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    • InDreamland
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    Watching DTTB. How come the groom is already wearing a wedding band on his wedding finger during the planning?

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    • Becci93
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    How old is he em? 12?




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    • Becci93
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    I'm not watching it .. Going to have to watch it after corrie now!




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    • InDreamland
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    Finished work at 6:30pm but still so much work to do. Plus promised I'd bake a birthday cake for a colleague on Wednesday but no time tomorrow so I have to do it tonight.

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    • Emmilou82
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    No Becci 8 and a half.....

    I've tried everything, no console, no pad, early to bed, sending him to his room, a good hiding...... Nothing works!!

    I told him tonight, I want to walk out the house and never come back. He cried and I cried

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    • Becci93
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    That's young!

    I thought someone had said they had a 12 yo playing up so must've been someone else. Have you spoken to his school?




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    • LeanneR0186
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    Aw emmilou sounds like you've had a rough day. Hugs. Has LO's behaviour only changed recently? x

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    • Emmilou82
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    Not spoken to school but I might have to to find out what's going on!!

    It's been these last few weeks especially. I asked him if it was because of OH but he insists its not. I've tried to talk to him and get him to open up about anything that's troubling him but he says nothing is wrong.
    It's as if he can't handle frustration and he just flips.... I'm physically having to battle with him sometimes just to even get him to do anything... Bedtime especially.

    I'm not sure if it could be hormones...... I think he's too young but I just don't know.

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    • MichelleC961
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    Poor you Emm- must be something making him like that tho :(

    Maybe he's sees you and OH stressed over all the court case stuff and doesn't know how to help?

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    • MichelleC961
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    Yeah IDL - to have a wedding there and so public- I would be screwing...

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Aww big hugs Emma. Can't be easy only having OH there at weekends when you really need him.

    Would he talk to your OH when he's back? Could it possibly be because you're his mum that he doesn't want to open up? Also is he like it when he sees his dad?

    I cried earlier as LO has been such hard work these past 3 days. Yesterday I cried to OH. I just broke down and said I couldn't do it anymore and today id just had enough I just cried but then LO knew he'd done wrong and came and gave me a cuddle.

    Think we both deserve a break xx

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    • Becci93
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    Speak to school and she what they say em, he might be getting bullied and too ashamed to say or something... Best to try and nip whatever it is in the bud for both your sakes .. I agree that 8 and a half seems too young for hormones ... Probably a more simply explanation




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    • Becci93
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    Night ladies ...

    Not looking forward to three days in Liverpool away from home :( leaving ozzy is horrendous especially when he watches me from the window until the car is out the street :(

    Guarenteed tears in the morning I can just feel it!




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    • MichelleC961
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    Aww becci- no tears for leaving OH? Lol- have fun in Liverpool xx

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Aww bless you. Have a safe journey x

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    • MichelleC961
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    Just watching news- feel so sorry for all those who have lost everything in Carlisle :(

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    • MichelleC961
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    Also feel angry re the Glasgow bin man lied several times about blackouts!

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    • Emmilou82
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    Morning ladies....

    I slept well last night but I think a cr@ppy day had exhausted me!

    I might get OH to talk to him and see if he opens up. He sometimes has a bad attitude with his dad but to be fair, his day only had it once a week so probably makes no difference to LO.

    I'm thinking of making a reward chart for his behaviour. It has worked in the past and I'll let LO chose the pattern of his actions.

    Hoping for a better day whatever lol

    Hope Liverpool is ok Becci, 3 days will fly by

    Michelle, it's hard isn't it. My stress and anger always comes out through tears so I feel for you xx

    MichelleC, I think you could be right. LO hearing us talk about court and seeing the stress caused may be an issue for him.

    I will try and get to the bottom if it, somehow!

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Good luck Emma

    I had rubbish nights sleep. LO kept coughing and I was still awake at midnight. Gave him some medicine and a drink and he seemed to settle but then I was wide awake.

    I was so warm last night too so that didn't help.

    LO still asleep but will wake him shortly as he's at nursery this morning....peace and quiet

    Got some ironing to do and going to wrap the last of the Xmas presents I think

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    • MichelleC961
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    Morning all- I'm so tired- couldn't get to sleep for ages then when I did, OH came to bed at 2am having fallen asleep in the sofa :(

    Emm a reward chart seems a fab idea! Get him to make it and colour it too :-)

    With prepping for the open day last week and interviewing all day yesterday I've hot loads to catch up on, including the monthly figures report that was due yesterday- told them it would be late so have until tomorrow!

    Have a good day all xx

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    • Emmilou82
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    MichelleC I hope your day goes well for you. It's awful having so much to do and playing catch up too

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Went to bed at 10pm, woke a couple of times in the night, once when hubby wake me snoring and then again with a bladder the size of a lake. Next thing I know I hear the doors shutting downstairs and it's 8am! Oops. Got up and got my boy up, needed that sleep

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    • Flossie
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    Morning ladies, so tired again today! I was absolutely shattered yesterday and thought I'd sleep like a baby but I never. Was so exhausted last night after going to my mum's appointment with the dressmaker - who knew it could be so complicated deciding on a dress?! She's putting more consideration into it than I did my wedding dress! Colours, shapes, fabrics galore..... my head was spinning by the time I got home!

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Ahhhh that's nice though Flossie, she wants it to be super special.

    I did take a couple of my tablets last night before bed last night to make sure I slept good. I'd not been asleep long when hubby me me through my ear plugs snoring, thought I would have to get up and sleep on the sofa, fortunately I never or I would have been a right mess this morning,

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    • Emily17
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    Morning all.

    An update on OHs family.

    Got home to OHs house last night and I had some work to carry on with. Phone rang and it was fil. He asked to speak to mil but she was asleep and he put the phone down on me. I asked OH to text him and he said he didn't want us there when he got home that he didn't want me in their life anymore. They wouldn't even talk about it. It's so horrible being told that you are hated by people that you love. We spent 3 hours packing what we could and filled both cars. I didn't stop crying for all of it. At one point I gave OH his engagement ring back and said that I don't want him to leave his family that its me they don't like and not him and he said that I was his family and he would follow me anywhere. He promised me that he would still go and see them. There isn't any room at my house for all our things at the moment so its all still in the car. With the decorating it's really hard to have any space. I have the vibration plate and dads guitar in my bedroom so no room for everything else too. I felt so embarrassed getting to work this morning as my laptop was at the bottom in the book so I had to take bags of clothes out of the car so that I could get it. We still need to go over there to get the rest of OHs things. His TV and games machines, a mirror my great uncle gave me. Some of his clothes all of his shoes. His life. I don't know where to put it all.

    I don't think I have ever been this low. I was already struggling which is why I tried to sort it out but now I can't actually see a way out. To make it a million times worse its OHs birthday today. I have my appointment today and he has football so I wont see him until 9pm. They said that they don't want to know me and don't want me in their life. I hope that one day they will call me, to get back in touch but I seriously doubt it.

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    • Emily17
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    Emma a reward chart sounds good.

    Flossie its lovely your mom is putting so much thought in it.

    Michelle, I am so sorry your LO is playing up. It cant be easy with everything you are going through.

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    • Flossie
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    Oh Emily, that is awful of them!!! I know you must be feeling really low at the moment but I do think it's a blessing in disguise - things will work out for the best, and if they don't want to know then it's truly their loss. Sending hugs xxx

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    • Sarah D
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    Morning ladies

    I had a decent sleep only wakened once

    I had a nightmare with work yesterday they have accepted my resignation and I don't need to work notice period, I had my desk to clear out which I was told I could do, I called yesterday to arrange it to be told it's been done for me and it's boxed for me to collect, my desk was locked so they have broken the lock and emptied it, so annoyed with there actions as it was my personal stuff, but they have missed few things like my first aid book and a notepad I had lists written on but they haven't gave me it, if it was the notepad they wanted to keep why not tear off my bits with writing on! Also heard my boss has now moved my desk out and binned it and moved his desk to take up the office, I feel like this was defo a hidden agenda and what they have wanted all along thank god I have now left, just need to hope my final pay is correct now xx

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Omg Emily, wtf? What is wrong with them? Hugs to you, sounds like you need them.

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    • Sarah D
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    Emily in sorry to hear that, what an awful thing for them to say, I agree with flossie too defo a blessing in disguise. Sending hugs to you xx

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Sarah that sounds strange, seems like you are doing right to get out of there,

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Aww Emily I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. It's their loss at the end of the day. You've got your OH and a future to look forward to. I know it must be hard at the minute but it will get easier. Sending big hugs xx

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    I agree with GF Sarah x

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    • Sarah D
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    There such a strange company and think this behaviour is normal I technically am still there employee until the 24th so why they have done this is beyond me! It's just rude to go through personal belongings and to break the lock is so out of order! Fresh start for me and I couldn't be happier xx

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Well said Sarah. It's their loss that they've lost such a great employee.

    It's ridiculous that tbey couldn't just wait until you came in to collect your things

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    • Emily17
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    I just cant stop crying. I don't know what to do. My head just keeps spinning with what we can do to make our lives as comfortable as possible. My parents have been great. And have offered to clear out some drawers for us to use. They have said they will tidy the loft to give us more space. I just feel so empty and alone. Am I really that bad a person.

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    • Sarah D
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    Thanks Mrs wade, I honestly was so shocked when I was told what they did and my desk was turfed in the bin! Shocking

    Good riddance xx

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    • Sarah D
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    Emily your not the bad person it's them who should be ashamed of there behaviour

    You have oh and that all you need it's there loss and hopefully one day they will apologise to you xx

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    • Emily17
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    Thank you Sarah x

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Emily, you are not the bad person, you have tried to reason with them, they have been unreasonable.

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    • JennK
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    Oh big hugs Emily :( We are all here to support you!

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Whizzed around and done the housework, out my work uniforms in the wash (they really need to be done separate from other stuff), straightened up in the kitchen and put the cups and bowls away. No plans at all today until later when I have parents evening for my daughter. Had my youngest's report through and she is doing great, on target and has great attitude to learning.

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    • Sarah D
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    I'm meant to be at the gym with h2b but he won't get out of bed! He's got until 10 and I'm going myself lol

    I need to sort out the dishwasher as the sink is full and the dishwasher is full of clean dishes I just couldn't be bothered emptying it last night! So lazy I know lol need to hoover today too and put some washing away so will get that done once were back from the gym xx

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Not sure if it is just my house being really warm or if it's mild out (I've not been out) but I've had to open the windows, feels too warm and stuffy indoors. Need to go get showered now though, just happy chilling on the sofa with th iPad though

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    • CommentAuthorJoannaS
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    Emily big hugs that's horrible and you aren't a horrible person. If you haven't got room at your parents for everything how about one of those storage units they are great my sil used one for a while before she went to New Zealand xxx
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    • Glitterfairy
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    Hopefully Emily, you can sort out your own place rapidly, if it's a new build and there is no chain either side, hopefully it won't be too long.

    Need to sit down and compose an email for the school today, I'm certainly not letting this slip away.

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    • Emily17
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    Thank you everyone. OH asked his parents for a break to Amsterdam for his birthday but I doubt he'd get that now. I just looked and its far far too expensive for me.
    We said that to them Joanna. Obviously we have cancelled rent to OHs family and will pay it to my parents but have said that if we are struggling can we reduce to pay for a storage unit. We can use my aunts garage without her knowing easily enough so we have there too. Will probably put all his cars etc. in there.

    The new builds aren't ready until July GF and don't think they are good value. We have a few others lines up though.

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    My sister just text me and asked what we doing about bridesmaids? I text her back and said you told me you didn't want to be bridesmaid when it all kicked off with her and OH so there is nothing to sort. She asked whether I thought the wedding was the cause of the stress with the wedding. She's really starting to p!ss me off keep suggesting it's my fault why my mum is the way she is

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    • Emily17
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    That's not fair Michelle. Not sure what to say though. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what has made your mom unwell all that matters is that you support her and each other in helping her get better. I remember you said o your mom what your sister had said and she told you it wasn't the case. Just ignore her. You know the truth and will be there to support your mom with whatever she needs. If she wants to be petty and appoint blame then its her mistake.

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    • Glitterfairy
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    Mrs MW, I am sure that if you sat down you could blame each other, your sister could be at blame for being the way she is with your OH, it could be anything, but what needs to be done is to be strong together to help her through it.

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