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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    I genuinely thought I knew what I was doing... Clearly NOT!
    We want too buy/rent a house next year before the wedding so decided on getting quotes/all planning done first so then all we have too do is save up and pay off but I can't seem too get my head round planning I thought I was on the ball but I feel like I'm drowning it's all so overwhelming

    I feel so stressed and lost and do t know what too do now?

    We've decided on a venue/menu/guest list and table plan but the rest is just completely boggling me

    Any helpful tips would be appreciated??

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    OK... first...

    Take a long deep breath and let it out with a blast... repeat... once more and relax...

    Secondly... you have 2 years... Don't bog yourself! You have tons of time. My OH and I got engaged 2 years ago last week and will be getting married in 7 weeks and we decided on this... solve 1 thing a month.

    In regards to your table plan... as much as its great you have it done, scrap it. Why? because A LOT will change between now and then due to circumstances outwith your control.

    The next thing I would suggest looking into and taking your time with is a photographer. They do tend to be booked up years in advance but don't let this make you rush into anything. Make sure to ask if you can see a full example of a wedding they covered, whats included, do they require feeding on the day, how do they work, whats their contingencies if they are sick?

    If you're on a budget, look into photography students who are looking to expand their portfolio.

    Don't rush into bridesmaids. Make sure you choose people who WILL support you throughout this process and who will remind you to be realistic when you are going OTT but also supportive when you're feeling overwhelmed. These people are the ones who will you get you into your dress on the day so make sure they're people you want in the room and are willing to work hard.

    Do you want a theme? colour scheme?
    Band/DJ?
    Religious/Registrar/Humanist Wedding (humanist is what I am having and is legal in Scotland but not in England)
    Don't rush into wedding dresses either, again take your time and try on styles you wouldn't think to try. You'll surprise yourself.

    Hope this helps and remember... take your time, you have tons of it and if you start feeling overwhelmed? turn off your phone and go for a long walk, if you have a dog even better and just empty your head of anything wedding related.

    There is also a checklist available in one of the main threads.

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    I do have a colour theme; and a photographer in mind who's work we have seen I've also brought lots of things myself

    Thankyou for your help I'm a Virgo so think that's why I'm so stressed about planning everything lol

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    Deep breath!

    You have 2 years to deal with the detail of the wedding. Once you have the date set and venue booked if you wanted you can actually wait 12 months before arranging anything else.

    My hubby and I managed to sell 2 properties, buy one house and plan our wedding all in the space of 14 months. It is possible but you need to decide what is a priority to tackle. Details often can be done a few months before the wedding such as table plans.

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    Good god indreamland you are superwoman lol

    The date is only a thought atm as H2B is also being made redundant this year at some point

    But I wanted something too work towards?

    Thankyou very much victorial46

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    Lol, not really, I'm just good at planning and organising and know how to prioritise. I didn't mention that during that period my job was at risk of redundancy too, luckily I kept my job but it was a stressful time.

    You can do it, just need a clear plan. I put together a planner for the wedding marking out dates important things had to be done. It's amazing how much time you actually have to do things.

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    In that case I wouldn't worry about anything at the moment because you pretty much can't organize anything until you have a venue. I'm sorry to hear your other half is being made redundant :( seems to be a lot of that going around and with that in mind I would probably put a hold on wedding planning for the moment until you're back on your feet.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    We also completely renovated our house in that time keeping an eye on the builders and choosing new kitchen, bathrooms, carpets, paint colours etc as ripped out entire inside of the house before moving in 5 weeks before the actual wedding.

    You can achieve a lot in 2 years! Just take it one step at a time.

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    I still think you're some kind of super hero indreamland lol
    And it's awful victorial46

    I just feel like I can't be excited about anything cus everything's on its uppers atm I feel like a letdown

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    You shouldn't feel like a let down, just concentrate on what is important.

    Sorry your h2b is being made redundant, he needs to find himself a new job ASAP and then if you find a perfect venue a couple of years ahead it gives you tonnes of time to get your own home and arrange a wedding.

    My sister and BIL got engaged and concentrated on getting their home sorted first buying a flat and decorating. 3 months after moving in they set the date for their wedding and planned it all in 6 months.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 25th 2015
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    Just remember where there's a will there's a way. Things have a way of working themselves out , and we're all here for those times when you need to offload. Believe me, back in 2012 and early 2013 the ladies on here had no end of my stresses and moans, mainly from house moving renovating stress, the wedding stress was minimal.

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    Luckily he's getting a good redundancy payout which will pay off his debts thank god then he's looking too get straight into work I cannot knock him he is a grafter bless him; I hate moaning lol but felt like my head was going to explode last night
    You're all so supportive more so than people I know in real life! I think it's because we are all brides/brides too be

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    People won't understand unless they've planned a wedding on top of all the other things life throws at you.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    I find though that it helps to break everything down into little chunks and to decide what is the most pressing and important things to deal with and what can actually wait. Makes things much easier to sort xxx

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    Yeah I totally agree lol not a lot of people want marriage nowadays either not the one I k ow anyway so they'll never understand that side of things yes I'm going too try and sort all the budget out over the next few days (and remember too breathe)

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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    You have 2 years, a hell of a lot can change in that time, no panic :)

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    Sounds like you're just feeling overwhelmed and need to bring things back down to some basic things and break down bigger tasks into easy to tackle pieces.

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    Yes deffo in dreamland

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    Sit down, make a list, then tick things off when done

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    • CarolH81
      CommentAuthorCarolH81
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 26th 2015
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    Agree with GF make a list prioritise and do the most important things first ie venue and photographer. Then tick them of one at a time, don't rush take your time you have 2 years to go. I started planning mine in February for October this year! 2 weddings plus we are going away week before the weddings. Just relax and enjoy the planning.
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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jul 2nd 2015
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    Sorry girls been terribly poorly again

    I'm starting too sort my head out; breathe and plan things in a less stressful way than before

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    • AmandaK74
      CommentAuthorAmandaK74
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 2nd 2015
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    i agree with the others you need to keep calm other wise you will make yourself ill.
    2 years is a good amount of time to organise your wedding we planned ours over 18 months and that was plenty of time, we drew up a monthly plan and it has work out great, i strongly recommend you sort out what you want from your wedding, who you want it to involve, how many guests you can afford, the prioritise your tasks.
    good luck and enjoy the process

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jul 3rd 2015
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    I've got the venue picked and rough idea of menu also the amount of guests etc; been working on the budget and have been a lot more chilled out thankfully

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 4th 2015
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    You'll be fine. There's a lot that you can't confirm at this stage. Working out your budget is the key so that you know what you need to save and what you already have. Until you are in a position to confirm a venue and date and put a deposit down on your venue you can't start confirming other bookings anyway, so you need to focus on getting the finance established. You might find that you need to be cautious with making arrangements until your H2B's situation is more secure anyway, as you don't yet know what his future income is going to be. Drawing up a provisional guest list is a good idea as it gives you some idea of how much things are going to cost, but remember that not everyone will come, even those who you are certain will move heaven and earth to be there may surprise you, and you may meet other people who you really want to include. The stage that you are at now can actually be quite fun, as you can spend lots of time dreaming and coming up with ideas, and change your mind as much as you like until you get to the point of starting to commit financially to things.

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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jul 5th 2015
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    I'm deffinately a dreamer lol! He's hoping too go into a job that pays between 30-60k a year depending on how high up the ladder you go so hopefully that goes too plan! I'm also expecting a huge payout for a claim that's been going through during the last 3 years; I have decided 100% on no kids and 50 guests max who will be there from start too finish and drawn up a guestlist too fill the 50 numbers and I can cut and paste where needed if that makes sense??

    Budget is key at the moment though and I've been working on that in between being seriously poorly
    Hopefully it'll all come together when we need it too I'm feeling a lot less stressed now thank god; also getting quotes for everything so we have a rough idea for what we need too save for etc

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    • RachaelB76
      CommentAuthorRachaelB76
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 5th 2015
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    sounds like you have a good idea to sort it all out. can definately be done. we reserved a new build then got engaged, then moved in and sorted house out along wiht job rotations etc. It can definately be done just stay relaxed. So far iv found wedding planning is do a lot of booking and paying deposits then relax until nearer the time when it picks up again. enjoy it though xx




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    • FutureMrs-B
      CommentAuthorFutureMrs-B
      Got married 32 months ago
      Posted: Jul 13th 2015
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    We've been looking at buying a flat this past week and have a mortgage appointment tomorrow so hoping that comes together before h2b loses his job so we have some sort of security at least

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