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    • StephF5
      CommentAuthorStephF5
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    I am getting married in August this year and finally bought my bridesmaid dresses in the sale that finally had all the sizes I need ranging from size 10 to size 22!
    So i ordered these and bought them and arranged for everyone to come try on when they could just to make sure they fitted. Then I got told by my mum that my sister is pregnant and and I am happy for her but she is due in August and now the dress wont fit her. I am really **** off because i liked them and I have spent a lot of money on these dresses and because I have such varied sized it was extremely hard to find a dress that would compliment all their shapes
    I have been told to get my sister a different dress but I dont want that because they are already having different hair and I just dont want that I am getting so peeved off with it all if i wanted different dresses i would have asked them to just buy their own dresses they might as well be normal sodding guests in my eyes i am just ranting because i thought i found the bridesmaid dresses but obviously havent so damn!
    and rant over
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    • ShannonK05
      CommentAuthorShannonK05
      Got married 5 years ago
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    You're angry at your sister for getting pregnant? For the sake of a dress? I highly doubt that she got pregnant just to 'ruin' your day. You're being extremely selfish in my opinion. Get a new dress and get over it.

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    • StephF5
      CommentAuthorStephF5
      Got married 5 years ago
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    As i said it was a rant everyone knows how expensive weddings are and missing the return date because you got told too late that one of your bridesmaids is pregnant is a shock and an unexpected payment i never said ruin and i am not complaining about my sister being pregnant just moaning because it was unexpected and a loss in my eyes
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    • SianP10
      CommentAuthorSianP10
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
     
    Money shouldn't even come in to it - suck it up and get hunting for a new dress! Nobody likes a spoilt bride

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    Why would you have arguments with your sister before she was pregnant that should would so that she was on your wedding day?

    Do you know how difficult it is for some people to get pregnant I don't know how long your sister has been TTC? You sound ,I've a very spoiled princess that always gets her own way and this time your not your throwing a tantrum. I'm so glad your not my sister.

    Personally I don't see the problem with one of your bridesmaids having a different dress after all she is YOUR SISTER fgs.

    Yes weddings are expensive but I don't see why it's a shock your sister is pregnant you've spoke sorry argued about it before as you said in your OP.

    As a mother who has lost two babies and highly unlikely to have the privilege of having any more babies I sincerly hope that your sisters pregnancy is a happy/healthy one because you will feel so much self hating if it's not.

    I am sorry if this is a bit harsh I wouldn't normally comment I try to stick by the if you've nothing nice to say say noting rule but I felt compelled to reply to your rant a rant which you really should have a problem with.

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    I'm sorry but you sound like you are throwing your toys out of your pram! When you've calmed down, read back what you've wrote and you will see how selfish and childish it sounds. Just because she has got pregnant, it doesn't mean she can't be a bridesmaid. Dresses can be altered so that they accommodate a bump but it doesn't really sound like you want her there anyway as you are more worried about your dresses and hairstyles rather than being pleased for your sister and the arrival of a new niece/nephew. I've lost babies myself and completely agree with Elizabeth. Some people battle for months and years to get pregnant let alone give birth to a healthy baby.

    In the circumstances, I'd get her to step down because you'll either get too p**ed off with her, she'll be ready to drop and won't need the stress of the build up, nor the pressure to fit her dress or if she's just given birth, then the last thing she will want to do is deal with wedding stuff. Either way, I doubt it will work with her as a bridesmaid especially as it sounds like you've made your mind up about not having her as a bm.. You two obviously clash regularly so it might be better for you all.

    I get that this is a rant and it's frustrating when you've put money into your wedding but babies turn up unannounced and there's nothing you can do about it other than manage the situation as best you can. Either support her through the pregnancy and subsequent wedding or carry on as you are. If it really upsets you that much that your sister is 'taking your limelight', then move you wedding!

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Also, I've just seen on your profile about how you are having 'bride wars with your own sister' ... Which speaks volumes about your relationship with her. Better for all concerned if you guys actually talked and sorting this out together...

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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Can the dress you've bought for her be taken out? You've got plenty of time.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    OATB and CharlotteE98

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    • StephF5
      CommentAuthorStephF5
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I did say it was a rant and to be perfectly honest i didnt expect any replies i know i sound spoilt but as i said it was a rant. Dont mean to offend she is due post wedding and i know its early days to be able to give an exact date and that and again it was a rant we do clash hence why i need to rant but she is my sister and i love the cow :P
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    • CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    If you are determined to have your sister as your bridesmaid & are worried about paying for a new dress, sell the old one & if the new one is dearer tell your sister she'll have to cover the difference.
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    • StephF5
      CommentAuthorStephF5
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    I am wrried about money we have budgeted for everything thats all but that is a good idea mrs robson we arent getting any help from parents x
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    You're overwhelming happiness for your sister should supersede any annoyance you feel re. the dresses. Believe it or not, having a baby is more important to some people than fitting into a bridesmaids dress.

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    • DeniseA23
      CommentAuthorDeniseA23
      Got married 4 years ago
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    Sometimes we all need a bit of a rant and it's nice to throw your toys out of the pram occasionally and this is a good forum to blow off a little steam. It's far better to rant about you sister then have a heated argument where you say something to her that you don't mean later on.

    I'm in a disagreement with my sister regarding dresses, she wants me to change my choice of bridesmaids dresses because she thinks they make her look pregnant although her A-line choice in my opinion makes her look more pregnant ;)

    Sisters argue and chat smack to one another and then we forgive eachother, it's what sisters do.

    Have you thought about returning your sisters dress and ordering a larger one that could be altered to fit when she's all plump and rosy? Or perhaps seeking out a seemstress who could recreate the dress to fit her and the new bump?

    Sisters always disagree and in planning a wedding you will never please everyone and there will be comprise but at the end of the day you'll have a beautiful wedding and a wonderful husband to show for it.

    Good luck




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    • Emmilou82
      CommentAuthorEmmilou82
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    I couldn't agree more DeniseA23...... It's good to have a rant and I think if you you can't throw your toys out on here then where can you?

    Ok, a lot of you disagree with what StephF5 has said but I'm actually shocked at some of these comments. Maybe constructive criticism may be a better approach!

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
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    On the grand scale of things, it's just a dress and that can't compare to welcoming a baby niece or nephew into the world :) Steph I understand your frustration but there will be a way to sort everything out. Sorry if my comment seemed harsh x

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    • StephF5
      CommentAuthorStephF5
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Thankyou people for underatanding it was a rant not me saying i dont want my sister we do argue and we argue a lot scream at eachother but then we always just get on with it and laugh about it but it is more just frustrating thats all i thought i found one but then boom i saod i was happy for my sister and excited but blimey it was a shock and a half i may see about trying to get a bigger one because i do like the dress and everyone did which i was originally happy aboit just need wages to be able to buy it and return the other one it was a rant i couldnt exactly do it to my sister i dont want to upset her and i couldnt to my mum because it would upset her again it was a rant
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    You could definitely buy a bigger size to allow room for her bump and maybe get it taken in around the chest etc if needs be nearer the time :) if it doesn't suit her with a bump then it's not the end of the world, the main thing is she will be there with you sharing your special day! It will work out!

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    • StephF5
      CommentAuthorStephF5
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    Thanks flossie, emmilou82 and denisea23 i just needed a rant will have a word with her when i see her fingers crossed they still have the dress in a bigger size she is the little one as well skinny cow lol
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
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      Posted: Jan 3rd 2015
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    The thing with posting any sort of rant or even any post is that you will get opinions for and against not everyone agrees.

    The other thing to think about but you would need to speak to you sister about this and it is only a suggestion if she is due August time she may not want to be a Bridesmaid Not that she doesn't want to more that she will be exhausted constantly feel huge and generally unable to carry out Bridesmaid duties but then again she may want to push through any pregnancy related 'illnesses' to be by your side on your special day.

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
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      Posted: Jan 4th 2015
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    Woah, your wedding in august shes only just pregnant and most people don't tell anyone till after they have had there 12 week scan so it hardley like she told you late.
    Did you tell everyone you were going to go buy the dresses before you did?

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 4th 2015
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    I can see both sides to this, I think some of the comments were quite harsh towards you which I disagree with.... although pregnancy is a very delicate subject and people have strong opinions and emotions around the matter. It sounds like you knew your sister was trying for a baby, trying for a baby can be an awful experience if you are having trouble conceiving, I always laugh at my oh as he says he would avoid having a Christmas baby, he doesn't understand that if you've been trying for a baby and keep getting negative pregnancy tests you are not going to suddenly go... hang on if we get pregnant this month it's going to be born this month.... let's stop trying, as you wouldn't want to miss out on that month and would always be second guessing yourself thinking if we had maybe that would have been the month we fell pregnant.

    However, I can also see your frustration at just buying the dresses. Although as someone said above, you have been told very early that she is pregnant, she may not have known for long herself and also she has told you earlier then most people would tell. You do usually wait for your first scan and unfortunately there is so much that can go wrong in those very early stages of pregnancy.


    I think sending the dress back and ordering one a couple of sizes too large is a good idea as it means it can be taken in where it needs to and accommodate the bump. I also think it's an idea to speak to your sister and see if she really wants to still be a bridesmaid, as she may either have just had the baby or be ready to drop. However I think the best option is to get the bigger dress, have it altered and let her wear it, but let her skip some of the bridesmaid duties. That way she isn't making herself too tired and on her feet all the time, but she will still be in your photo's in the same dress as everyone else and she won't feel like your pushing her to the side because she's pregnant.




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    • Mrs Richardson 2B x
      CommentAuthorMrs Richardson 2B x
      Got married 28 months ago
      Posted: Jan 4th 2015
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    Cheese and rice people please calm down!! This is supposed to be a place where we can all come and let the bridezilla out. Yes it's a great thing her sister is pregnant, she didn't say it wasn't, but she has every right to be alittle miffed off and no being spoilt or throwing her toys outta the pram she is simply saying "hey I'm happy for you but you've kinda thrown my wedding idea off now". I for one would feel exactly the same way and am not ashamed to say that I would. I'm sure you can get the dress altered or failing that maybe the better idea would be to ask her to step down but for right now, she has every right to feel the way she does and shame on ya'll fir making it seem like this isn't a place where she could come and vent that and find understanding xx

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