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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2015
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    We have pretty much decided to have charity favours instead of sweets or shot glasses (that was actually our last idea) when we mentioned it to FSIL she turned her nose up. TBH I could care less about her opinion on anything (that's a whole other rant) but it got me thinking. If you were at a wedding and a charity donation had been made instead of a favour, would you feel like you'd been hard done by? I don't want to upset my guests, but let's be honest no ones day is going to be ruined by a lack of sweets at the table,is it?

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2015
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    I did think about this, if the charity is something close to your heart then go for it,

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    • TheNewMrsBarrett
      CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 16th 2015
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    My friend did charity donations for her favours, I thought it was a lovely idea. Can't remember which charity she donated to, but there were cards at each place setting explaining the different things the donations had paid for.
    We are getting charity pins for ours xx
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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
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    The ones we are looking at are a pin with a card saying instead of a favour, a donation has been made to...... So they would still get a pin, which will be a nice keepsake of the day if they want it to be. It honestly never occurred to me it might be a problem. I think we will go for it. The pins are very nice so hopefully no one gets the hump. X

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
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    We did them for [email protected] [email protected] It was something that was close to both our hearts as we both lost people very close to us to cancer.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    This is ours. We popped the charity card and chocolate coin in the gold envelope.

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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
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    I lost a very good friend this year so mine will be to BHF and his I think will be to the hospice who cared for his nan. You'd have to be pretty hard hearted to take offence at those choices I think.

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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
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    Ah they are lovely InDreamland.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    I agree. I say do it. For us it was more important than spending money on something we didn't believe people would take and keep.

    In my experience most favors are left behind. Guests aren't that interested in having some amazing favor so do something meaningful.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    Thanks Julie.

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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 17th 2015
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    OHs cousin did favours for [email protected] and we all got pins which most people immediately pinned to their outfit. If the cause is important to you, then a little less profit in [email protected] will make no difference to your guests. X
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    • CommentAuthorKjs2016
      Posted: Sep 17th 2015
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    we are having [email protected] [email protected] pin badges, very close to our hearts and in memory of my Mum - don't think anyone will have a problem with that but if they do - tough :-)
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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
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      Posted: Sep 18th 2015
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    If anyone does have a problem with it, its not like they woukd say anything anyway. How awful would they look going "why haven't we got got sweets as favours instead of these pin badges for charity?". x
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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
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      Posted: Sep 18th 2015
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    It's not something I would want to do. I'd rather give a gift, but it's YOUR day and nobody elses. If it's something you are passionate about, what has it got to do with anyone else? x
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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      Posted: Sep 18th 2015
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    I think it's a lovely idea and if it's something close to your hearts then why shouldn't you? I wouldn't turn up to a wedding expecting to be given something... if anyone turned their nose up at having a donation made to charity rather than receiving a small gift then that says a lot about them! You're already paying for them to attend the day.. for their meals(s), drink, etc.. xx

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    • princesspixie
      CommentAuthorprincesspixie
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      Posted: Sep 21st 2015
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    go for it i love the idea and think its much better than a gift like flossie says you're already paying for them to be there they should just appreciate being invited and remember how fortunate they are they don't need a charity xx

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    • LeanneR0186
      CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2015
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    We have been talking this week about doing a charity donation instead of favours, the last two weddings ive been too there have been so many favours left on the table, so I thought why not give it to charity. I never actually thought about people being funny about it. xx

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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
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      Posted: Sep 21st 2015
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    I've been to one that did a charity donation and I thought it was a really nice idea which is why I mentioned it to OH. He agreed it would be nice. Until she reacted the way she did it honestly never occurred to us that anyone might be funny about it either Leanne. I think we will go with it.

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 21st 2015
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    To be honest I think a charity donation is the way to go CR and the local hospital that cared for my mum until she passed away were so amazing. I think it is such a nice thing to do. As you say, there are many favors left at themed it's not worth the money xx

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    • LadyC
      CommentAuthorLadyC
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    We have been looking into this today. We've decided on RSPCA pin badges as we are huge animal lovers.

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    • EmmaH444
      CommentAuthorEmmaH444
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 24th 2015
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    This is what we are thinking of doing too, I'd rather the money went to a good cause. Good idea with the chocolate coin IDL :)

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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      Posted: Sep 25th 2015
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    Thanks Emma.

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    • Mrs D2B
      CommentAuthorMrs D2B
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      Posted: Sep 26th 2015
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    Sorry to jump on the thread but I love the idea of charity favors (I don't know why anyone would turn there nose up, especially when you are spending a huge amount of money to feed and entertain them on what is YOUR day, why should they expect gifts too?!) I was wondering how much did you donate per guest? If I were to give "gift" favors this would be something I would cut costs on aiming to do it for about £1 per guest but with only 65 guests I would feel like this would be a pretty rubbish donation so just wondering what others donated?

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    • JoanneH4
      CommentAuthorJoanneH4
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      Posted: Oct 7th 2015
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    It's a great idea to have the wedding favours as donations because it's a perfect way to the raise money for the charity of your choice
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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
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      Posted: Oct 7th 2015
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    Strange, I did reply to you mrsd2b but it didn't post. Suggested donations ranged between £1-£2.50 per person. The £1 ones you got a little poem on a card for each guest explaining what had been done. The more expensive ones you got a pin for each person, so they would still have something to keep from the wedding. I do feel the same as you to be honest, we are feeding,entertaining and providing a fair bit of drink for our guests. We aren't asking for gifts or money or anything either.

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    • JoanneH4
      CommentAuthorJoanneH4
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      Posted: Oct 8th 2015
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    Me and my H2B are having our guests give money to the charity, Macmillan. Then everyone will have a little thank you with a badge from Macmillan
 
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