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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    Hi everyone I have a huge dilemma. Two years in June my older sister stopped talking to me and unfriended myself and my other half on ** book of face and hasn't written or even texted me in this time either.
    The question is do I invite her and her other half to my wedding?
    I am really unsure on what to do and I have to decide soon on what I am doing as I originally wanted my sister to be a bridesmaid.
    Please any advise would be welcome and much appreciated.

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    I think you first need to look at why did they stop talking? Was it after an argument?

    You could be the bigger person and still invite them, you never know, it may rekindle a relationship with her.

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    • michgib
      CommentAuthormichgib
      Got married 18 months ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    Totally agree with gf, if you want to try and make up now is a good time
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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    Thank you for your comments Glitterfairy. The reason behind her not talking to me is because my other half rubbed a balloon on her head and she accused him of flirting with her. There was my dad, my step mum, my two brothers and myself all in the room and we all think that rubbing a balloon on someones head is not flirting. I only found out why she is not talking to me via my mum and everyone thinks my sister is been silly.
    I am thinking I will follow you advice and invite her but maybe not as bridesmaid?
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    You'd defo be the bigger person if you do, if you did not invite them, it would be something else for her to hold against you

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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    I have been trying to contact my sister and I even gave her Xmas presents and birthday presents to my sister to try to keep in touch but my sister has not even given me a card.
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    It might be different being a wedding invite. You never know until you try.

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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    Thank you for your comments and advice Glitterfairy. It is much appreciated and welcomed. :)
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    You're welcome, each and everyone of us is here to help.

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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    I will try sending her an invite and then go from there. At least then I know that I have tried everything in my power to get my sister to come. Thank you all for the advice. :)
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    That's all you can do. If you did not send one they'd turn it against you, so send one, then they cannot.

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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 25th 2015
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    I agree with the ladies, I would invite her as a guest, I personally wouldn't aim at a bridesmaid ATM as think you need to have a good relationship for that to work. Fx she accepts the invite and you have her back in ur life. But she very immature for doing that. My oh rubs balloons on people's head and I've never seen it as flirting x
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    I agree with GF.

    You'd be doing the right thing and she'd have nothing to hold against you then.

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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    Thank you for your advice ladies. It has helped me with my decision on what to do. Mrsc2bee, I agree on not aiming on having my sister as bridesmaid atm, I am glad that other people don't think rubbing a balloon on someone's head is seen as flirting as I don't think it is either. x
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    i have just read through this and i would definitely send an invite ... it maybe that she now thinks that she over reacted but so much time has gone past she doesn't know how to come back from making that accusation, you sending the invitation is opening the door she then has to choose whether to step through or not .

    I would maybe put a personal hand written message in to ...along the lines of ..

    I know we havent spoken for such a long time but i cant imagine my day without you there

    its heart felt ( as you are inviting her) and shows that you are putting the past where it needs to be.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    Lala

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    I echo what the ladies have already said. Good luck, hope she says yes and it can be the start of rebuilding your relationship xx

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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    Thank you lala 'mod' bunni for your kind words and your suggestion on what to write in my sisters invite. And a big thank you to all the ladies who have given me advice and kind words xx
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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    you are welcome hun .... hope it helps x

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    • DanielleS0709
      CommentAuthorDanielleS0709
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    How strange and immature of her!!! If I were you I'd be the bigger person and definitely invite her. Then it's up to her if she wants to go. At least you can never say to yourself u should have invited her. I always read into things and just wondering would she maybe be in a controlling relationship that's making her keep her distance from you and your oh? It's very strange behaviour to fall out with your own sister over something like that, especially something that had nothing to do with you. Just food for thought.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    Good luck! Hope it goes well and she sees sense and comes and you can all make up xxx

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    • RachaelB76
      CommentAuthorRachaelB76
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: May 26th 2015
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    could you maybe try and go to your mums when she is there and hand give her the invite and see what response you get x




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    • SamanthaF17
      CommentAuthorSamanthaF17
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 28th 2015
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    Hi ladies, Thank you for the advise, RachelB76 I like your idea of trying to go around when my sister goes around to my mums house and then hand it to her that way. A big thank you to everyone for all of the advise you have all given me, it is much appreciated and welcomed, I can't thank you enough. x
 
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