We are both dreading the first dance! Originally we were just going to get on with it and choose a really short song and then we decided to not have one at all. The more I think about it, the more I'm not sure about missing it altogether but think I'd hate everyone watching us dance! Any advice? I suggested having a first dance but with the bridal party and their partners on the dancefloor too but general feedback on that is that it's too weird! Xx
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
I don't think it's weird? I've seen weddings before where the bride & groom start off the dance then a minute or so later, everyone else joins them on the dancefloor. If you don't think it's weird then do it, it's your day :) xx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
You could do a first dance, where you start and tell your bridal party to slowly come up one by one... and then as they do everyone else will join in and it will end with everyone on dancefloor....!? x
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CommentAuthorJoanna
You could dance by yourselves for a while then get the dj to ask people to join in so then others will start dancing too and you won't feel so conscious?
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
do what ever makes you feel the most comfortable hun
Why don't you do the first dance as soon as you're introduced. That way it'll be timed and out of the way then can eat food and do speeches. Lol
CommentAuthorJennyHeather
Yea I'd rather have people join in, I'm not one who likes to be watched in that sort of situation, plus I don't even know how to dance lol.
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Traditionally, the bride and groom would start off the first dance, and then the brides mum and grooms dad would join in together and so would the brides dad and grooms mum (showing two families coming together) and then guests would join too. It is only in recent times where the couples have decided that they want the attention to be just on them that they have danced on their own for the whole song. So it is not weird at all to have others join you after a small amount of time. We were going to do this too, however we have decided to follow my h2b's culture and have a money dance as our first dance instead xxx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
I am hoping that happens with us. i do not like being centre of attention and i keep getting reminded this whole day i will be... so definitely needing an aversion on the dance floor!! x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Yeah, we're the same so have asked a few key couples who we know won't mind to join us after the first twenty seconds or so xx
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CommentAuthorSarahR582
Thanks ladies, I think we will ask bridesmaids etc to join us after a little (really little haha) while to take the pressure of a bit! xx
CommentAuthorCharmainey88
I feel the same I could have everyone watching I'd feel awkward but those suggestions I wouldn't of thought of so may get the brides maids to come on the dance floor a few minutes after. xx
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CommentAuthorPoppy x
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This is one of the things I have also considered either cutting out or involving everyone. I hate eyes being on me, so the rest of the ceremony will be a challenge! I'm hoping our 'first dance' will be a Kurdish one (that we have practiced beforehand!) - a bit like Greek so everyone gets to be involved by the end. With our blessing abroad I expect we'll stick to the traditional money dance.
Do whatever you feel comfortable with. In the end, it's only a dance x
CommentAuthorCazT
So glad I saw this thread. This is one of the things that is freaking me out. I don't dance and I hate being centre of attention. I'm not sure how I'm going to cope with the entire day, TBH. I do prefer the idea of getting others up to dance ASAP as well, and make sure we choose a short song.
I'm contemplating going for dance lessons (eep) just so I can get comfortable with the thought of dancing with others in the room, but not sure if I'll actually summon up the courage to go.
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Our first dance started with Bryan Adams Heaven, and then mixed it in with the dance version by DJ Sammy, at that point our kids all came up and started jumping around and raving with us. Hubby is not much of a slow dance person so worked out great.
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
Am I the only one looking forward to the attention being on me & h2b for a day?! Haha xx
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CommentAuthorJillianL47
We're debating getting dance lessons. Neither of us like dancing or being centre of attention, so I think if we have something to focus on it will be better. H2B disagrees.
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My H2B loves being centre of attention - I may just leave him to it! ;)
CommentAuthorAmyP7
I hate people looking at me so I'm worried about this myself. I'm going to dance with h2b for a minute or so and will have asked the dj beforehand to ask people to join us after a minute. I'm sure that minute will go slow, but it won't be so bad x x
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
I say that now though, when it comes to it, I'll prob be a bag of nerves!! xx
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CommentAuthorNevlar
im not sure what to do about mine either! im a dance teacher and everyones expecting some great dance number from me and h2b! he is shy when it comes to things like that!
CommentAuthorLauraL38
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CommentAuthorMrsMoran
Awwwwww you do what's comfortable for you hun, you can get people to slowly join you on the dancefloor as you suggested, doesn't sound silly at all, would be really nice xxx
CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
I don't think that's weird at all. It'd be nice to have both sets of parents and bridesmaids etc all together x x
