Wedding Forum - Father of the bride...

My father has kindly offered to help pay for my wedding. However he is now acting like because of this he should be able to decide who gets and invite and how I should have the day. I'm looking for a bit of advise on what I should do. My father has quite a temper so talking it through like reasonable adults may not work. Should I just put my foot down and tell him it's my day not his or should I just not take the money with the strings attached. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Like your post GF. :)

I think parents forget that it is not like the old days where the whole thing would be paid for by the bride's family, therefore the bride's parents get a say in everything as it is their money.

It is a very nice gesture of your dad, but exactly how much is he wanting to pay towards it? Are the people he wants to invite people you know or you want to invite? How large a wedding would you like - could you say you just want a small wedding therefore there is not the space for the people he wants to come?

I suppose your response and the way you handle it depends on how you think your dad will react. As GF says it would be interesting to see his reaction if you turned him down as you didn't want to abide by his conditions.

My mum said to me once that if something is a gift it shouldn't come with conditions. And you certainly shouldn't give to receive, as sounds the case here.

To be honest I don't see why you have to invite people you haven't met.
I can see where your dad might get the idea from that he has some sort of right to invite people as he's paying for the venue which is usually quote a large chunk but I think you need to sit down with him and let him know its family and close friends only.