be paintballing and a few drinks (happy with all of that have always said to him he can do whatever he likes!) A few months ago I was having an in depth conversation via book face with his Best Man and he seemed really in to getting things sorted for his stag do - I don't mind OH doing it but he's absolutely useless to the point where I more or less do everything, run it past him and he gives me the money for it. Anyway he had all these ideas and all this enthusiasm for it - I now find out they actually haven't spoken to each other for about 4 weeks now when I get a call from BM wife asking if he is in fact still best man......!
    I've now got this worried picture in my head that I cannot do the stag do as well as everything else but at the same time I don't want him not to have 1. Tried to speak to OH but all he's said is not to worry things will be fine and he'll sort it but I cant help but think 'oh god not something else'!!

    Ahhh I'm feeling a bit better now I've thrashed this all out on my keyboard!! haha xx

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    Kayleigh tell your OH to call his BM and sort it out between them its mad that they haven't spoken when they are that close..

    It will sort itself out but you shouldn't have to arrange it. either way he needs to speak to his BM before the wedding so why not now :)

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    • TanyaS78
      CommentAuthorTanyaS78
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    ^^ Beat me to it! They can talk it out and even sort the stag between them. It doesnt HAVE to be the BM who sorts the stag do alone. I know of a few grooms this year that have given a helping hand with their stags. Theyve preferred helping out and having an idea of whats going on
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    I'd tell your OH to speak to his BM as soon as poss! The BM might think he is responsible for planning the stag so you don't want them to duplicate plans - men are so relaxed about this sort of stuff! You shouldn't need to step in and plan anything though, let them get on with it. It will all come together eventually just sometimes takes men a little longer lol xx

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    • Becci93
      CommentAuthorBecci93
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    My partner hasn't even chosen a best man yet so I feel your pain; I'm sure they'll sort IT out before the wedding but I'd tell h it's stressing you out thinking of it so can he just sort things out for your sake x

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    OMG why oh why are you worrying about his stag do .... if he doesn't pull his finger out then he doesn't have one ....simples.

    the more you do stuff for him the more he relies on you to do it !!!!

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    • ErinP42
      CommentAuthorErinP42
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    Yeah don't stress it's his problem to sort not yours (& everything will turn out fine and you're OH will be like told you so)
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    • Sarah D
      CommentAuthorSarah D
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    Agree with the other ladies get him onto his BM and don't stress like Lala says if he doesn't pull the finger out then he wont have a stag lol

    My H2B hasn't even picked his BM yet and I keep asking him to decide so he can ask them lol xx

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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    Ah its just such an annoyance probably doesn't help the mood I'm in today either lol!!

    OH is happy to do it/help hes just shut himself down in regards of talking to his BM - I've already stepped in once with them 2 and sorted it out their just so 'blah' about it all and doesn't seem to care lol!! Bloody men haha! He even got that irritated about the whole thing he said he wouldn't even have 1 - I swear men are worse then women sometimes! xx

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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    True lala!! Think I'm just letting it all get to me at the moment and this seemed to be the icing on top!

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    • RachaelB76
      CommentAuthorRachaelB76
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    iv decided men are useless when it comes to things like this. just send them both to the pub to make up and organise the stag x




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    • LadyC
      CommentAuthorLadyC
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    I don't think it's important for the BM/MOH to arrange stag/hen dos. I would much rather arrange my own. Having said that, it isn't fair for you to have to arrange it.

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    • DanielleS0709
      CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 29th 2015
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    Oh the joys of men!! I'm the opposite I'm worrying cause OH is planning 2 stags, one here and one in Spain!!! With no thought of how much it will cost!! Grrr lol

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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 30th 2015
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    Oh god Danielle it makes me feel a bit better now!! lol

    Well I spoke to OH last night and basically gave him what for - he's contacted his BM for a meet up to fix things and has started looking at prices for paint balling etc. I'm not impressed yet as we'll see if it lasts or if it soon fades out lol!! xx

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    • Sam G 2b May 2016
      CommentAuthorSam G 2b May 2016
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 30th 2015
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    Haha what are men like Kayleigh! My OH will be lucky if he gets a stag, he doesn't have many friends so will mainly be the men in the family xx
 
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