Wedding Forum - Double barreling and Inlaws!!...

Hiya, my daughter is a bit older now (13) and has a different dad to the man im marrying. She has chosen to double barrel her own name Brooke Simpson-Barratt, my married name will be simpson, and her dads name is barratt. Her words were "it will make me part of our family if i have andys name like you" H2b is thrilled she's chosen to take his name too. H2b's parents have no say in the matter so were never asked. Im getting married to create a family, and i wouldn't leave a child as the odd one out :) xx

We are double barrelling, so we will all have the same name. It makes sense to us, as we will be a family, so we should all share the same name. No one has really given us their opinion on it tbh and I think its a bit unfair of your OH parents to suggest that your daughter should have a different name. If your OH is fully behind the idea, I think you should go for it and just ignore them.

I think you should do what u want, ppl will have an opinion regardless so if you think it'll make your daughter feel more involved family wise then go ahead, some ppl really do know how to bring a downer on things don't they x

My OHs son was the one to de double-barrelled, so as to have the same surnames as his dad, and his mums married name too.
You could change your daughters name perhaps? Then when she's older, let her make her own mind up about if she wants to change it?

Thanks everyone the Inlaws are a nightmare, my son was going to have my surname till the Inlaws kicked off they didn't speak to us for weeks lol everything with then is warmisham this warmisham that the mother In law even said I was carrying like she did n it must of been a warmisham thing!! Is she serious lol I'm a size 8 she was at least a 14 by pictures lol we will be double barrelling and my sons will be changed to the double barrel they won't like that lol xx

ohhhhhhhh just

SLAP THEM

I've been thinking about this as my daughter has a different dad (hate saying dad,I always call him sperm donar having saw or head from him since I was 6 months pregnant and she's 9 today) I was decimate that I don't want her to take h2bs name only because I feel like that was the name she was given when she was born and she's used to it,a friend I had at school her mum was always going from 1 relationship to another and changing her name everytime and I remember her saying that it confused her so much growing up that she wishes her mum had just left her name the way it was until she was old enough to decide herself. So I think I may just leave Paige's surname how it is and then when she's older if she wants to change it that's fine,although if anything I would consider db-ing. It's entirely up to you what you want to do and just ignore what they have to say,it has nothing to do with them :) xx