Okay so here is the situation I'm stuck in, I don't mind my partners cousins etc coming to the wedding but I don't want my cousins there. Is this something I can do? should I just invite my cousins also or just invite his? there are many reasons why I don't want my cousins there that I don't feel comfortable discussing but I'm at a loss right now :(
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
That's a difficult one as you haven't really said why you don't want them there but I appreciate you don't want to discuss it.
Personally I would only have the people at your wedding that you genuinely want there. If you have a room full of people you thought you should have invited but never really wanted there then you're going to be unhappy on the day because its not what you want.
Its nobody elses business who you invite to your wedding except yours and your OHs because it is your day and no one elses so if you feel they don't merit an invite then don't give them one or perhaps compromise to an evening invite.
What does your OH think? X
CommentAuthorFlossie
Invite who you want to invite. Don't feel pressured into inviting people you don't want to. At the end of the day, this is your special day.
I haven't invited my uncle, his wife and their 2 kids to our wedding as I have zero relationship with them and just didn't want them there. They kicked off and caused a bit of a fuss but in the end they've made themsleves look silly.
If you're worried about anyone's reactions then don't be. You've said you have your reasons so people should appreciate that xx
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18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorKirstieP2B
Invite who you want there. I'm inviting some of my aunts and uncle from both sides but i haven't invited them all as i don't get on with some of them. I'm not inviting all of my cousins either! I'm actually inviting 5 of my uncle's children but one of them isn't being invited and I'm not sure if I will be inviting their mother who is also blood related to me. At the end of the day it's your wedding and you need to be comfortable and happy with who is at your wedding xx
CommentAuthorMrs Jones
Just to reiterate what everybody else has said: it's your day, so invite who you want to be there to share your special day. On my Dad's side, I have lots of cousins, but I am only inviting 2 of them out of the 10 and on my Mum's side I am inviting 1 cousin to the whole day and the other one to the evening - purely because I see the other brother more than I do the one I'm inviting to the evening. It gets very politcal and I know I am not keeping everybody happy, but at £x per head I know we're making the right decision!
First Date 26 April 2014
Proposed 27 June 2015
Happily Married 18 June 2016
We have loads of 'family members' who we are not inviting. I'm expecting to get some stick from certain people over it but it's our wedding and we have hit our maximum capacity. The way I see it is I would rather have friends there who we spend a lot of time with over family who we barely even know. Wedding politics!!! Do what's right for you and your hubby xx
CommentAuthorStephH96
Cherilyn, just invite who you want. If there is previous with your cousins they might not necessarily expect an invite anyway. You must have genuine reasons that are pretty serious if you don't want to talk about on here so I would imagine that anyone who knows about it wouldn't be kicking off either?
CommentAuthorInDreamland
As others have said, invite who you want there, don't feel obliged to invite those you don't want to attend. It's your day so you have to be happy with the guest list or at least your side of it.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorMkia
Most of my aunties and uncles are not coming. The only cousins i have coming are still babies!! I know the feeling. But Just think the planning of stressful and you want to enjoy all your hard work and your day. Xxx
