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    • StephanieK77
      CommentAuthorStephanieK77
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    Im unsure whether to invite mine? We get on fine but dont make any particular effort to see or speak to eachother. H2B said not to bother as it really isnt her thing but I want to her to feel involved in some way and I cant really take her to dress fittings coz my mums friend is doing it in her house. The other problem is that if she comes her mum will probably want to come as well which is a ball ache as she needs a fair bit of care and it wouldnt be that fun really for FMIL and my 3rd BM who is FMILs niece.
    Are you inviting yours?
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    • Bride of Frank
      CommentAuthorBride of Frank
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    I have invited fmil and some other members of OH's family but they haven't all been able to make it, so perhaps if you ask her she might say no anyway? especially if its not their kind of thing. Its a nice way for the 2 families to become acquainted before the big day though if they did say yes :)
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    • AlexN29
      CommentAuthorAlexN29
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    Replied to this as wedding not hen do! Sorry haha I am having two hen do's one for family and one for friends she is invited to my family one (will be dinner and something else nice)
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    • StephanieK77
      CommentAuthorStephanieK77
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    Well we are going to a spa and afternoon tea, (not her thing) but then a meal followed by a night out so she could come to the meal but its an hour away from hers so not sure she will come just for that.She has met my family before at my sons birthday party. OHs family is pretty small and mostly male. The only females are FMIL, a cousin (BM) and his cousins wives but they have young kids and live quite far away so wouldnt come. TBH there are only about 15 people coming anyway. Im not sure if i should be inviting aunties, cousins and other women who are coming to the day or just close family and friends?
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    • CommentAuthorMattsBride
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    I have invited my FMIL to my hen party! She's more excited than my own mother haha!
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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    Im not sure whether to invite mine, my mum and her are like nearly exactly the same age, but while my mum is youthful and fun etc, his mum looks and acts like shes atleast 20 years older. May inviter her but say to her if its not her kind of thing, I won't be offended but don't want her to feel like shes not wanted.

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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    My mil won't come to the hen do, but I will still ask her.

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    • clairenina
      CommentAuthorclairenina
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    I'm not sure if I'm having a hen party, but if I did I wouldn't be able to invite my fiance's Mum as she is quite old and has Alzheimers. If this wasn't the case, I would invite her
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    • VickiS63
      CommentAuthorVickiS63
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    Ill be inviting mine as we get on very well - although I don't know what kind of hen party we will have yet! Perhaps a spa day/manicure treatment etc.

    If you don't invite her she might feel left out or take it the wrong way, but if you do invite her then she has the option of saying yes or no, especially if it isn't her kind of thing.
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
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    It would be a nice idea to invite her as she'll feel more involved - I often think that the mother of the groom often gets the bum deal in weddings as it's hard to slot in and have a role! :) xx

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
      Got married 6 years ago
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    well my mil2b refuses to come as she "doesn't feel welcome" (total BULLSH!T weve always gone out of our way to make them feel welcome and on our engagement they completely ignored my parents and when we were all leaving the just walked off and they and my paretns drew level at the traffic lights and my parents went to wave but his parents stopped further back so tey wouldn't have to! TOTAL BUTTWADS!) and "not been involved" shes being a total bizzle... my mum hasn't been involved with organising my hen its all my sister (moh) and my bestie and her bestie.... out of three bridesmaids ive got ONE yes ONE! coming. I feel relieved shes not coming but h2b suggested a separate night with her and his aunties! erm.... NO! his family just wind me the shiz up....

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    • VickyB70
      CommentAuthorVickyB70
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 14th 2014
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    I invited mine thinking she'd say no but she's well up for it lol!! My oh is so worried about her lol x
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    • Mrs T. 2 Be
      CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
      Got married 6 years ago
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    I am having 2 Hen Nights. 1 in the UK a local night out with Cocktail making, food as well as drinking and dancing. The other is 4 days in Portugal.

    The one in Portugal is friends only and the local one is friends that are coming to Portugal plus family/other close friends. I am inviting my FMIL to my UK one but then again we get on really well to the point that she was with me and Mum when we went dress shopping and we often text each other etc.

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    • LauraK7
      CommentAuthorLauraK7
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I am having 2 separate events as want my little bridesmaid to come to one, so having a champagne afternoon tea(squash for kids) that il invite my mum and fmil along too and and then having a 90's clubbing night with all my friends
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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
      Got married 5 years ago
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    My Sister invited her MIL to her hen night, but she didn't want to come. I think I'd feel obliged to invite mine then she feels involved, as others have said. We're thinking of doing a couples night out (friends and their OH's) and then OH has his stag night and I have my hen night with family etc.
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    • AH86
      CommentAuthorAH86
      Posted: Mar 15th 2014
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    No chance! My main hen do is friends and family to extent of sisters, brothers partners including sis in law (but I doubt she'l come) and then having a nice spa afternoon and lunch with the bridesmaids and mothers and female fam :)

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    • Officially Mrs M
      CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
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    I had FMIL and hubby's aunties as I get in really well with them and he only has a sma close knit family so it was fine :-)

    It's up to you who you invite

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    • Chelseyfj
      CommentAuthorChelseyfj
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Yep mine is invited, even though she is miserable lol
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    • The-Future-Mrs-B
      CommentAuthorThe-Future-Mrs-B
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I will be inviting my fmil as we do have a good relationship, we often go out for lunch or have a wine afternoon, I'm choosing something with entertainment to start the evening off as I want a good ice breaker as I will have people of different ages and who have not met before, I've found a cabaret thing which has strippers handing out cocktails and then doing a strip routine and try to embarrass the hens for a giggle, then there is a drag routine, after the cabaret has finished you then get VIP access to the nightclub, so if the older ladies want to call it a night they can do, my other half giggled when I said I was taking his mum to see strippers :)
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    • Sonya
      CommentAuthorSonya
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      Posted: Mar 15th 2014
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    I did in the hope she would say no but at least I'd asked!! She did say no, phew!

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    • SJJ
      CommentAuthorSJJ
      Posted: Mar 16th 2014
     
    God No Im not even inviting her!!! We dont not get on, but it would just be totally awkward! H2B is ok with me not inviting her :) x
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
      Posted: Mar 16th 2014
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    You don't have to invite her. Hubby's mum passed Away years ago so I didn't have that issue but I didn't invite my SIL and my sister when she got married didn't invite her MIL to her hen xxx

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    • AmyH608
      CommentAuthorAmyH608
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Mar 17th 2014
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    Haha there are some great responses on this post! Nope havent invited my FMIL or FSIL's, i dont not get on with them but i rarely see any of them, only ever hear from FMIL about wedding related things as she's very interfering! lol!! I think its more about you and your friends/sisters etc than Grooms side! xx
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    • Mel D
      CommentAuthorMel D
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      Posted: Mar 17th 2014
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    I invited mine to the day stuff, but not the evening stuff

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    • CommentAuthorFranM76
      Posted: Mar 17th 2014
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    Hell yes Im inviting mine - she's great! 62 years young and life n soul of the party! She can often be found in her local with her hubby supping pints!! :-D
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    • GemmaW12
      CommentAuthorGemmaW12
      Posted: Jun 15th 2014
     
    Ive invited mine but its in benidorm and she's scared of flying so isnt coming anyway x
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    • AH86
      CommentAuthorAH86
      Posted: Jun 15th 2014
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    My FMIL asked and i said no... Told her it would mean id have to invite my mum and she would be embarrassing and she couldn't really argue with that

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
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    Wow, how unfair AH86.. Just because your Mum is embarassing and can't control herself, why should your H2B's Mum miss out? I wouldn't dream of doing that but each to their own I suppose.

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2014
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    I'm inviting Mum and MIL2B, and I suspect the MIL2B will show the younger ones how to party the night away. Catherine, I don't think I'd feel right inviting H2B's mum and not my own. Fortunately it's not an issue.

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    • Katya
      CommentAuthorKatya
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 15th 2014
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    HELL NO!!!! No frickin way! I would rather have a spa day on my own with my kids playing loudly with their cars in the corner than spend my hen do with my FMIL... we DO NOT get on at all!

    We will be having a sten do anyway. There are not many people we know that we would want to invite so we are having a joint do to make up numbers.

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