Hi girls. Now then i have had my dad round this evening with his girlfriend and im very lucky my dad is paying for the majority of my wedding but he was alittle bit spoiling for a argument to night with who else is contributing to the wedding and if my mum was going to put anything (they are divorsed) towards it or was she just going to just turn up now thats fine and i understand that but my dad didnt overly contributed to my upbringing as a child and as soon as money wedding and my mum are brought up i know she will bring this up my oh parents arent arent contributing at the moment but im not overly expecting them to they are in there bubble and will just turn up. But i am completly lost and feeling slightly concern have a beautiful dress and venue and thats all im going to have along with my dearest fiancee mayb i should of opted for a holiday wedding :( thanks for help feeling very fed up :(

I agree with Kel maybe tell your dad she is contributing in some other way x

I have a pretty similar issue. My Mum left when I was 6, and she didn't contribute at all to my upbringing. When my Dad met this then girlfriend, my upbringing was terrible (I just lived an existence until I could escape). As it stands now, My Mum lives in Spain, and we see her twice a year. She hasn't changed much, but has given us some money towards the wedding. We are paying for most of it. My fiance's Dad is also contributing. I have also recently discovered my Dad has just been paid £16k redundancy at almost retirement age. My Dad has always been full of false promises and lies. He never keeps in contact, despite my efforts. My half brother said he will give us some money, but not until next year. I know my Dad very well, and it will all be gone by then. When we first got engaged my Mum was constantly bending my ear asking if I'm inviting him, and is he paying. To be honest I stood my ground for once, and said it is our wedding, and our business, and not discussing it. I am now not even going to tell my Mum about my Dad's pay off, and the lame offer of some money, it only gives my Mum ammunition to sl*g him off. Years ago, I would have lied to my Mum and said my Dad gave me some money, but why should I pander to her? I'd now rather say nothing. I'm still piggy in the middle 30 years after their divorce, and I'm not standing for it. My fiance is my absolute rock, as he has been with me for 10 years and knows what they are like. His support has given me so much strength, determination and confidence.

just tell him its not a competition!