710,091 Real Members
SHOP

FREE Wedding Table Planner

+ FREE Wedding Budget Planner and more wedding planning tools

Join now free to use
Perfect Brides Forum Banner
Not signed in (Sign In)

UKbride Supermarket

Members Dresses


* Discount available to Power Users only. Terms and conditions apply. more

  1.  
    • Tiffany
      CommentAuthorTiffanyGetting married in 7 months
      CommentTimeDec 2nd 2017 edited
     
    Advice please.

    What on earth do we do?

    Very long story shortish.

    I used to be good friends with my step sons mother, until one day she accused me of beating her child outside her home!!
    I explained everything that happened that day and that all I did was get hold of the child's coat and march him across the road because he was in the middle of it dancing around. He had no marks at all.
    I even told her to watch the cctv at her neighbours, which she did and it proved that I never beat her son and what I had said was correct.
    She later appologised and told me she believed me and that her son had told her I have never hit him (and I never have nor ever would). However she then got others involved and I started getting vile messages of her friends and partner and they even threatened my toddler! I blocked them all after 2 days of abuse and 8 blackouts! (she knows about the backouts and that stress makes them worse).
    Her excuse..... 'he told us that you punched him and he hates you'. Of course he hated me, he's 9 with ASD and ADHD and I told him off!!
    This was also after he was hounded for 2 days about it and even admitted to his father and myself he said it to shut them all up and that he loves me.
    She then says I'm not allowed anywhere near her son. At this point it's been a week, no police involved (which is clearly what any parent would do if they believed that anyone had beat their child!) but soon changed her mind when my partner refused to give his job up just to take him to school and told her if I wasn't allowed near him she would have to have him every night and he would see him at hers because he wasn't making me stay else where with our child because if her.
    *** We went to the police in the end and I was cleared of everything ***
    She's made our lives hell since. She refused to pick him up from school because it was cold and not her day to have him. I had to leave my very poorly child in hospital (he was rushed in and stopped breathing!) to go and get him from the school office and bring him back to ours because daddy was at work and we couldn't get hold of him (phone line at work was down). I'm sorry but you don't get to pick and choose when you want to be a parent or make a mother leave her poorly baby wondering if he was going to be alive when she got back to him! (I either picked her son up or social services would and he would of been in care for the night and I couldn't do that to him)

    Now she's demanding that she is invited to our wedding so she can see her son in his suit or he's not allowed to come!!! Is she for real, does she seriously think I'm going to have her anywhere near me let alone my wedding?! Her son doesn't even want her there let alone us.

    It's taking me all my strength to control my Aspergers and temper. I know for a fact if she dared turned up I'd be getting arrested not married.
  2.  
    • StaceyH989
      CommentAuthorStaceyH989Getting married in 5 months
      CommentTimeDec 4th 2017
     
    Jees Tiff, she sounds like a right jealous psycho, I feel so sorry for you and your family having to put up with this kind of behavior from her.

    I would say to her that she isn't invited to the wedding but if she would like to see her son in his suit she is more than welcome to come round and see him when he's dressed, that way you have made the offer but she doesn't have to be there for the whole day. I really wouldn't dare to invite her if I were you, judging by her past behavior it sounds like she would try something or cause a scene.
  3.  
    • Tiffany
      CommentAuthorTiffanyGetting married in 7 months
      CommentTimeDec 4th 2017
     
    She is. It's been like this for 3 years but that ^^^^ was it for me.

    I feel sorry for the poor little boy. He asked me this morning why mummy doesn't want him and if she loves him! I was heart broken. She's not picked him up a number of times or been in when she requested him back for a set time and he knew mummy was meant to get him or he was going back to her.

    She's not coming anywhere near the wedding. OH has said he will send a picture to her lmao. That didn't go down well. I will tell him your idea, hopefully that will keep her happy. Plus side doing it that way there will be 6 other males around so she wont dare cause a scene.
  4.  
    • StaceyH989
      CommentAuthorStaceyH989Getting married in 5 months
      CommentTimeDec 4th 2017
     
    Awww the poor little lad, he must feel like a yo-yo with a mother like that.

    She seems like a right piece of work. I would definitely do it with lots of people around, you can even make the offer that you can get a really nice picture of her son taken by the photographer and she can keep the photo as well.

    It must be so difficult for you all, but the best thing to do will be to rise above every stunt she tries to pull. I would treat this as your last attempt to keep the peace and if the offerings don't work then its her fault, she has to meet you in the middle ground. By the sounds of things you have made more than enough effort and its time she grew up and stopped acting like a spoiled child herself.
  5.  
    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamlandGot married 4 years ago
      CommentTimeDec 4th 2017
     
    It's totally inappropriate for her to be at your wedding. No way should she be anywhere near it. She can't dictate whether her boy is there. She needs to just stop being a 81tch.

    Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
    Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!

  6.  
    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46Got married 18 months ago
      CommentTime7 days ago
     
    Sounds like an absolute lunatic! I agree with everyone else - do not invite her. She has no reasons to come and would just make a scene and thats not what you want or deserve :)

    Met 2013
    Propsed 2014
    Will Be Mrs Brookes 2016
    always & forever xxx
  7.  
    • Tiffany
      CommentAuthorTiffanyGetting married in 7 months
      CommentTime7 days ago
     
    She's backed down for now but she's worse than a yoyo so won't last for long. All the groomsmen are aware of the situation and if she dares turn up she will be removed!
Enter Now