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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 10th 2015
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    My Martin of honor is my cousin, she baby day me as a baby. And had always been my cousin.
    I was bridesmaid at her wedding, and asked her to be my Martin of honor add I thought it would bring us closer, but I'd seems to have had the opposite effect.

    As matron of honor she did not organise anything, my other 2 bridesmaid have. And she seems to constantly be saying things to rustle people's feathers including my own. I know her and know she says theses things thinking she's being funny.

    Earlier she said something that had really talked and upset me, which may seem silly to some, but I posted up a pic of my ering that's come back from cleaning and replating.
    And she commented, "never knew your fingers were so hairy."

    I have allot of body confidence hang ups, but one of the things I've always liked was my arms and hands, and never noticed the but of hair and now it's all I can see. And it's passed me right of ages fine this to me and made me feel like this.
    I replied " thanks for that?, " my mum said about thought you were going to wear it till the wedding, to which I responded " no way, my fingers felt bare all well with our it "

    And then my cousin replied to that saying "I can assure you your hairy finger is not bare" just to run out in a bit more.

    Just over 2 weeks to go to the wedding, really been feeling the last month that I wish I had not asked her. And just had her daughter, but can't kick her out as she's family and she's always been there for me. Just not when it comes to the wedding.
    Am just going to have to suck it up.

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    • MrsC2bee
      CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 10th 2015
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    Could your mum or someone close to her not say to her to rein it in a little or does she realise that she's really upset you. Sounds like she jealous of you and the attention your getting which as moh is bang out of order! Or could you make a few hints at her that's she's upsetting you? If she carries on I would just poo poo what she says n carry on enjoying yourself and that will annoy her more than getting upset about her spiteful comments x
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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 10th 2015
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    OMG she needs a slap around the chops, Delete her comments and forget about them (I know how hard that is as I have body confidence issues myself), Just tell yourself she is not being very nice as she is jealous . Alternatively could you send her a message and let her know how much she has upset you?

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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jul 11th 2015
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    I would get your mom to speak to her. Tell her how crappy it's making you feel at what should be the most special time n your life. Don't take her comments to heart. Like the others have said she is just jeleaus of you xx

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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jul 11th 2015
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    I would invite her over for a cup of tea and say how much she is upsetting you. Play the innocent and say you know she was only meaning it as a joke but it has really got to you when you should be so excited for your wedding. The only thing she can say back is OMG I'm so sorry, I really did just mean it as a joke and didn't mean to upset you.

    If she says anything else, she isn't worth the time worrying about it because you will look fantastic on your wedding day. X
 
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