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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    Now i've always wanted a church wedding.

    I used to go to church about ten years ago in the west midlands and i would have loved to have my wedding there. However, i have moved to London and this is where my OH is to. I am not a member of any church, however iv seen a couple of churches that are absolutely beautiful and i would love to get married in them..

    has anyone been married in a church that they did not attend and were there any specific requirements, such as attending for a few months before..

    Did they charge u a reasonable price to use their venue..

    I want to go around and start asking some churches, but i dont know what to expect
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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    I can only tell you what I know about C of E churches. Catholic is very different.

    The general rule is you have to have a connection with the church Parish - eg You live there, was baptised there, your parents married there. Or you can make a connection by attending church there regularly (this varies church to church as to how regularly and for how long you have to attend. ) should also attend when your bans are read. You may encounter problems if you have been married before or if you are related in any way.

    I hope that helps.
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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    As for charges. There is a set legal cost (c of e) that is somewhere around £300, but there will be extra charges for bells, heating, organist and whatever charges your actual chosen church add to it. Mine comes to around £650 inc organist, usher, bells, no flowers (you can provide your own, have the church florist arrange your flowers or stick to the standard church arrangements)
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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    We are getting married in a church that we have no connection with but I've always wanted to get married there as it's beautiful. We have to attend twice a month for six months before we get married. We are having our bans read at our parish church though.
    We paid 554 inc organist for the church. We are going to pay an extra 60 for the choir.

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    Katie, don't you have to have your bans read at both churches?
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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    No don't think so, they've only told us to have them read in our parish church. I will find out for definite though but the lady who deals with the booking has given us the 3 dates for our bans and she said we have them read at our local church,

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    • CarrieD26
      CommentAuthorCarrieD26
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 20th 2014
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    Definitely check. They are listed on our church bill, but I know I have to have them read at my Parish Church too and take the certificate with me on wedding day (or before if poss). I may be wrong, but that was the understanding I had.
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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    Well i wouldnt mind attending for a few months prior....

    I guess i just better enquire...

    Thanks for your assistance lately
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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    we were originally going to go for a church but the vicar said we would have to go along every sunday up until the big day next year and with my OH in the navy and goes to sea etc so he couldn't commit to that even though i could and the vicar said no! so we are having a civil ceremony now
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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    I think i may have found a venue that may be able to do both ceremony... im still not sure... i will consider enquiring with churches close to the venue...

    But i think i would be in the same boat as you @bride2b28, because my partner works all weekends.. so it would proove quite difficult... i guess i better start enquiring as i dont have much time.
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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    my venue is doing both for us, we are getting married on a wedding island outside and we thought about it and this way all our guests are in one place, they aren't having to get from the church to the venue etc we can just get everything into full swing straight after the vows
    xx

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    Proposed to me in Spain 22nd July 2014
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    • NaomiC8
      CommentAuthorNaomiC8
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    Yes i too much prefer that idea... it saves time. no one gets lost... only thing i hope is that there is a nice picturesque park for me to take my photos... something close, so guests can get there and back to the venue between the ceremony and reception...

    i am getting ahead of myself, i havent even booked my venue yet.... but this is what i hope...
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    Most priests and vicars expect one or both of the couple to be already attending that church before agreeing to marry you there unless you can prove a family connection.

    Some will agree to it if you agree to both attend every Sunday before the wedding.

    I attend church every week but got married in a church far away from the parish hubby and I lived in, but the priest didn't hesitate in letting us get married there because my parents got married there, my sister and I were both baptised there and I had my first communion there.

    Just approach the church you're interested in and see what they say.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 21st 2014
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    Be prepared to answer questions as to why you want to get married there and in a church if you haven't attended church for so many years.

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 22nd 2014
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    It depends on the denomination of the church. For Anglican churches, one of you needs to reside in the parish, or have resided in the parish for six months at some point, or attend the church. Then you have to have banns read there, and also in your local parish church if you live in a different parish. You also qualify if you were baptised there, your parents married there, or your parents lived there for six months in your lifetime. For the Catholic church I only know that one of you has to be baptised Catholic. For any other denomination it comes down to the civil registration district that you live in. If you live in the same registration district as the church then you can qualify to marry there on residency grounds, otherwise you will need to start attending it, so that you can qualify on the grounds that it is your regular place of worship. You will then need to give notice in the same way that you would for a secular wedding. Most vicars and ministers are happy to marry couples who don't attend church, providing you understand the Christian beliefs about marriage. You need to be happy to be prayed over and blessed, as this is an integral part of the Christian marriage service.

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    • Irishbride2be
      CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Oct 22nd 2014
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    its annoying because iv always gone to catholic schools all my life from primary through to secondary school i had my holy communion i also committed to the church and have my confirmation and attended church every sunday with my friend and her mum then i moved to devon and when i want to get married in a catholic church i was by the priest no because i can't prove that i am a devout catholic.....i have my communion certificate and my confirmation and proof of all my schools even my old priest were i used to live father Kevin said he would vouch that i went to church every sunday at his parish where i used to live and spoke to the priest here himself and he still said no! it completely knocked my faith in the church tbh and thats why iv opted for a civil ceremony!
    and its £700 the church is now losing out on by telling me no even though at service they are always asking for money and help with the church!

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    Proposed to me in Spain 22nd July 2014
    Getting married 12 september 2015
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Oct 22nd 2014
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    That's a shame bride2B2B. Some clergy are so jobsworthy, and end up alienating themselves and their church from the rest of society. You find it in any denomination. It wouldn't surprise me if a different Catholic priest would have been more than happy to marry you. My understanding is that one of you has to be a practicing Catholic, and you clearly have been and are prepared to be.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 22nd 2014
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 22nd 2014
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    I was lucky and had the understanding priests, 2 of them, my parish priest and the priest of the church we actually got married in, even though at the time I was going to another 3rd church close to work for convenience. I did end up changing where I attended mass because of it.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Oct 22nd 2014
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    Sorry, just to clarify, we had an RC church wedding x

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