Wedding Forum - Bridesmaid...

You're angry at your sister for getting pregnant? For the sake of a dress? I highly doubt that she got pregnant just to 'ruin' your day. You're being extremely selfish in my opinion. Get a new dress and get over it.

Money shouldn't even come in to it - suck it up and get hunting for a new dress! Nobody likes a spoilt bride

I'm sorry but you sound like you are throwing your toys out of your pram! When you've calmed down, read back what you've wrote and you will see how selfish and childish it sounds. Just because she has got pregnant, it doesn't mean she can't be a bridesmaid. Dresses can be altered so that they accommodate a bump but it doesn't really sound like you want her there anyway as you are more worried about your dresses and hairstyles rather than being pleased for your sister and the arrival of a new niece/nephew. I've lost babies myself and completely agree with Elizabeth. Some people battle for months and years to get pregnant let alone give birth to a healthy baby.

In the circumstances, I'd get her to step down because you'll either get too p**ed off with her, she'll be ready to drop and won't need the stress of the build up, nor the pressure to fit her dress or if she's just given birth, then the last thing she will want to do is deal with wedding stuff. Either way, I doubt it will work with her as a bridesmaid especially as it sounds like you've made your mind up about not having her as a bm.. You two obviously clash regularly so it might be better for you all.

I get that this is a rant and it's frustrating when you've put money into your wedding but babies turn up unannounced and there's nothing you can do about it other than manage the situation as best you can. Either support her through the pregnancy and subsequent wedding or carry on as you are. If it really upsets you that much that your sister is 'taking your limelight', then move you wedding!

Can the dress you've bought for her be taken out? You've got plenty of time.

I did say it was a rant and to be perfectly honest i didnt expect any replies i know i sound spoilt but as i said it was a rant. Dont mean to offend she is due post wedding and i know its early days to be able to give an exact date and that and again it was a rant we do clash hence why i need to rant but she is my sister and i love the cow :P

I am wrried about money we have budgeted for everything thats all but that is a good idea mrs robson we arent getting any help from parents x

Sometimes we all need a bit of a rant and it's nice to throw your toys out of the pram occasionally and this is a good forum to blow off a little steam. It's far better to rant about you sister then have a heated argument where you say something to her that you don't mean later on.

I'm in a disagreement with my sister regarding dresses, she wants me to change my choice of bridesmaids dresses because she thinks they make her look pregnant although her A-line choice in my opinion makes her look more pregnant ;)

Sisters argue and chat smack to one another and then we forgive eachother, it's what sisters do.

Have you thought about returning your sisters dress and ordering a larger one that could be altered to fit when she's all plump and rosy? Or perhaps seeking out a seemstress who could recreate the dress to fit her and the new bump?

Sisters always disagree and in planning a wedding you will never please everyone and there will be comprise but at the end of the day you'll have a beautiful wedding and a wonderful husband to show for it.

Good luck

On the grand scale of things, it's just a dress and that can't compare to welcoming a baby niece or nephew into the world :) Steph I understand your frustration but there will be a way to sort everything out. Sorry if my comment seemed harsh x

You could definitely buy a bigger size to allow room for her bump and maybe get it taken in around the chest etc if needs be nearer the time :) if it doesn't suit her with a bump then it's not the end of the world, the main thing is she will be there with you sharing your special day! It will work out!

The thing with posting any sort of rant or even any post is that you will get opinions for and against not everyone agrees.

The other thing to think about but you would need to speak to you sister about this and it is only a suggestion if she is due August time she may not want to be a Bridesmaid Not that she doesn't want to more that she will be exhausted constantly feel huge and generally unable to carry out Bridesmaid duties but then again she may want to push through any pregnancy related 'illnesses' to be by your side on your special day.

I can see both sides to this, I think some of the comments were quite harsh towards you which I disagree with.... although pregnancy is a very delicate subject and people have strong opinions and emotions around the matter. It sounds like you knew your sister was trying for a baby, trying for a baby can be an awful experience if you are having trouble conceiving, I always laugh at my oh as he says he would avoid having a Christmas baby, he doesn't understand that if you've been trying for a baby and keep getting negative pregnancy tests you are not going to suddenly go... hang on if we get pregnant this month it's going to be born this month.... let's stop trying, as you wouldn't want to miss out on that month and would always be second guessing yourself thinking if we had maybe that would have been the month we fell pregnant.

However, I can also see your frustration at just buying the dresses. Although as someone said above, you have been told very early that she is pregnant, she may not have known for long herself and also she has told you earlier then most people would tell. You do usually wait for your first scan and unfortunately there is so much that can go wrong in those very early stages of pregnancy.


I think sending the dress back and ordering one a couple of sizes too large is a good idea as it means it can be taken in where it needs to and accommodate the bump. I also think it's an idea to speak to your sister and see if she really wants to still be a bridesmaid, as she may either have just had the baby or be ready to drop. However I think the best option is to get the bigger dress, have it altered and let her wear it, but let her skip some of the bridesmaid duties. That way she isn't making herself too tired and on her feet all the time, but she will still be in your photo's in the same dress as everyone else and she won't feel like your pushing her to the side because she's pregnant.