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    • Emily17
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    Fab news Emma! Really pleased for you. When do you start?

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    • MrsEmmaP
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    I started on 21st June haha so been here 3 weeks now! Feel so relieved and like I'm not under pressure anymore! X

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    • Emily17
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    That's brilliant!

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    • CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
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    Glad it's going well Emma.

    Any news for you Emily with the 'other' job? Sorry if you've already said and I've missed it, things move so quickly on here and I can't always keep up ha ha.
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    • Emily17
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    Yeah, I am going in on Tuesday next week to spend a half day with them then they will decide.

    I have been thinking though and I am so unsure what to do if I am offered it and then have to choose..
    Both have different pros and cons and I just really don't know!!

    1st job:
    +closer to home
    +no travel
    +good progression route (3 monthly appraisals)
    -Not as keen on company
    -not as keen on initial role
    -can see flaws in the business processes already (but part of my role would be to make suggestions for improvement)
    -/+unsure about colleagues

    2nd Job
    +Love the role, is right up my street
    +company is a great one to work for
    +have met my direct colleagues and can see how they work and relationship is great
    +considerably more money
    -further to travel
    -regular travel required for role
    -minimal space for progression

    I just don't know whats best for me! URGH :(

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    • CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
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    Oh gosh, that's a tough one, to me though it sounds like the second one is where you would be happier and at the end of the day, we all need to be happy in our work as it's where we spend most of our time unfortunately, plus it's more money.

    I know there are downsides to it but you just need to decide if you can live with the extra travelling more than anything. Tough choice for you.
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    • Emily17
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    It helps seeing it written down like that.

    My heart is telling me 2 but my head is telling me to go for 1 for a few years. Get the experience and then I can look for something else in 4/5 years.

    I just don't know. Need to have a good hard think and chat with OH!

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    • Emily17
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    Part of me hopes I don't get the second one as will make it so much easier!

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    • Flossie
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    Either way, at least you're getting out of where you are now!!! Good luck with it all - I am sure you will make the right decision whatever that decision is xx

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    • Flossie
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    Great to hear from you Em - thank you. Congratulations on your new job, glad it's going well xx

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Congrats on the new job Emma

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    • SusanM34
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    Brilliant news about your job Emma! xx

    Emily, I would just wait and see how Tuesday goes. You might have different feelings about it then. xx

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    • MichelleC961
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    Evening all- been flat out today- lots of the office not in due o Eid so been manic all day!

    Paid deposit for wedding tonight and then sat and cried my heart out at the thought of my mum not being there. I text my mums best friend and she rung back straight away blubbing too- mum woukd have loved all the excitement and buzz and planning- she was the sort of mum who would say yiu have to do what's right for yiu- she woukd have to be involved but you woukd set her a task and off she woukd go on her merry little way and come back full of surprises :-)

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    • MichelleC961
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    Sarah my dad is off walking in Cairngorms tomoz! Love it up there- we used to have a timeshare in aviemore so was home from home when i was a kid x

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    She will be there in spirit helping you Michelle. Sending big hugs xx

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    • MichelleC961
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    Thanks Mrs- I know she will- just tough- all the firsts were tough but this is going tomreallybtest me and I think I just have to push myself and think how much she woukd have loved it and keep that at the front- not what she's missing xx

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    • MichelleC961
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    Murray in tennis flagging a bit- hope he finished before footie on!

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    • MichelleC961
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    Down at the bottom of my garden .....

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    • InDreamland
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    Michelle x

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    • InDreamland
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    Emily, for all the negatives what are the things that could mitigate them? Even if there are no internal prospects of progression you can get progression by moving organisation, that's usually how I've moved up the ladder and got better promotion and salary increase. Go for what is best for you in the long term x

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    • Sarah D
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    Evening ladies

    Michelle that was my first time up there is was lovely!

    Had a wonderful day and now I'm exhausted off to bed after we take pooch for his bedtime walkies

    Xx

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    • InDreamland
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    Portugal win! That's me still in the office sweepstake.

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    • InDreamland
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    EC if you see this, sorry!

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    • Sarah D
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    I had a bet on wales idl gutted

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    • MichelleC961
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    Gutted for Wales- hate portugal- especially Ronaldo!

    Hate France too so cmon Germany!

    Sarah Cairngorms are just stunning- every time I go to dads and go up to braemar or ballater I forget just how beautiful it is snd how lucky I was to grow up in that part of Scotland!

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    • InDreamland
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    Oh no sorry Sarah.

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    • InDreamland
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    I reckon France will win because it's home turf (don't want them to win though).

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Morning

    Tired today...tossed and turned thinking of all the things we've got left to sort for the wedding and everything we've still got to pay for.

    LO at nursery this morning and I'm having my nails done

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    • Emmilou82
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    Morning ladies...

    Slept ok last night, but still not great

    Got huge anxieties again due to me and my blooming insecurities!

    So OH now works closer to home so comes home every night (bonus).... He has however joined the local gym which he goes to straight from work. Uses the gym, goes swimming, uses the sauna.

    Can you remember that girl who got me soooo wound up about OHs stag do? Well guess what, she goes to the same gym. I'm not sure if OH has seen her there yet or what times she goes etc but it's making me edgy!! I know she's messaged OH a few times via FB message cos on the home screen when I've come home at night, I've lifted the cover and seen it! Nothing bad on the messages, just general chit chat....... However, naughtily I've been in his FB messages and they are deleted!! Why? Why would he delete them?? If it's just chit chat why delete messages?? I'm doing my own head in!!

    I can't say anything cos I shouldn't have been looking in his pad! Why do o feel so threatened by this girl?? I've never even met her, I don't know her and she's probably a lovely person.... Why am I so on edge......

    I can't be doing with this anxious, horrible, sick feeling everyday.

    I'm being ridiculous and making something out of nothing but I just can't shake it off!!

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Oh no Em. I don't think I've got anything that I can say to make you feel any better but we are all here for you xx

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    • SusanM34
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    Maybe a bit of the problem could be because you have never met her! I think I would feel the same way Emm. I remember the girl you are talking about, but I can't remember how you said he knows her xx

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    • Emily17
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    Is this the one who wanted to go on his stag do?
    How do you know she goes to the same gym? Depending how you know that maybe drop into conversation has he seen her yet...
    Is it nice him being home every night?

    Went to meet our other neighbours yesterday and amazingly, in the 9 years the other couple lived there they not once went round to see them and introduce themselves! Shocking really.
    They were so happy that we had gone round which is lovely.

    Finished the Bambi novel yesterday and I can honestly say it is nothing like the film at all! No thumper, no Flower. There isn't even a skunk in the book full stop.
    It was really lovely though and had me in tears! Bambi's dad dying had me in tears more than his mom. In the film he doesn't die at all. Cant decide which one I prefer more.. book or film
    Started the sequal this morning, Bambi's Children this morning and my first edition copy is in much better condition so I'm reading it from that :) Love the smell of an old book!

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    • Emily17
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    Thanks for the comments re jobs everyone. A LOT of thinking to do but I'm sure Tuesday will help me. If I am the slightest bit tentative following that then I know what I need to do.

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    • CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
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    Oh no Emma - sorry to hear you're having a tough time over her again. She must know he's getting married at the end of the month and you obviously trust him so you have to assume it's just general chit chat. Maybe he deleted them thinking that it might bother you if you saw them, without thinking that it looks even worse that he's deleted them - men just don't think and they don't understand the female mind.

    I wouldn't be able to hold my tongue and would have to ask him about it, even if he complained that I shouldn't be looking. At the end of the day, he shouldn't care if you look at his ipad as there should be nothing to hide anyway and you can say that you stumbled across them initially and saw that it was her again (and he knows how you feel about her after the stag do issue) so you looked, simple as that. At the end of it all, you're marrying him so looking at his ipad (after finding something that roused your suspicion) shouldn't really be an issue.

    Hope you get to the bottom of it hun x
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    • Emmilou82
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    Thanks ladies.... I hada few tears this morning and spoke to a good friend at work who basically has said what you have said....
    He more than likely deleted them knowing it would p1ss me off.... Anyway, at the end of the day, they go to the same gym, They are friends, i need to get over it. Im intimidated cos shes hot and i have low self esteem..... Hes marrying me and he loves me and i know that. Im just being silly and insecure. Im due on so im tetchy anyway....Ill get over it.

    We spoke about it on Tuesday cos i said 'I see she goes to the same gym' and i told him i felt inadiquate and not good enough and he assured me which i DO know and believe already.... Im being silly.

    I think ive got a lot on at the moment and im just slightly unnerved but Its fine!

    He gives me all of his passwords anyway as he has nothing to hide and wouldnt care that i had looked.... I just feel wrong for doing it!

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    • Emily17
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    The weather has given me an awful headache. Finding it hard to hear through my left ear and feeling dizzy. Isn't helping that there are building works going on next door so can just hear constant drilling and banging

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    • CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
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    Do you know what her circumstances are? Is she single, in a relationship, engaged or married? It could turn out that she's with someone then you would probably feel better about it? Like you say though, he's marrying you and he loves you. You might have low self esteem and not love yourself but he loves what he sees and in this case, that's what matter.

    For what it's worth, I think you look lovely :)
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    • DanielleG93
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    aww emmi hun we all have days like that, i got like that when my oh started the gym, now i go sometimes with my daughter and i have a completely different view of the place. i honestly thought there would be girls flocking all over him but then i joined and realised its not like that at all, barely anyone talks to anyone, i say hi to the personal trainers who sorted mine and my daughters inductions out and thats it

    Emily i am the same with the weather and headaches maybe a thunder storm is rolling in? that is usually the cause of mine when they are not stress related haha and as for the building work its annoy as hell isn't it? our neighbor is having an extension built and it is has been non-stop banging and drilling for the past 2 months from 7 am - 5pm even on bank holiday monday they were here at 7am it's driving me up the wall i'm trying to avoid her so i don't get angry to her face

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    • Flossie
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    *hugs* Em! You may think you're being silly and that you need to "get over it", but if it upsets you then it upsets you, that's not your fault! I am sure your OH deleted the messages as he knew you'd be upset if you saw them, but if he knows it'll upset you then maybe he needs to do his bit and stop talking to her as much? I have to agree with Susan that part of the problem could be that you haven't met her. She might not be as intimidating/threatening as you think!!

    This week is just whizzing by, can't believe it's Friday tomorrow. Definitely been chucked straight back into the deep end work wise... boss said he really wanted to give me a quiet first week back but workload just hasn't allowed it. It's sure made the days fly by though, wish every day was like this.

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    • DanielleG93
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    i'm glad i'm not the only one to think this week is flying by. maybe you can have a quiet week next week flossie haha

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Been for a 5 mile walk with LO trying to lose a lb or two before my dress fitting tomorrow. Came home and LO wanted to go and feed the ducks so we took some bread and fed them. My feet ache now

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    • Emily17
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    Send some of it my way Flos.. Feel like I'm twiddling my thumbs trying to not get everything done so I still have bits over the next 3 weeks...

    Michelle that sounds lovely. Used to love feeding the ducks xx

    had a call to say our sofas will be ready for delivery wb 18th

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    LO loves it as the ducks come right up close to him

    Great news about settees

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    • Emmilou82
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    Shes apparently in a relationship now... Early days though.

    To be honest OH said exactly that too Danielle.... he goes, puts earphones in and gets on with it. I feel like a raving loony but hey ho!

    Maybe im jealous a little that im not physically able to go to the gym and join him and i have to go home and sort the LO out.

    Dunno....I know for a fact ill go home tonight and burst into tears..... Itll all come out then lol.

    Bless him.... He wont know what to do with me!

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    You can't help the way you feel about it so don't beat yourself up or feel like you're a loony though, it's natural to feel jealousy and shows how much you love him. You just need to remember that he loves you too and you'll see that at the end of this month when he's waiting at the end of that aisle for you and saying his vows in front of all of your friends and family xx
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    • Emmilou82
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    Ahhhh Nicola, that made me well up lol...

    I know, i think im a bit jittery, PMT'd and just want the wedding day!!!

    Ill be right xxx

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    • Flossie
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    Home time.. yippeeee!!

    Need to try and quickly make a shepherds pie for dinner then off to dance rehearsals 6.30-9... I've not been for 3 weeks and we have a show in 2 weeks, I have so much to learn, bit worried it's not going to happen!!!

    Have a good evening all xx

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    • Mrs M Wade
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    Hope you're ok Em X

    Quick question to you all did you/are you wearing a sucky in thing under your wedding dress? My legs are a problem as there bigger at the top they chafe after a while so thought about wearing one. What do you think?

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    • SusanM34
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    I have the same problem Michelle and was thinking about some sort of short type things. But, then I'm also wondering about how much more difficult it will be to go to the toilet! haha! xx

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    • MichelleC961
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    Big hugs Emm- I think any one of us would feel the same as yiu- it's natural- as others have said, he loves yiu to the moon and back, he's marrying you and your lovely family to become one big stokoe family :-) xx

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