Ok so admission time - due to moving around so much over the years, I now find myself in the position where I don't really have any close friends. I have always worked with people twice my age, my h2b's friends are all single guys. I feel like am missing out on the girly wedding planning etc. everytime I see a wedding album with a smiling bride and her 4/5 happy bridesmaids, it kills me. I have 1 bridesmaid who is my 14 year old cousin. I have no idea how to go about meeting friends. I was going to join a gym but can't afford it. I feel like I really need some girly friends outside of my relationship!! Is anyone else in the same boat!?! Have been debating whether to ask for advise but I figure this is as good a place as any. I don't have anyone to talk to about this other than my h2b, bless him! he doesn't have loads of friends but he has a close enough group for the wedding, stag do etc. and if he ever fancies going out, he can do, he has been born and raised in the midlands whereas i have only been here since my teens.I don't really have anyone except my family. Please tell me I'm not the only saddo who is struggling lol!?! X
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CommentAuthormym72
I don't think you're the only one on here in this position. I can understand what you mean as I don't really have many friends outside of my relationship. We tend to do most things together, including drinking etc so don't tend to have just girly friends.
I only had one bridesmaid when we got married - and that was the gf of Gav's cousin - because we tend to meet with them in the pub for quiz night sometimes. It actually felt strange on the times I did meet up with her for dress shopping etc because I'm not used to having a girls day shopping lol.
I have one friend who I've known since school and meet with for coffee every few weeks but that's about all. I took my mum with me for dress fittings lol. Even in my job (only been there 6 weeks) everyone seems to have their own friends but I tend to be the one who 'wanders' and doesn't really bond with set friends so I don't have a close friend there either (same at my last job).
At least you can talk weddings on here - and don't worry, you're not the only one who doesn't have loads of friends x
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Hey hun im the same really, i have a 2 close friends that i have known since we were kids n thats it...most of the wedding will be h2bs friends. Dont think you're missing out hun, its really not as girly as you think, i have 3 bms and none of them are interested in the wedding at all (other than my big sis occasionally) wedding mags make it seem all fantastic when really its not! U have all of us on here to be girly with tho :-) where are you living ? xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs B
Hey hun! im kinda similar, i am having 4 bridesmaids but 1 is my sis and the others really are my main closest friends apart from 2 others and wedding is going to be mainly h2b friends. It's hard when i want to go out as, like you, ive always worked with older people and the younger people at my work now are a bit too immature for me so i cant really win! But i do understand where you are coming from, apart from my mum and h2b, this is the only other outlet for me to talk about my wedding as no one else is really interested - and fair enough, they have their own lives to get on with and im sure on the day itll be amazing! Dont worry though hun, you always find friends in the strangest of places! I go to the gym and met one of my bms there as she was a PT but apart from that, i dont speak to anyone else as theyre getting on with their workout!
CommentAuthorJennyTembo
your page is restricted hun so you will find it hard to make friends on here too.. i have two bridesmaids.. one a bestfriend and the other my sil2b, both my kinda age and its not that girly either .. i think they just glaze over when i mention anything to do with weddings and as for my best friend anything i mention like ideas i have she turns her nose up or looks at me daft ... not encouraging and defo not fun ..why im so thankful just to come on here and disscuss weddings and people dont turn there nose up (if they are you cant see em ....lol) ..all you get is constructiveness and good ideas..love it!!! xx
Thank you thank you!! I am not alone. I don't have a single close friend lol. I end up doing everything with my mum! I sometimes fancy going out for drinks and getting dressed up or a day out shopping and lunch with a friend but I don't have anyone to call upon. I am so glad I am not the only one though! And how do I unrestrict my page?? I didn't realise it was restricted. I live in bloxwich in Walsall and work in Cannock. I am so glad I. Have found this site :)
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CommentAuthorMrs Davro
I know how you feel hun. I have two sisters who are my bridesmaids and then (if she hasn't dumped him by then) my mums bf's daughter as a flower girl.
I don't have any friends my age as I don't see the attraction in getting wasted every weekend like most people my age. I enjoy a few drinks, a boogie and a laugh but every week would just get boring. Plus while I'm feeling fat I don't feel like dressing in skimpy clothes and showing off my rolls of fat (seems to be the fashion amongst a lot of stokies). The people I work with are either older than me or have their own friends outside of work. I don't go out with my sister much either even though she is only two years younger than me but I feel like im embarresing her if I go out with her and her friends.
CommentAuthorXbox widow
Your not alone hun, I am exactly like you except I'm not working at present, I'm fulltime carer for my mum whos 87. I go most places with my daughter shes 25 in July and she is my best friend(oh and h2b is of course). My mum used to come a lot of places with us when she was younger but she cant get out much now. When I was working all my colleagues were married or older (nothing in common) so I know how you feel. I have nothing in common with my sister she is 21 years older than me so dont really bother with her much cos she's a tad to selfish for me. Like you I dont have one close female friend only my close family, and Cupcake Katie totally agree about the boozing and skimpy outfit thing. Oh and Looby you are not a saddo!!!!! xx
CommentAuthorJennyTembo
defo not alone hunny , but i do you think you need to find some friends close to where you live, start to form some bonds ... go to local pub or something sim... just so you can have girly time just for your own sanity and a giggle about nothing ... its good for you xx
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CommentAuthorLooby-Lu25
That's what I'd like. Cupcakekatie I feel the same - I like an occasional night out and a dance but like you you I like to cover up a bit more and I never get drunk. I like a few drinks a laugh and a dance but not every week or it would be boring. But I do need to find somewhere to make friends - I think my sanity depends upon it!! I am 25 and my bridesmaid is my cousin who will be 14. We will also have 3 flower girls under 5 and a Paige boy who will be 5. They are by h2b's nieces and nephew. I don't have any sisters, just 2 younger brothers. By h2b has to older sisters but they are both already married with kids. They are both close and have their own friends though. I am feelIng much better though. Thanks to everyone for all the support! I just wish I had even 1 friend from school or something to meet up with and go out with. I keep ending up in the cinema with my h2b and his bm (who insists I go with them and can't stay home on my own lol!) but he is single and really crap with girls!
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
hi looby-lu25 i am exactly the same have lost all the friends i have made over the years. so don't have any close friends and moving to be with h2b i have now moved over an hour and half away from me family to. i don't work so I'm home all day when my girls are at school. we have been here a year now and still no closer to making new friends then i was when i first came my girls are all in school but the other mums already have there groups made up i do go to slimming world which is my only adult company out side of h2b but though i do talk to ppl there i wouldn't say they are friends. h2b as 2 brothers both with partners but i always feel left out when we are all together as they are really friendly and close and i just get left to the sidelines. I'm now getting to the point were idon't think h2bs family really like me
CommentAuthorJennyTembo
aww ladies ... i feel the same alot of the times and i know my h2b does cause he moved in with me which is an hour away from his true friends and family... but i have very little spare money and thats before putting money away for the wedding and my friends do things all the time and i cant afford to join in unless they have a house get together, but if you can join groups like gym classes and really put yourself out there... i know its easier said than done ... but its worth a go xx
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CommentAuthorKellyN29
people I know have made loads of friends at zumba classes, I have no close friends but my neice who is my maid of honour is 22 is realy keen and is coming with me to do bits and pieces. I don't hink zumba is too expensive and you could always opt to go every other week?
CommentAuthorgdu
Hey LoobyLu, I am exactly the same, I wasn't going to have any bridesmaids until my sis got upset she wasn't going to be one, so I am having her. Luckily I am close to my mum so have done lot of the girly stuff with her but in some ways its quite nice to have fewer influences as it makes decision making a bit easier!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Hi hun, big hug! It's hard when you're not so close to girl friends and every girl need at least one good girly friend to go shopping with or go for lunch and have a good natter. I do understand it is hard to meet and make new friends. Are there any community volunteering things you could maybe do? These cost you nothing, you do something good with your time to help those less fortunate than you and at the same time get to meet new people.
I don't have tonnes of friends like H2B - he'll have about 15 mates flying out with him for his stag. I have about 5 good friends who I meet for girly things but would say I'm only really really close to two. I have two BM's, my sister and my best mate. I do have other girl friends but see them probably once every 6 months or so but we still keep in touch and when we meet we have so much to talk about then you realise how valuable your girl mates are.
Get yourself out there hun and hope you meet some people soon xx
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
Same over here *waves*
I've also moved around a lot pretty much all my life. I have 1 bridesmaid but I see her a few times a year, she's also a bit jealous I'm getting married so she can be more of a hindrance than a help and she also lives 2 hours away. I don't have any other friends really, we're closer to H2B's family (by an hour) but being the in laws I'm not 100% comfortable with them. And my mum lives the other end of the country and has absolutely NO interest in the wedding at all.
H2B is close with his cousin and BIL but doesn't have many friends otherwise either. I'm lucky he's my best friend cause otherwise I'd have no one! But I'm happy to spend all my time with him. Doesn't help that I have a boyish personality so struggle to make female friends as it is! Lol.
Ah well, least we've got UKB! :)
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CommentAuthorLooby-Lu25
I officially love this site!! Am feeling much more positive now. I think I might try looking for a local zumba class, and maybe some local volunteering on evenings - I would never have thought of that though! Thanks everyone :) I am very lucky in the fact that my h2b is my best friend. We do everything together and he loves that too, but I do fell I need girly friends outside of us. I have looked and meetup groups before, but most things arranged locally and 'mum' groups - which don't help when you don't have any children!! I am going to try and make more effort to make some friends, once I find somewhere to start lol !! Shame we dont all live locally really!
Miss Sims cannot wait to be Mrs Wheeler!!!
Marrying my Soulmate 16th March 2013 :)
CommentAuthordolphin
Im in the same situation, I have one best mate and she was my briesmaid the first time I got married and doesnt want to do it again so shes a witness this time, My 8 year old niece is so much of a tom boy that she wont even wear a dress fo the day, so ive ended up with 1 bridesmaid my h2bs 23 year old niece. The way I see it is it is less money to spend on dresses and flowers lol. I dont even see h2bs niece that often or get on with her. x
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