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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 5th 2015
     
    Hello everyone :)

    So im struggling to choose bridesmaids etc. My partner has a lot of nieces on his side but i'd rather keep it to my sister, and a friend. My mum has never been a bridesmaid so im struggling to either make her a bridesmaid or maid of honour?
    Also - would you have partners nieces as bridesmaids to keep everyone happy? My partner isnt bothered.
    i already have my daughter and friends daughter as flowergirls so dont want any more of then
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Dec 5th 2015
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    Don't have people as bridesmaids just to please others. Being asked to be a bridesmaid is an honour for those the bride is super close to and really wants to be there for her on the big day and also help with preparations. They have to be trusted 100%.

    It's not usual for the MOB to be a bridesmaid but it's entirely up to you. Could she have another special role? Some brides have their mum or both mum and dad walk them down the aisle. My mum was a witness as I wanted her to have a special role as my dad walkedme down the aisle and aalso did the traditional FOB speech so being a witness was a way of including her in a special role on the day.

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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 5th 2015
     
    Thank you for replying! Yes i did think its not always about pleasing others and would also rather keep costs down. I just dont want them getting upset knowing im having friends instead of family but like you say its an honour for those that are close to the bride.
    As for my mums role i was debating having her as a maid of honour instead but didnt think of the other ways she could also be involved so thanks again x
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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Dec 5th 2015
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    We have asked our mums to be witnesses too as it gives them an extra special role in the ceremony. To be honest MOB is a special role already so she will always stand out amongst your guests. You can help her with her outfit - my mum has insisted on a massive hat and she looks lovely in it!

    And with regards to bridesmaids and flower girls, if you only want your daughter and friends daughter as flower girls its no one elses business why that choice was made because its your day and your decision. X
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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 5th 2015
     
    Thank you Kirsty i appreciate it :) im leaning towards my mum being MOH as i think she'd appreciate that. Can she be a witness even if she was the MOH (sorry if its a silly question)
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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Dec 6th 2015
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    Yes I think the only rule is they have to be over the age of 16 to sign the register so she can do both x
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    • LeanneR0186
      CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Dec 6th 2015
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    Will you mum want to wear the same dresses as the bridesmaid being MOH? Won't she want to stand out? Thats a lovely idea having the mums signing the register. We are just having our MOH and best man do ours. xx

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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 6th 2015
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    Fab thank you Kirsty :)
    I always thought MOH's have a different dress from the bridesmaids anyway? :)
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    • LeanneR0186
      CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
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    I guess it's up to you really, I am MOH for my best friend and wearing the same dresses as the bm and the same for my wedding. It's kinda like the best man, he's wearing the same suits as the groomsmen. Each to their own though, it's your wedding :) I just thought MOB was a role of it's own and MOH was usually a best friend or sister. xx

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
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    I think that's a lovely thought. Unusual but doesn't mean you cant do it.
    Yes she can be a witness. Any adult can be a witness even if they have another role in the wedding.

    I have seen it both ways. If I was having 3 bridesmaids I think MOH would wear a different dress with 2 I wouldn't though but some weddings all BMs wear different dresses anyway.

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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
     
    Thank you Emily. I was planning on having same dresses but my BM's having knee length dress and mum having floor length :)
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
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    Yeah I would do something subtle like that. The same dress different colour or a slight change like length like you have said.

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    • LeanneR0186
      CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
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    Just because it's not the done thing doesn't mean you can't do it. Its your wedding, you do what you want and I am sure your mum will be made up. x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
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    To be honest it did cross my mind to ask my mum to be my MOH, but I decided against it. As said above, MOB is a big enough and important enough role as it is anyway, and my mum knows how close we are and has a big role to play in the planning etc anyway :) if she was MOH though I would have asked her to wear a MOB outfit like normal rather than match the bridesmaids.

    My bridesmaids are 4 friends, no family members. Have my little cousin as FG but that's it.

    It's totally up to you what the arrangements are. Don't do anything just to please other people xx

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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
     
    Well said Leanne :) i have to remember its my wedding as im often replacing my wants and needs for other peoples.
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    • JessieT49
      CommentAuthorJessieT49
      Posted: Dec 7th 2015
     
    Flossie - Thanks hun, i would settle with MOB but i think the both of us want her to be something more :) especially as her wish was always to be a BM or something as her sister was chosen 4 times when she was younger and my mum never was so would love to give her something similar xx
 
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