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    • emmaleighta
      CommentAuthoremmaleighta
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    ive got a massive family and i kind of just wanted 3 or 4 bridesmaids all of which are my cousins but both my sister in laws have just sort of assumed that they are bridesmaids also.......what should i do????
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    • Mrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
      Got married 10 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    Tell them straight asap. (Nicely of course!)

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    • charlotteverity
      CommentAuthorcharlotteverity
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    you will just have to tell polietly that you have choosen your bridesmaids and that unfortunatly they arent going to be one. x




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    • CarolanneJune
      CommentAuthorCarolanneJune
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    yea just tell them there is nothing else you can do x
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    • bobbysgirl
      CommentAuthorbobbysgirl
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    is it money or princepal why you hadn't origionally thought of them? if it's money ask if they could contribute to their dresses? if you just don't want them talk with your fiance as it would be a good idea to have him on your side, then you can sit down together and tell them
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    • CeCe
      CommentAuthorCeCe
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    Grown ups need to STOP ASSUMING!!!!!

    You need to calmly with a smile and a tone of voice that means business say 'WE have chosen BM's and we are sticking with the cousins' ..simple.

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    • stranger23
      CommentAuthorstranger23
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    if you dont want them as your bridesmaid maybe give them another job to do to make them feel involved?
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    • emmaleighta
      CommentAuthoremmaleighta
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    its not money.....i was stupid really ive always imagined havvin my little cousins as bridesmaids an just never thought of havin my sister in laws as bridesmaids also. It did kind of tick me off that they just assumed id hav them. I sound really mean but this is a time where i want everythin my way an i guess it wudnt be so horrible to have them included in my wedding. It will cost alot more obviously. But on the day im not gonna care... Xx
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    • emmaleighta
      CommentAuthoremmaleighta
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    Aaahhh that's a good idea.....givving them another job to do....just gotta think of a job lol. Maybe one cud do flowers and another could do favours??
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    • charlotteverity
      CommentAuthorcharlotteverity
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    its your wedding day so you have a right to have everything your way and if ppl dont like it tough, your paying for it not them. x




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    • CeCe
      CommentAuthorCeCe
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    ...just wanting small kids as Bridesmaids is a PERFECT 'excuse' to use!

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    • pinkieprincess21
      CommentAuthorpinkieprincess21
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    i think you should tell them straight hun but maybe find different jobs for them to do! that way they will still feel involved in some way,. but dont do anything just to keep them happy, its YOUR day remember!!!! xxx
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    • ~* Jen *~
      CommentAuthor~* Jen *~
      Got married 9 years ago
      Posted: Apr 26th 2010
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    I'd love to just have small kids... it's a brilliant thing to say to make sure you get who you want. And make sure you do, because wedding planning is stressful enough!! xx
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    I'm not sure what to do about my bridesmaids and wondered what you all think.

    I will be asking my best friend who I have known since we were babies so that's sorted but my OH also has 3 sisters and a niece who will be 8 years old by the time of the wedding. I also have a sister, but things have been strained between us for a while as she has been stirring trouble towards my OH. Obviously I won't be asking my sister!

    The problem is that I would like to ask my OH's youngest sister as we get along well and have spent time together, whereas I don't really know the other 2 very well (one of them makes no effort at all and I only get hello/goodbye from her) I would also like to ask his little niece too as she's such a little poppet and I know that she would love being a princess for a day. I'm worried about upsetting the other sisters by only asking one of them, it also comes down to money and the expense of dresses, flowers etc as I could never ask them to pay for themselves. The only other option would be to chicken out and only have my best friend. I just don't want to upset anyone but also don't want lots of bridesmaids that I don't know and can't afford.

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 5th 2016
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    If you don't want to upset the other sisters, how about having your friend and his niece, then have the sister you get on with do a reading so it makes her feel included.

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jan 5th 2016
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    i just put myself in that position. if i wasn't close to you; i wouldn't expect to be asked to be a bridesmaid. any one who makes assumptions otherwise i find to be a bit full of themselves 'just because' they are his sisters doesn't give them an automatic right. and decent people will understand that. just ask the other sister and the neice

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    • Mrs Jones
      CommentAuthorMrs Jones
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 5th 2016
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    Have had a similar predicament. At the end of the day, it's not about anybody else, but about you and your OH and what you want. Have who you want and not who you feel obliged to have. If people want to get stroppy and funny about it, it's their problem, not yours and also selfish as it's not about them but about you.

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 5th 2016
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    I like Gfs idea to be honest x

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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 5th 2016
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    I was thinking the same as GF. No one can argue about you having the niece and if you have 2 readings, one could be from each side of the family so the sister you get on with is involved. X
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    • StephH96
      CommentAuthorStephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 5th 2016
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    Is the neice the daughter of the sister you want to ask, or one of the others'? (Hope that makes sense!)
    If its mother and daughter, simple easy explanation.
    If not then you shoudnt worry anyway as a) your wedding you choose and B)if they don't speak with you they shouldn't feel entitled.
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    The niece is the daughter of the sister who makes little or no effort. I don't think she would be bothered by not being asked and if her daughter is bridesmaid she should be ok with it, that just leaves the older sister. I am thinking of just having my BF and niece as its a safer option.

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