Wedding Forum - GENERAL CHINWAG THREAD w/c 13th July 2015...

I'm just starting to get into the wedding browsing! Since my office has moved no-one can see my screen so have complete safety to shop away :)

Just been talking to OH about the wedding and family etc. told him I'm so fed up. I wish I was getting excited planning my wedding but I'm not. Since Xmas when my sister and OH have fell out I've not wanted to do anything. This should be happy time planning the second biggest day of my life (1st one was having my son).
I've asked him to talk to my mum and dad which he is willing to do but doesn't want the slanging match that we both know is going to happen. They are going to stick up for my sister like they've always done. When my mum and OH fell out the other week I've told them both they shouldn't of kicked off at each other as it's made the situation much worse.
I've told OH everything that I was going to write in a letter. We've been on the phone an hour and he's meant to be working...
I said I can't just tell my mum and dad I'm done with them after all this because I love them and I'd never be able to. I want them to want to be at my wedding and not feel like they've got to and put a front on. I want to be happy but I'm just not :(

Mrs M I really feel for you. Is it worth getting a friend to be a mediator. To try and reduce the arguments when they do talk.

I don't know what to do Emily :( x

Thank you. I just can't stop thinking about everything and when I do I just cry as I'm so fed up. It's making our relationship suffer too. Most nights we just sit on silence or when we do talk it's about all of this and we just end up falling out :(

Have you written your family a letter? I know you said you'd told OH what was in his but its worth doing the same for them.

I've told them all how they're making me feel but they've still not done anything about it. I've asked my sister on numerous occasions and she's adamant she's done nothing wrong so why she sort things.

I'm not a person that normally let's stuff get to me but this really has :(

They might be aware it's upsetting you but do they really know how much? They might not realise what it's actually doing to you... it's almost as if it's going to take a break down from you it to actually hit home and make them realise. It's really selfish of them all, they ALL need to put you first in all of this xx

I just want to go down to my mum and dads and just say if you don t want to come to the wedding then that's up to you. I'm not letting it upset me anymore but I know it's just going to come back at me :(

Sorry to hear this mrs wade! they all need heads banging together and they need to truly understand how its affecting you, maybe having someone neutral there to make sure it doesn't turn into a slanging match might help, they need to put the past in the past and move forward and get on with celebrating your big day, h2b needs to stop being so stubborn about your sister and just face facts its one day that's to be celebrated with family and friends we don't always like everyone in our family, but we can be civil for something so important, ask him how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and it was him having to deal with the possibility of his parents not attending your wedding, maybe this will help him see how your feeling, I think they all need to just say there sorrys and most of all apologise to you too your getting it from all ends here. Think they all need to look at the bigger picture too do they want this to come between you and h2b as things like this stress can do so much harm to a relationship and who will be the one suffering you the one who's been the middle man. I really hope they can sort there differences for your sake so you can get back to enjoying planning your big day xx

Don't be silly mrs wade your not moaning at all! xx

We are all here for you in whatever way you need us! Wedding related or otherwise!

That's good! It's good when people like that reply quickly! I don't think we can email ours, think we just have to email the registry office and somebody deals with it x

I think various people have access to the email account as I've emailed twice now and the signatures have been different - it probably is just the general registry office email address to be honest just labelled up as the superintendent's email!

Im the same starving today! but lunch is at half 12, I have cous cous, feta, salad and olives xx

Just got back from town. Treated myself to a new top from n3w l00k as OH is taking me and LO out for dinner Saturday which I'm looking forward to.
Went to the tattoo shop to pay OH tattoo deposit. He can't get in on a Saturday until 7th nov! She's good though. I've known her years. She did my cover up at the beginning of the year

Got to pick LO up from nursery at half past. Where's today gone already?

My day is going quite slow too. My colleague just arrived so be good to have a bit of a natter. No idea where my boss is though, he's meant to be here too.

I just shave. But think if I was to wax I'd get it done rather than doing it myself, I probably wouldn't have the balls to rip the wax strips off fast enough haha. I know you need to leave your hair to grow a certain length before being able to wax as well xx

If you look in B00ts or online I'm sure you'd find lots of stuff. All that sort of thing is pretty alien to me haha I just prefer bog standard shaving. I sometimes leave my legs quite a while too.. but I never get them out so it doesn't really matter!

That's my thought process too.. id like to wax even if its just a few times a year as it makes it easier to shave apparently but its being bothered!!

I might just try OHs wax strips..

but it would take a few shaves to get back to the same state as I understand but yes after a while it will.

Today is dragging so much! In the mood for chocolate...

Picked up some cherries whilst I was out, they're really not nice :(

These are from s@insburys too, think it's just hit and miss with them sometimes, some of them seem to be nice but most are horrible!

My day is also dragging! Plus I can't believe it's only Tuesday! x

What do you ladies think of this dress? Thinking of getting it for the wedding reception we are going to next month, would it look ok? And what colour shoes/ bag could I wear? I was thinking nude but not sure!