Wedding Forum - Best man bailed...

So the best man and I have never got on. EVER.
I was willing to put differences aside for the sake of my h2b and let this idiot be his best man.
I dont know wether to bore you with the details but it will help you understand why we dont get on....
He has always hated me. I dont know if it was a jealousy thing like i was taking his friend away or something but he just hated me. He started messaging me dirry things on line in hope that i would sway from my partner... I told my h2b at the time and just told me to ignore him.
He has repeatedly. Ome between us. Telling my paryner to end things with me because im a cheat and il break his heart etc.
Just perry things that built up over the years and in recent uears had the audacity to call me a 'fat c-word' because u answered my paetners phone when he was driving.

All in all i cannot stand this man... My h2b has always let it slide as qe never actually see one another and apparently this is just how this guy is. (excuses basically)

Now me being ne have never ranted and raved about him to anyone apart from a couple of girl friwnds so people dont aee the fact me letting him be best man as really putting myself out there for my partners sake. I told h2b that i dodnt want him naking him a speech as he has nothing nice to say and the fact i genuinely cannot trust him to not embarass me in front of everyone.

This guy has a new gf and of course shes waded in and told him not to be best man because its not fair for me to ask him not to make a speech.
Now my partner is left with no best man as his other friend wont do it as he doesnt want to be in the middle of conflict.

I feel so sad that i started all this business.... Ive really let my h2b down and its only 13days tocgo until the big day.

Does h2b have a brother or a father who could be best man? Thank the lord he had stepped down as like you said if he had nothing nice to say then what's the point. How your hubby can sort a best man soon

He is obviously doing this just to throw another spanner in the works and try and ruin it for you both, so mean!!! Try to rise above i9t and not show him that you two are bothered. Cant believe someone can be so nasty so close to your big day! (im angry for you can you tell lol)

Yes hes still coming to the wedding which just makes me feel so mad inside.

OH asked his.other.friend last night to step in but he wouldnt do it. To be fair there is only 13days to the wedding and he seemed to be in the mind set of just enjoying the day as apposed to the responsibility which is fair enough.
I feel awful. If id have just kept my mouth shut abd acted like everything was ok he would still have a best man. I feel so sorry for OH..... It has just come at the worst time.

He said this morning he was just going to ask his Dad.

Yeah I'm with IDL- why should he still come to the wedding- surely OH ca. Now see what I true best mate man he is!

Fingers crossed that his dad will step in

I wouldn't have him at the wedding at all either! If he can't be respectful to you then there is no way he would be going!

Your OH seriously needs to man up and grow a pair! He was a complete tw@t re the stag - put through hell and now wants to keep the peace- seriously is this man for real- this mate is nothing more than a jealous child who can't stand to see happiness

I really hope the moron doesn't turn up!

He is obviously blind sighted and is use to constantly making excuses for his friend.. Hopefully if he doesnt turn up then your H2B will maybe finally see your side! x

So sorry this happened to you and your OH Steph and such a short time from your wedding as well. I really do agree with the other brides, he really isn't worth the stress. I get on with the OH best man but there are sometimes when he can be a dick. Fingers crossed now though your day runs as perfectly as it can. I would have taken the invite off him and his girlfriend they obviously don't appreciate what the day means for you as a couple. I do hope this will help your partner realise what he is like <3 xx

We've got two children together, I would never consider leaving the father of my children/the man who when all is said and done I love to the moon and back over some petty idiot with a jealousy problem.
That being said I have told him and yesterday after many hour of arguing he said the words, "maybe I was blindisghted- giving him this chance to prove himself and he hasnt risen to the occasion. Everybody told me he would do this and he has"
This seemed to end the argument, the fact he said it was enough for me.
I have said if he turns up that he respectfully ask him to leave- that or my ex-military 6"4 brother can do it hahaha.

Yes my OH is an idiot for sticking up for this tool but Im marrying him knowing he will always be the kind of man who would rather not get involved with frictions. He just needs to understand that this friend in particular is where I draw the line.

Thank you Lauren!

Hahahahaha.

Really cheered me up that post. Bahahaha:')