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    • Kittenaj
      CommentAuthorKittenaj
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I sent out my day invites this week. The weddings not till December but a lot of out of towners so hotel booking needed.

    I sent my dad his invite, it's for the day for him and his second wife only and not his second set of kids (they are mid 20's) and I haven't spoken to any of them in 3 1/2 years and very badly behaved loud, rude and crude) intend to invite them for the evening. At 10.30 he calls me when he should know I'm at work and really rather rudely and shouty asks where the invites for my half siblings are. I told him that I would be inviting them for the evening do as the venue is small and we can only have 50 for a sit down meal. He then says that I am excluding them and do I really think that they would travel from Leeds to London for a few hours (only one of them has a job). He then shouts that if I don't change the wedding invite to include the half siblings and their kids (it's also no children during the day none of the bridal party or guests have small children. They are invited for the night do.) I'll have two more places at the wedding because he won't be coming. I expected he would be okay with them only coming for the night as it would he cheaper for them. Why couldn't he have just put me first on my wedding day not decided to show off. To be honest I want to say stuff you to him and grind his many failings as a father in his face but part of me just wants him to be there.
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    • CJGroove
      CommentAuthorCJGroove
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I'm always tempted to say, in situations like this I read on here far too often, that you should stick to your guns and not alter your day just for one or two stubborn people; if this is the ultimatum, then he is going to have to deal with the consequences. Missing his daughters wedding because of his stubborn ways...
    but I know it's far more complicated than that, especially when it comes to parents.

    I would advise that you keep your plans, explain to him that you can't change them and it's ultimately his decision to not be there, but you do what you feel is the right thing sweetheart, only you know what will make you truly happy.

    xxx
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    • TheFutureMrsK
      CommentAuthorTheFutureMrsK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    Can you maybe give him some time to calm down and talk to him again? Could you invite your half sibling but not their kids? xxx

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I'd be tempted to tell him were to go. It's your wedding and he should accept that. If I didn't see my siblings for that long they'd be lucky to get an evening invite.

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    • Kittenaj
      CommentAuthorKittenaj
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I just spoke to my cousin and she said he is a big baby and should respect my wishes. It's not as if he doesn't know how I feel about his wife and second kids. I am making a big compromise allowing his wife. I think I'm going to stick to my guns and let him contact me.
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    • CJGroove
      CommentAuthorCJGroove
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    Good girl :)
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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I agree with everyone else, however, who is giving you away? If he is, then it may cause even more problems. Me personally, I would accept their refusal of the invite.

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    • Kittenaj
      CommentAuthorKittenaj
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I'm doing it my self or my mum. She was the primary rock in my whole life before my h2b.
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    • RachelE118
      CommentAuthorRachelE118
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I agree stick to your guns. I hope things work out ok x
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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    Stick to your plans. If he makes a bigger fuss, ask if he would like to pay for extra heads (to which I assume he will say no) x

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I think you've been perfectly fair. If he cares about your wedding he'll back down, if he doesn't then you don't need him there.

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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    A difficult one :o/ Maybe best to wait until he calms down before you speak to him again, but could you not compromise and promote your half siblings from the evening if there are people invited to the day that can't make it?

    Hope it all works out for you xx
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    • CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    Stick to your guns. If it was half siblings that you got along with it would be different. but 1 - you don't like them. 2 - you don't see them. 3 - you are not having other children in the day, so you would be making an exception. 4 - you don't have the space, and what space you do have is obviously filled by others that you DO like. Tell them where to go. They come to the evening, or not at all. and if your dad has a problem, then he doesn't deserve to be at your wedding. As you said, your Mam is your rock. you don't need s*** on your wedding day. xxxx
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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    What she said

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 24th 2014
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    I agree with the others who have said stick to your guns. He is being out of order and using emotional blackmail and you don't need that.




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    • LauraK7
      CommentAuthorLauraK7
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 25th 2014
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    I also agree it's not his day and he doesn't seem to care what you think, he should be grateful you've invited him
    Have the people who are special to you there
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    • Mrs T Hurley!
      CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Apr 25th 2014
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    I have 2 half siblings and they're not invited. Hopefully its just your Father trying his luck. It is your day and you shouldn't be forced to accommodate other people. It's not as if you haven't invited them at all. You've invited them to the evening so you have tried to include them.

    IMO, I would say 'Your loss Dad.' and leave it at that. That's what I would do if my father threatened me with that.

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    • DanielleMystic
      CommentAuthorDanielleMystic
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      Posted: Apr 26th 2014
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    what a big attention seeking baby! he needs to grow up and work out whats more important! hope it all works out the way YOU want it to hun, good on you for sticking to your guns and not caving in. he isn't in charge of your big day and cannot dictate who gets special treatment! xx

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