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    • StephanieM158
      CommentAuthorStephanieM158
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    After all this crap about OH's stag do, in which he is really starting to pee me right off, I have told OH that I am not allowing his "best man" to make a speech.
    Not only has this man tried to come between us for 12 years but all this stuff with the stag do has really got me at the end of my tether.
    My Dads not with us anymore which really limits the speeches to OH and me, our wedding is late 4pm onwards, food at 6pm. I want to use the time scale as an excuse but OH thinks im being unreasonable.
    (If you read previous posts you'll understand why I cannot stand this mine)
    Any advice??

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    • Emily17
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    I don't think so. It would be nice if the 2 of you just said a few words to thank everyone but it doesn't have to be much x

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    • PaulaM99
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    It's yours and your h2b's wedding day, anything you want to do should be up to you. I think it would be lovely and something a bit different having just you and hubby do the speeches.

    One thing I have come to realise throughout this whole wedding planning process is.... sod what anyone else thinks/says, have it your way! you pay all this money, put up with all the stress and ultimately you should get what you want from the day.

    The best man has been a right pain for you and I would just be brave and make it clear that it's only gonna be you two standin up to talk. Put a positive spin on it by saying "at least you won't have to worry about speech nerves" :P xx
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    • MrsC2Be
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    I read your other post about your h2b's stag, I would be furious and I don't think id allow it, he shouldn't be going knowing how it makes you feel anyway. But its probably his best man pressuring him etc.

    I would definitely not have him do a speech, just you 2 saying a few words makes it more intimate and personal, without him making stupid jokes or saying anything that will be rude.

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    • StephH96
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    Don't have any formal speeches during the meal as such. Maybe something during the evening do both of you take the mike to say aquick thanks to the guests and bridal party.
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    • AnikaM60
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    I would really feel the same and not want him to make a speech. I dont even see why he would want to either since he has clearly tried to hurt your relationship so many times before. I dont think your being unreasonable at all. The speeches are all part of your wedding video too so everytime you watch youll have him on there. I would not be ok with this at all. I would talk to oh. Its not a bad compromise. Hes going on on this stag so you should be able to put your foot down with this. It both your day. Not just yours and not just his.
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    • StephanieM158
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    Thanks girls, defo going to take your advice. The more I think about it the happier I am to just have a few words from us both as Mr&Mrs :-)
    My foot will be firmly down.

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    • DanielleG93
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    good on you stephanie, i wouldn't want him to do a speech either if i was you, that man gets on my nerves and i don't even know him We are not having speeches (as such) either on our day as my dad has passed away and i don't want someone else to take his spot (if that makes any sense) i think my h2b is going to get up and thank everyone for coming but thats it

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    • StephanieM158
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    I think its nice to just have the Groom say a few things, I kid you not he pulled his face when I sat him down and told him BM wasnt making a speech.
    I hit the roof, I said I was sick of his attitude towards his BM and putting me second. He said it was "traditional" for the best man to make a speech, said I didnt care and told him thats the way it was.

    Cant believe he had the cheek to try and second guess me after all this. Grr.

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    • InDreamland
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    Think I would feel exactly the same way TBH. so don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Besides, it's yours and H2B's wedding so do it they way you're both comfortable with. A simple thanks from you both to your family and guests and bridal party would be nice but you don't have to do speeches if you don't want to. If I were in your position I would be worried about the content of the BM speech.

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    • DanielleG93
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    i would of hit the roof too also i can be a bit petty so i would of informed him that 'traditionally' stags didnt go abroad either MEN eh!

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    • NicoleW665
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    ha I hate when they pull the tradition card, hardly any weddings are traditional these days! I agree with you Stephanie, he's lucky the bloke is even at the wedding in my eyes. I feel for you I really do, reading your posts I just think thank goodness my OH's friends aren't like that. I hate that you're in this position.

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    • StephanieM158
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    Thanks girls!

    I cant wait until his stag is out of the way and then he can stop with this silly behaviour!

    Just like I thought, its lucky he's even there in the first place and I laughed at the fact he said "tradition", I stayed calm and collected but inside I was brimming with frustration at the fact he didnt just put me first for once. Im not a selfish person, normally we do our own thing with no complaint from the other side but at the moment he's just really pushing my buttons.
    This time in two weeks his stag will be over and hopefully I will start getting my man back again.

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    • DanielleG93
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    they do say weddings bring out the worse in people, i hope he sorts himself out when he gets back and you can get back to how you were. i would be frustrated too your doing a fab job at keeping it all together though hun x

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