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    • FrancescaH25
      CommentAuthorFrancescaH25
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
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    Hi, hoping someone can help. Did anyone be granted an annulment? If so, on what grounds? I didn't realise how much was involved in this, my Fiancé is non catholic and non baptised and is legally divorced from his ex wife who is also non catholic. However I am catholic and baptised. If anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated.
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
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    I've changed the title of your thread so members know you're asking for help and advice. I've also selected a thread category for you - please make sure you select one for future threads you open.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    Have you spoken to the church?

    Are you also divorced? If your h2b is not RC and neither is his ex then surely they wouldn't have been married in church, unless a different denomination? Therefore not married in the eyes of God? So is an annulment required? Unless you are divorced and were married in a Catholic Church, then you would need an annulment.

    It is difficult to marry in a Catholic Church if one of you is divorced, it's not impossible though. I'd really advise speaking to your parish priest x

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    • FrancescaH25
      CommentAuthorFrancescaH25
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
     
    Thank you, im new to this lol.

    Yes I've spoken to my church and he said it isn't looking promising, No I am not divorced nor ever married previously. They were married in the Presbyterian church. My parish priest is new to us and said that he has never done the process of an annulment before so we are not really getting the advice/help we need from him at the moment. Its such a difficult and confusing situation.

    As far as I believed only Catholics got annulled but now I don't think this is the case. Thanks very much for your response x
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    • LaurenD45
      CommentAuthorLaurenD45
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      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
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    As you probably know there are strict criteria that you have to fulfill. All I can say is have patience with your priest he will be looking into it in great detail especially if he's not been in this situation before.

    Just remember we are here if you need to vent any frustrations or if you need any other support/advice. It's a huge forum so more than likely there would be someone else that's been in a similar situation. All the best x
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    • FrancescaH25
      CommentAuthorFrancescaH25
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
     
    Thank you Lauren, we are just against the clock now as our wedding is in Barcelona in June 2017. We were led to believe that all my Fiancé needed was a legal divorce and this wasn't the case. Thank you x
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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
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    From what i understand from my friend who went through all this as her husband was divorced, it doesn't matter if it was in a catholic church, if the original marriage was in a church of any faith then although not recognised as such by the catholic church it is enough for them not to marry you. She was told it would take upto a year for the annulment if it was granted. They are pretty hard to get as the review board (for want of a better way to describe them) have to be convinced that there is some reason that the original marriage should have not been allowed, i.e lies on one parties part of violence/coersion.

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    • FrancescaH25
      CommentAuthorFrancescaH25
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
     
    Hi Julie, Yes that's what I get from it all too. Do you know what grounds for nullity they used when they went through it? Crazy the amount of paperwork and the time it takes to get one :-(
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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
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    I believe they went along the dishonesty line, but in all honesty it was looking highly unlikely that they would get anywhere. she was basically told that there was a 99% chance that it would be refused so in the end they got married somewhere else instead of delaying their wedding only to find out it wouldn't be allowed anyway. Some of her family were pretty upset to start with but most came around. I think the biggest struggle was her making her peace with it.

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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
      Got married 3 years ago
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    Sorry forgot to say. With claiming dishonesty you really need his ex to back up what you're saying and if it was a bad break up its entirely possible she won't be willing. they don't seem to be willing to just take your word for it, which i suppose is fair.

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    • FrancescaH25
      CommentAuthorFrancescaH25
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
     
    So many restrictions within the catholic church. We are in the same boat, we only have 9 months until our wedding and we are afraid of the delay in getting an answer for it to be a no anyway. My Fiancé has wrote his essay and will send it off to the marriage tribunal today and we can see how it goes. He doesn't even have any contact details for her as they have not spoken in over 7 years so that bit alone might be tricky for them to get in touch with her. Just very disheartening and disappointing :-(
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    • JulieB11
      CommentAuthorJulieB11
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    I must be very hard for you. sorry i couldn't be the bearer of good news. good luck with it. I hope it goes your way and gets done in time.

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    • leasa
      CommentAuthorleasa
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I'm not sure specifically about the Catholic Church, but we married in a Greek Orthodox Church, and my husband was divorced, I've never married before. His priest gave him an eccliastical divorce form to fill in, and the eccliastical board held a meeting with him to grant/deny (sounds like the annulment you've mentioned).

    He had to provide his decree absolut. The form asked for his wife's details so she could represent herself, but he hasn't had contact for years so he put Unknown.

    The board asked him why he divorced (irrecoverable differences) and why he wished he to remarry, and how could he be sure it would work this time. He told them we'd been together a while and his mum went with him and told them how much she loves me (ahh, I love his mum).

    The whole process cost £200 and they granted the eccliastical divorce.

    I think the process will be similar for all Christian churches, although some are more strict than others in granting this. If they refuse, you can still marry, just not in church. Hope this helps.

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    • FrancescaH25
      CommentAuthorFrancescaH25
      Posted: Sep 6th 2016
     
    Unfortunately this isn't the case for us. I was with my parish priest tonight who had spoke with the priest in Belfast who advised this was going to be lengthy as our case had to be sent to Rome. So not good news at all, very disheartening altogether.
    We have our venue booked in Barcelona and the chapel their was the seller.
    They are saying the chapel is consecrated therefore can only hold religious ceremonies so now we are wondering if we can have a civil wedding here before we go and then just have a religious blessing in the chapel over there. Who ever said a wedding isn't stressful is wrong lol.
 
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