Wedding Forum - Are you inviting the FMIL?...

Im unsure whether to invite mine? We get on fine but dont make any particular effort to see or speak to eachother. H2B said not to bother as it really isnt her thing but I want to her to feel involved in some way and I cant really take her to dress fittings coz my mums friend is doing it in her house. The other problem is that if she comes her mum will probably want to come as well which is a ball ache as she needs a fair bit of care and it wouldnt be that fun really for FMIL and my 3rd BM who is FMILs niece.
Are you inviting yours?

Replied to this as wedding not hen do! Sorry haha I am having two hen do's one for family and one for friends she is invited to my family one (will be dinner and something else nice)

I have invited my FMIL to my hen party! She's more excited than my own mother haha!

My mil won't come to the hen do, but I will still ask her.

Ill be inviting mine as we get on very well - although I don't know what kind of hen party we will have yet! Perhaps a spa day/manicure treatment etc.

If you don't invite her she might feel left out or take it the wrong way, but if you do invite her then she has the option of saying yes or no, especially if it isn't her kind of thing.

well my mil2b refuses to come as she "doesn't feel welcome" (total BULLSH!T weve always gone out of our way to make them feel welcome and on our engagement they completely ignored my parents and when we were all leaving the just walked off and they and my paretns drew level at the traffic lights and my parents went to wave but his parents stopped further back so tey wouldn't have to! TOTAL BUTTWADS!) and "not been involved" shes being a total bizzle... my mum hasn't been involved with organising my hen its all my sister (moh) and my bestie and her bestie.... out of three bridesmaids ive got ONE yes ONE! coming. I feel relieved shes not coming but h2b suggested a separate night with her and his aunties! erm.... NO! his family just wind me the shiz up....

I am having 2 Hen Nights. 1 in the UK a local night out with Cocktail making, food as well as drinking and dancing. The other is 4 days in Portugal.

The one in Portugal is friends only and the local one is friends that are coming to Portugal plus family/other close friends. I am inviting my FMIL to my UK one but then again we get on really well to the point that she was with me and Mum when we went dress shopping and we often text each other etc.

My Sister invited her MIL to her hen night, but she didn't want to come. I think I'd feel obliged to invite mine then she feels involved, as others have said. We're thinking of doing a couples night out (friends and their OH's) and then OH has his stag night and I have my hen night with family etc.

I had FMIL and hubby's aunties as I get in really well with them and he only has a sma close knit family so it was fine :-)

It's up to you who you invite

I will be inviting my fmil as we do have a good relationship, we often go out for lunch or have a wine afternoon, I'm choosing something with entertainment to start the evening off as I want a good ice breaker as I will have people of different ages and who have not met before, I've found a cabaret thing which has strippers handing out cocktails and then doing a strip routine and try to embarrass the hens for a giggle, then there is a drag routine, after the cabaret has finished you then get VIP access to the nightclub, so if the older ladies want to call it a night they can do, my other half giggled when I said I was taking his mum to see strippers :)

God No Im not even inviting her!!! We dont not get on, but it would just be totally awkward! H2B is ok with me not inviting her :) x

Haha there are some great responses on this post! Nope havent invited my FMIL or FSIL's, i dont not get on with them but i rarely see any of them, only ever hear from FMIL about wedding related things as she's very interfering! lol!! I think its more about you and your friends/sisters etc than Grooms side! xx

Hell yes Im inviting mine - she's great! 62 years young and life n soul of the party! She can often be found in her local with her hubby supping pints!! :-D

My FMIL asked and i said no... Told her it would mean id have to invite my mum and she would be embarrassing and she couldn't really argue with that

I'm inviting Mum and MIL2B, and I suspect the MIL2B will show the younger ones how to party the night away. Catherine, I don't think I'd feel right inviting H2B's mum and not my own. Fortunately it's not an issue.