I got some lovely bridemaid dresses out the sale ex display 70% off the price I brought these in hope they would fit my bridemaids all of them did accept one which she said it didn't matter as she was going to loose 5 stone before the wedding it's now 2 Months before my wedding and she has said to me the dress is definitely not going to fit and it can't be adjusted to her size , now I'm in the dilemma of who should be buying her a new dress she told Me she would Loose the weight so I kept the dresses now 6 months on I can't return them I'm now having to folk out £200 for new dress for her she said she would Drop out of being a bridemaid or pay towards a dress but I feel guilty should I ?
CommentAuthorStephH96
I think she should pay for her new dress. Let's be honest 5 stone is a lot to lose and if she's not lost enough so that the dress can be altered she's clearly not made any effort. Sorry to sound so harsh but it's a lot of money for you to fork out so soon before the wedding.
CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
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I would ask her what her what she really wants to do, she either stays as a bm and pays for a new dress or she steps down. As a compromise I guess (if you have the money) you could go halves on the dress but really she should be paying for it. xx
The Richardson's 31/12/16
CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
You could also say to her that you will sell the one you have and put the money towards the new dress and she should pay the difference? xx
The Richardson's 31/12/16
CommentAuthorLauraH813
How much weight did she realistically need to lose for the dress to fit? If it was 5 stone or even close to that then I can't help thinking you are partly to blame for the situation you find yourself in now. She didn't buy herself a dress that was too small. In that instance I'm sorry but I think you should replace her dress. However if it's the case that she really only needed to lose a stone or so and clearly hasn't put the effort in then she has let you both down. She should definitely pay for the new dress. Selling the old one and putting money towards the new is a good idea as suggested.
I would say that if you really want her as a bm then compromise!
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CommentAuthorSamanthaW362
agree with steph 96
CommentAuthorEmily17
5stone is a hell of a lot to loose. The dress must have been a good few sizes too small for her. Because of this I would say you go halves on it. If it was only a little too small for her and she wanted to loose 5stone then I would say that she should pay for it in full.
If she can't afford to though I would ask yourself if you really want her as a bridesmaid. if the answer is yes then you need to consider splitting the cost with her. If not then the decision is pretty much made up...
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CommentAuthorFayeH
I'm with Laura
CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Eek that must have been really small for her in the first place no? I wouldnt ask anybody to lose five stone in order to fit in a dress that I had bought you should have exchanged it straight away.
I know it's a pain but why not go halves on a new dress??
My bridesmaid is a size 18, or so she says, every dress I have bought (because we live so far away I have to do it online) has not fitted her- I think she was lying about her size. I bought her a size 20 and cut the lable out and it fitted her like a glove. If thats what your friend did then it's entirely her fault but I would ask to pay half for a new one. Just put the other one on the bay ;-)
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CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
Stephanie you are so sweet doing that for your friend, saves her feelings and the dress fits. Win win xx
The Richardson's 31/12/16
CommentAuthorSarahL424
I think you should buy the new dress. You said it was your idea to buy dresses in the hope they would fit.
