Hi everyone, I have a bit of a dilemma are speeches at the wedding breakfast a must? The only person willing to do one is my H2B best man, and my maid of honour.....my mother, mother in law and father in law don't want to do one! I think they don't like being centre of attention, what's everyone's thoughts on this is it a must or shall I just stick to the beat man and maid of honour?
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
The only thing that is a must at any wedding is a legal ceremony to be legally married. The rest hun is entirely up to the happy couple to decide what they want in their day. Many will stick with tradition but if you dont want it or can't have it for whatever reason then you don't have to have it x
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CommentAuthorStephH96
If you would like a speech and the MOH and Bestman are happy to do so then crack on :). It is traditional for a father of the bride speech, but if they don't feel comfortable that's fine. It may be he will just say a few words on the day rather than an actual speech.
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
My dad died when I was little so it's just my mom and she's not a person who likes to speak at events she's very timid person xx
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CommentAuthorStephH96
Sorry hun. But the same thing applies, your mum may just want to say a quick couple of words when it gets to it on the day. Or she may not. You'll have had 2 people already speak so you don't necessarily need much more. xxx
We're not planning "speeches" but my son (who will be 13) is wanting to do a speech, so we're going to get him to do a "thank you all for coming and sharing our day toast" before we all sit to eat.
If anyone one else really wants to do one they can but we're not making it an expectation.
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CommentAuthorFayeJ67
My father point blank refuses to do a speech so my sister is doing one instead
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
Thanks all I think I'll stick with just the ones who want to do speeches like you said Steph my mom may change her mind and want to say a few words, just wanted to make sure :) xx
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CommentAuthorKirstyR386
Do you have another family member that might like to do it? Maybe a sibling or uncle who could say just a few words. If not then I wouldn't worry about it as it sounds like you have two people happy to say something so I'm sure they'll do a great job. X
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
I thought id ask my brother, but hes a laugh and joke kind of guy! in the crude way im not sure if the older generation at our wedding would laugh or be confused, I could ask him to tone it down a bit see what he says :) x
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
OH's Best Man and your MoH seems like a great team to have for your speeches, he will talk a bit about OH while your MoH can talk a bit about you. Sounds perfect x
CommentAuthorleasa
Completely up to you!
Our speeches were minimal, just a few words of thanks really.
My dad simply said "all the people Leasa loves are in this room" and he sat back down!
My friend didn't have any speeches at all, which made a refreshing change, as my cousins wedding speeches went on for about an hour...
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CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
thanks all so much :) I feel a lot more relaxed about it now!! I don't want lengthy speeches either just a few words is enough for us to be honest xx
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CommentAuthorVikkiH53
I was MoH at my sisters wedding and did a speech as the best man didn't want to.
My OH doesn't want to do a speech at ours so I've just asked if he will join me in giving out the thank you gifts (and then hoping he might say that I'm glad I'm he wife and I look pretty etc!) but otherwise I'm just going to say a few words.
CommentAuthorJennK
Not required at all, only my hubby and my brother (who walked me down the aisle) did speeches :)
