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    • CharlotteE98
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 6th 2015
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    Sorry, but I really need to have a rant!

    We have 3 weeks to go and my FMIL has been fretting about whether or not we've organised her a buttonhole, If the pictures she wants are on the photographer's list (her and H2B's Aunties and Uncle and H2B with his Sister and Brother), what my Mum is wearing because she doesn't want to clash and whether we should get some umbrellas in case it rains (apparently his Sister bought some before her wedding last year and sold them back on bay of e afterwards). I've told her several times that the photos that she wants are on the list and we've sorted her a buttonhole, but I have no idea what my Mum's outfit is like.

    My Dad lives in Cirencester and my Half Sister is Bridesmaid. Our wedding rehearsal is on the Thursday before the wedding and we've been told that we need at least one Bridesmaid and one Usher there. Bearing in mind that they will be driving down to Braintree on the Friday anyway, my Dad won't take my Half Sister out of school to come to the rehearsal (it's illegal and he's a parent governor so it wouldn't look good). He is driving down from Cirencester on the Thursday, doing the rehearsal, driving back to Cirencester afterwards, then driving back to Braintree on the Friday once my Half Sister has finished school and my Stepmum has finished work. Looks like I'm not going to have Bridesmaid or Flowergirl at the rehearsal because my Sister is being awkward and has decided that my 2 year old Niece will be too tired to do it. My Dad phoned on Friday wanting to know where my Half Sister and Stepmum are sitting at the reception, despite me telling him at Christmas that they're both sitting on the top table. He didn't want them sitting with people they don't know, which I wouldn't have done anyway. My Mum has agreed that he can collect his suit from her house as I don't really want to be taking it to a wedding rehearsal and we're going to have enough running around to do, but when I told him I got 'we won't be arriving in Braintree until 8/9 o'clock on the Friday'.

    One of my younger Sisters lives in Leeds and she is an Usher and doing a reading. Her Boyfriend's Mum is extremely poorly at the moment and they're not sure if he'll be able to make the wedding. She didn't come to my hen night because she had no money, but she had said that she would be coming down on the Thursday and would be here for the rehearsal, and her Boyfriend would drive down on the Friday once he's finished work. She's now being very vague about what her plans are, which is very infuriating because she's supposed to be staying here with me.

    And the church have managed to muck up our final invoice so there's been emails pinging backwards and forwards trying to sort it out. FMIL wanted to speak to H2B's Uncle to see if he could sort it out as he's Treasurer. I really don't know why because there's not much he can do and it would probably take a week for her to ask him.

    Aaaannnd breeaaatthhe!
    • InDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Apr 6th 2015
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    Deep breath!!

    Just remember, everything will work out fine in the end. Things have a way of working themselves out, sounds like everyone has genuine other issues going on and I'm sure though that they will do what they can to make sure everything works out fine for you x

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    • CharlotteE98
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 6th 2015
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    I can understand my Sister, but FMIL's unnecessary fretting is doing my head in!

    As for my Dad, I've told him he'll need to have a conversation with my Mum to sort that out.

    Smile and nod :o)
    • KirstyR386
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Apr 6th 2015
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    Next time she has a fret, pass the phone over to your h2b and ask him to deal with it. She probably just wants to make sure everything goes right for you day so her own son may be able to reassure her more and this takes the stress off you.

    I imagine every couple experiences these last minute panics and I'll probably be here in a years time writing something similar to you. As long as you have everything sorted as you want, the small things won't matter on the day and you'll have a fantastic time. X
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