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    • TiffanyR759
      Posted: May 27th 2016
    Im in a pickle. I asked My best friend of many years to be Maid of Honour but she doesn't seem up to responsibility? On the other hand my other bridesmaid has booked all sorts for me and arranged meetings ect.

    Do i tell my maid of honour i only want her as a bridesmaid as its not fair on my other bridesmaid to be doing her MOH duty?

    • Shellbell
      Got married 31 months ago
      Posted: May 27th 2016
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    The best thing you can do is speak to her about it. Tell her you feel she isn't up to the responsibility. Then decide from there. xx

    Met 2004 lost contact after a few years
    Met again 2013
    Engaged July 6th 2016
    Married July 14th 2018
    • KirstyR386
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 27th 2016
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    There are a few possibilities here:
    1) worst of all, she might not be interested or want the role anymore so isn't getting involved. In this case you need to discuss with her as it may be best she step down.
    2) she may not realise quite how much was expected of her or so soon. This might just need a kick in the bum to help get her helping on things.
    3) she might feel pushed out by other bm who is helping that she's not sure what else to do. In which case giving her specific tasks to help with may help or get the two girls working together more.
    4) she might have other things going on in her life that your not aware of so sit and chat and find out what's going on. You are getting married and want her help but she is still your friend so take some time to catch up.
    Either way a chat over coffee may be the best thing so at least you know where you both stand and can make a decision going forward. X
    • StephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 28th 2016
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    Good post Kirsty :)
    • Louiseyweesey
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: May 28th 2016
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    I'd say your best option is to have a chat with her :-) Tell her how you're feeling but in a really positive way so she doesn't feel defensive and then see what she comes back with ;-) Good luck! xxxx
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