So.. we aren't getting married for 3 years, which is a long time away but I want to finish uni first and we've got to save up some money. However, we have found the perfect wedding venue and my dad has very kindly offered to give us the deposit to book the date. When speaking to people about it, some have been shocked and commented that it's far too early and they've made me feel a bit silly. I know it's early but firstly, we wanted to do things a little bit at a time so we had time to get money together and also.. I'm excited. 3 years is a long time and if I had my way, I would do it sooner, so if I can do something, anything, that's a bit wedding related.. I want to do it! What are your thoughts though? We definitely won't change our minds about the venue, it is exactly what we are after so that won't be a problem. But is there anything else we should be thinking about if we are going to be booking this early? Or are others right and should we hold off? Thanks in advance xx
CommentAuthorEmmilou82
Firstly congratulations...... My opinion, if the venue allow you to book that far in advance then I don't see why not. A) it gives you a secure wedding date and B) I feel if you have a venue booked, it gives more incentive to save and make payments. At the end of the day, it's your wedding and if your happy to book now then go for it. Stuff what anyone else thinks xx
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CommentAuthorMrs D2B
Congratulations!! If you've found a venue you love then go for it. I' booked mine almost 3 years early and glad I have! Once you have somewhere secured you can relax and do things at your own pace.
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CommentAuthorErinP42
Absolutely nothing wrong with booking this early, my sister has had her venue booked since January this year and she's not getting married til August 2018. She had her heart set on that venue and that date so booked it because it's what she wanted & like you won't change her mind on the venue.
CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
Congratulations! I agree with Emm, it's YOUR wedding. Have they given you a package/price? If so, I would be tempted to get it agreed in writing just in case their prices go up. I did this with our venue as we booked almost 2 years in advance and didn't want to get a nasty shock nearer to the wedding lol xx
If you want to book 3 years in advance then that's your decision and no one should stop you, though from a personal point of view I think 3 years is a little too early. We booked 2 years in advance and 'weddings' just fill your head... if I had my head full of wedding stuff for 3 years I think I'd go a little nuts! Also if you take out wedding insurance make sure they will cover your deposit for the venue, as I think lots of insurance policies only cover deposits paid up to 2 years before the wedding.
Do whatever you feel comfortable with, it's your decision and your day xx
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CommentAuthorJennK
I agree with what Floss said about filling your head with wedding stuff, it can be hard to switch off and 3 years is a long time to go round and round In circles looking at centre piece options and chair covers etc ;)
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CommentAuthorKayleighS46
We booked the venue just over 2 years in advance and been saving ever since - has made this a lot easier for us xx
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CommentAuthorEmily17
We booked in Jan for Oct 2017 and would do it again.. means that we got the exact date and venue we wanted and didn't have to compromise.
I was worried about insurance because of what Flossie said but called up d3b3nh@ms a few months ago who told me that deposits paid before are covered but that you can only take out the insurance 2 years before. So if anything happened between now and taking out insurance that wouldn't be covered but as soon as you have it they are covered.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
That's helpful to know Emily re. insurance.. we took ours out with D3bs too but we realised we actually paid our venue deposit just before the 2 year mark so I've been a bit worried if god forbid anything went wrong we wouldn't be covered for that... but now I know we would be. So thanks!! x
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CommentAuthorJordanG99
My head is already filled with wedding stuff ha I'm too excited :D but I do think 3 years would be better cos I'm on quite an intense course so I won't have time for weddings to take over, rather it'll be a nice distraction from uni work that I can just plan little things until a bit nearer the time. Thanks for all your help though ladies, we had a good chat with the venue people once already and I wrote down a lot of the things she told me so will be going back over all that when we do come to booking. I hadn't thought about the insurance, so will put that on my (long) list of things to ask/check. She did say also that the hire prices haven't changed in a few years and are unlikely to (it's a family-run little country pub place) but to allow for a maximum of 10% price increase for food as this would be natural inflation over the years, so we have factored all of that into our budget. It's all things we're going to go over in much more detail anyway :) Wish me luck! :) xx
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
I have been engaged since 2008 and have been filling my head with wedding stuff!!!! We have decided on a venue but they won't let us book more than 2 years in advance anyway (We're looking at September 2017) so have to wait til then but if I had my way, it would've been booked!
Can I point out that your father thought it was good to book it now otherwise he wouldn't have offered to pay for the deposit.
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CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
We booked our wedding 2.5 years in advance. If it's somewhere you love and they are able to book that far in advance I'd say go for it. One thing off your list to do x
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CommentAuthorTashyM
If you found it early why not
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I booked my venue 37 months in advance and I had all of the big things sorted by January of this year, I am now just under the 12 months to go and I am sooo not stressed. I know exactly how much I have to save and what needs to be done and when. I love my venue and now go back for spa days to visit :) It will also help you cement your budget I think because you start to know exactly what you can and can't afford and if you do go a little over budget you have time to claw it back in savings xx
CommentAuthorTanyaS78
If its your dream venue and they will let you book that far in advance then go for it! That way, its one less thing to worry about when it comes to planning. Like peace of mind :)
CommentAuthorBecci93
The venues book up very quickly even years in advance .,. We booked up nearly 20 months before our wedding and it was the last Saturday date left that month which luckily was the date we wanted!
If you're looking for a Saturday wedding and your heart is set on that venue then I'd book it to avoid disappointment.
People are booking earlier and earlier now
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
i say go for it we booked ours 2 n half years in advance its surprising how quick things get booked up so i'd definitely do it i wouldn't listen to what other people say its your wedding not theirs but if you're that worried about them then just don't tell them they don't need to know you've booked anything until they receive a save the date or invite xx
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CommentAuthorSam G 2b May 2016
I don't think its a problem at all and I really wouldn't worry what other people think :) at least you have the venue and the date you want. Like others have said I would just book the venue and leave it at that for at least another year then start booking everything else about 2 years to 18 months in advance otherwise you will just be going crazy with wedding stuff in your head! We booked our venue 19 months in advance and I'm just about starting to get sick of thinking about stuff!! xx
CommentAuthorJordanG99
Thank you all! I did think myself that I was a bit mad doing it so early but after reading what you've said, I don't feel so worried now :) xx
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I'd agree with the others, provided you're 100% sure that you won't change your mind about the venue book it now. Just remember that you probably won't get the deposit back so you really do need to be sure. It's a great reassurance to know that your date is set in stone. Good point though about price increases, make sure you're clear about costs when you sign the contract.
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CommentAuthorJordanG99
I've poured over soo many different brochures and gone on countless trips to look at places so I definitely don't think we'll change our mind. It's the most perfect little place, I want to live there! Got an appointment booked with them on Thursday, hopefully we can get it all sorted then :D xx
CommentAuthorFlossie
Exciting Jordan! Be sure to let us know if/when you book xx
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CommentAuthorErinP42
Exciting times! Hope it all goes well for you xx
CommentAuthorLadyC
3 years is perfectly acceptable to book a venue!
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