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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    :(

    My fiancé started arranging his stag last week, only 4 people responded to say they were going, so this week he's sent a message out. Got one reply from an old friend who he didn't expect to go and he's said he is going so that's a bonus... but now he's had a response from two of our friends and one of his brothers saying they can't make it.

    I don't think he's too fussed on the friends (not in a nasty way but it was a bit like, oh well if they were there it would have been nice) but he is really upset about his brothers.

    He's considering changing the date of it but obviously that could cause problems with people who have already said they are going.

    He's arranged a really good stag though which I think is even more of a shame as he was so excited about it last week :(




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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    Aww thats rubbish has his brother said why he cant go did he previously say he was going?

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    He said he would go on the stag, but apparently he can't get the time off work :(




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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    Oh that's a real shame Donna :o( H2B's Brother is organising his stag do and they managed to change the date because H2B's best mate couldn't make it because of work.

    Hope he manages to get something sorted
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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    Yeah me too,

    I'm trying to keep him focused on the fact that his friend who he wasn't expecting to go was coming. I feel bad now as when he first told me my reaction was ''oh, I was hoping he wouldn't as then he wouldn't get an invite to the wedding, now I'm going to be worried he'll say he's coming to the wedding and pull out last minute'' :(

    I know that sounds harsh, but he had pretty much given up on this friend, I thought he had actually but then he said he was inviting him and really wanted him to go, but if he made an excuse and didn't make the effort then that would be it.




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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    That is a shame for both of them but I think OH should stick with his original plan and hope that his brother can somehow manage to get the time off.

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    I'm thinking the same Elizabeth, as otherwise what if people who have already confirmed can no longer make the new date.




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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 17th 2015
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    That's a shame but I would just go with it rather than change the date. I can understand your H2B being disappointed though.

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    I would maybe ask the brother which date he could get off work and then ask thsod who have already confirmed if they can make that date instead, but without actually changing the date at that point. If they say no then stick with original plan and unfortunately the brother will miss out, but if they say yes they can do that date then it's a bonus!

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
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      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    I'm not sure what he's planning on doing at this point.

    I'll be honest I'm surprised he was so upset about it, as he's never had a night out with his brother before-not that they don't get on, when they're both at his mums they get on fine. But thinking about it even new years eve when we were at his mums having some drinks-I spent more time with his brother and his boyfriend then my fiancé did.




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    • StephanieM158
      CommentAuthorStephanieM158
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    He's understandably upset, the stag do is important to the groom. (Though I don't see why personally but wo am I to stop tradition) my h2b work friends all invited themselves to our wedding just so they could tend the stag do. :-/ I don't trust nor like most of his friends but I'm allowed no input in his big day.
    My point is its probably a blessing in disguise. He will be less likely to be getting up to mischief with fewer people. If its only his brothers he's concerned about then I'm sure he can have a "second" stag do at an earlier or later date?

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    It's probably because it's such a special occasion and something that could possibly bring them closer together. My OH and his brother arent really close and have only been out together a couple of times, have different interests etc, but he has asked him to be his best man because at the end of the day he is brother and that brings them closer together than any of his friendships. X

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
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      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    He has mentioned going out with them when we're down that way.

    I'm not worried about him getting up to mischief to be fair either, he really isn't like that. I'm a little jealous as they're going to hooters for lunch, but that's more because I want to go to hooters for lunch rather then the fact that I don't want him going lol.

    The plan is brewery tour, hooters, ghost tour, drinks, rock bar.... I think it sounds like a pretty awesome night and would have loved something like that for me haha




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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    That does sound like a great stag.. Proper lads day out haha x

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    • StephanieM158
      CommentAuthorStephanieM158
      Got married 4 years ago
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    Can I go? Hehe.

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    H2bs stag do sounds awesome

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    • CharlieBe-Cool
      CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    Sounds awesome. Unfortunately it's just a case that some people can't make it. OH is having his end of May on a Friday, so told him to expect some people to say no as they may not get the day off, and already need a day off for the actual wedding! I'd rather people make it to the day itself than the stag/hen dos. I can understand his disappointment though.

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    He's done well as it sounds like a great time to be had.

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    Oh that's such a shame, my oh would dole to do something like that but there's only him and his best man so not worth it really x
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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    I think he'll be okay. Just needs to focus on the one's that are there and I'm sure they'll have a lovely time.

    Still waiting to hear from one of our friends, who wants to go but is in the RAF so waiting to find out if he's going to be sent abroad.




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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2015
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    I also agree that it's much more important that they can make it to the big day, but still disappointing for my fiancé. At least he knows how difficult it can be to try and arrange things with people now.




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    • BarryA92
      CommentAuthorBarryA92
      Posted: Aug 11th 2015
     
    Hey, I don't think that guys are generally all that loyal to friends, compared to girls. I'm organising my own stag as my friends haven't bothered. Tried to make it as cheap as possible, so far its £10pp for mini bus, free entry/guest list for 3 pubs/clubs. So literally £10 bus & drinking money. Bus leaves at 7pm so its not even as if I'm taking up their whole day.

    Out of 22 invitations on 6 are going. 4 claim their GF has forbid them going. The other 12, well they haven't replied.

    However, the 6 that are going will have a great night & the folk who aren't can do whatever they please.

    So my advice to your H2B would be to go out with the people & think enough of him to go & have an amazing night. Those who cant be bothered can hear all about it & will be gutted they didn't go!
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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Aug 11th 2015
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    my OH friends are useless, they sometimes won't reply that they are coming and then just turn up anyway- 2 of them did this for his birthday!

    It's great to have a blokes perspective on stuff too :-)

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