Wedding Forum - GENERAL CHINWAG THREAD w/c 22nd February...

Morning all

Was up at 6. Put a wash load on and done 30mins on the exercise bike. Ate so much cr@p yesterday

You deserve a rest X

It's a year today since our friend passed away

Ladies, so you all know of the ongoing saga between OH and his ex regards contact with LO.....

Now we have fantastic regular contact, do you think we can request from her what LO likes to eat?!

My reason for saying this is because all he's asking for is chips and sausages lol.... We went to Matlock yesterday and we had a burger to which LO said yes too. We got in the car to eat and he put it down and said 'don't like it'!! He hasn't good very good speech/communication skills and generally says yes to everything.....

My concerns are:

1) chips aren't healthy constantly
2) wasting money buying food he doesn't like
3) we want to factor him in our food shop but don't really know what he eats

I appreciate kids can be fussy eaters at 4yrs old but I want him to enjoy mealtimes like we do! What I don't want is her calling us behind our backs for not knowing already. To be fair though, she stopped contact hence we don't know already xx

Flossie, that sounds amazing..... Are you available to hire lol

Sounds gorgeous.l.. Happy birthday to your OH for yesterday and happy anniversary too

What's everyone doing for their mums or buying for their mums for mother's day?

That's what I thought Flossie.... At least it shows we are concerned about him eating the right foods.... Junk food is OK in small doses but I'm not doing sausage and chips every time!! It's not healthy and I would like to introduce him to 'proper' dinners especially when we have overnight contact!

Mother's Day, we just do cards.... My mum likes a bottle of wine too but they know we are tight on money this year so are happy with just a gesture.

My ex always asks what I'd like from LO but I only ever ask for a card!! I might like a bunch of daffs this year @ a £1

Been so busy this week and yesterday.

Only have another load of laundry to do today. Back from church.

Morning Carol.

I still need to go buy a mothers day card. Last night my mum said it's not convenient next Sunday for her so she doesn't want to do anything! Whaaatttttttt!!!!!!! She wants to organise all her housework etc etc. Crazy!

Will still drop a card and flowers round to her but seriously, not convenient? ???????

Ive text FMIL to ask the question so we will see if his ex replies.....

I don't have my son on Mother's Day as it falls on a Sunday when his dad has him.... He always asks if I want to keep him but I say no lol... Only because it's my only child free day and LO doesn't change or do anything for me lol.

He's only 8 so it makes no difference to him!

Not yet Emm, not many jobs that appeal to me then the ones I am interested in not getting anywhere. TBH I've not been very active because I'm always so busy and when I do get an hour or two the last thing I want is to do is job hunting because it forces me to think about work which depresses me.

Hope those antibiotics are helping and you're not reacting badly to these ones.

Morning all.

Had a nice catch up with my friends at the AS party, loads bailed on her but it was nice as it was our little group of people that have been friends for years. Apart from one. Then went to the party which was pants, most people had left by the time we got there, glad I took a friend down with me otherwise I would have been Billy no mates just like I thought. She then left and I was on my own so I said I'd go check on the kids as my daughter was babysitting th daughter of whose party it was. She was picked up a little while later, i then went off to bed and text hubby, he text saying he would not be long, 3am he got in. I am totally peed off with him as st one point he said he was on his way. 20 mins later I text where from and he said he'd be five. Told him not to bother.

Oh and Im Going to order the bag,

Done a load of washing this morning, got some on the line. It's cold but sunny.....

LO gone to his dad's, OH in bed so I'm chilling with a hard whole meal pitta bread and a mug of boiled water. The pitta bread packet had been left open hence its rock hard and I have to avoid dairy due to my Antibiotics..... I'm missing my coffee with milk

Awww Emm, hugs!

Our niece just turned 6 and is so grown up but I do believe much of the way she's learnt to speak is because she goes to a private school and her dad went to 3t0n and SIL was a corporate lawyer before giving up work.

Need to hang laundry now.

Emmilou I was always a very fussy eater when I was a child, often saying I didn't like things that actually I'd never had. My parents handled it by saying that I had to try a little bit of what ever I was claiming not to like, but if I really didn't like it I didn't have to finish it. There would always be an option of a sandwich if I really didn't like it, but I wouldn't get anything separate cooked. My godmother's son was the same when I looked after him, and I came up with a rewards system based on football which he was in to. He scored goals for his team when he was good, and the other team got a goal if he was naughty. It became a useful bribe: 'you can have a goal if you try a piece of apple, and if you don't like it you don't have to eat it all'. It would be good if the ex will tell you what he eats, otherwise maybe you can find a balance between what you know he will eat and introducing new foods. Maybe something with chips on one meal, and sausages with potato on another, then gradually you can vary it. It may also be that he is trying his luck on the grounds that you don't know what he eats at home, so he's hoping to get away with having his favourite every time.

Would microwaving the pitta bread soften it up? I find that works with bread rolls that have gone hard. I usually prefer tea and coffee with milk but at work we have no fridge so then I tend to drink my tea black as there's nowhere to keep milk. I wasn't sure about it at first, but I've got used to it. I still find coffee too strong though. Maybe you could try a different tea, I've got a camomile and honey and a lemon and ginger which are both nice, and don't need milk. I use them if I want a hot drink but don't want caffeine. The other option would be hot fruit juice.

Church was fun this morning. A lady came that hasn't been there in about two years. I'm her pastoral visitor so have been in touch, but never expected her to come to a service. She has cancer which she has now been told is terminal, and she was feeling really unwell, but she started chemo this week and I think there must have been a psychological affect, as she was very much back to her old self. She also said she hadn't had side effects other than the bruising on her hand, which must have been a boost for her. We had cake after the service left over from a service last night. Our youngest member wasn't there as the mum had a caught a bug from her older children, but we had another little one who's just started walking unaided, and is such fun to watch as he's still working out how to stay upright.

Thanks ladies.... I appreciate all views on this as I know if it was my LO it's that or nothing but I can't do that with him, well, not yet lol

Faye, that's exactly what I don't want and I'm a believer of, try it and if you don't like it fine, leave it but don't make me waste money. He's still only little yet so I'm not gonna be hard on him however, I'm not prepared to stand back and let him get away with wasting food and money....FMIL hasn't got back to me yet meaning his ex is either being a moo bag and not helping or perhaps she's writing a list ready for next week.... Yeah right x

I've ordered it, it's on it's way to me along with a couple of revision books for my daughter's history.

Yep this place is lovely, typical American 50s diner. I so should have loved in that era as love it

We are being naughty today as we have no food in a can't afford to go proper shopping this week....

Pizza chips and onion rings!!

I have been reasonably good this weekend and only went 20 over cals yesterday so today is my treat day!

Hi ladies :) hope you are all having a relaxing Sunday!! I'm having a lazy one watching movies with my little lady :)
I'm an extremely fussy eater I will try most things but there's not much I actually do like,most of my childhood I would not each much as my parents were very strict, it makes a challenge eating out! I wasn't allowed junk food or fried food when I was growing up either so now the taste of that kind of food makes me feel a bit sick so I avoid it! I absolutely love most kinds of rice and don't really eat meat except chicken on occasion, maybe my palate will change as I get older! I'm very different with my children as long as they try it I'm ok if they don't like it and make an alternative, I don't want them to have the same experience with food as I did.

Everything in moderation Emm.


I need to get up and make a start on dinner I think, going to roast some spuds and thinking of doing a yorkshire pud.

I totally agree there with you Emm!! No child should be up at 4am to play!!
Mine go to bed at 8pm and get up at 7.30am except for weekends and holidays they can stay up a bit later! He will be no good for school or nursery and they say at least 10 hours sleep a night improves concentration in learning!
I would get him to sleep in routine same as your LO just doesn't help if his mom isn't going to continue it!! Hope you get it sorted Hun xx

Evening All,
Client and I went out for lunch, wasn't cooking a roast to feed the bin! lol! Not the nicest of meals though I'm afraid and I could of cooked better typical haha! then went to visit his wife in hospital she was so much better today. Now just waiting for carer to help get him in his PJs then about 3 more hours to go then can fall into bed. least tomorrow can say I go home next week!

Enjoy your evening everyone x