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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    Right, before I start-do not get me wrong, I love my fiancé to bits and I cannot wait to marry him, however, I could scream sometimes.


    Last.... March I believe (possibly April) we were at a big wedding fayre and saw a Pork pie wedding cake and some digital camera's that you can hire to have on the table instead of disposables, both I laughed at to start with but once we'd spoke to the people, my fiancé decided he really liked them and talked me around to them both. Now I would really like them both, but back in April we agreed they would be things he would sort. While we were at the fayre he arranged for some samples of the pork pie to be sent to us, they came a while later and were lovely.



    Now we come to tonight, none of these things have been booked! I just asked him what the company was for the pork pie's and he can't remember, I can't find them doing a search engine search either. He said don't we have some information in the wedding folder, but I'm pretty sure we didn't bring anything back with us, so I asked him to just take a look and he said I can't be bothered right now! Now don't get me wrong, I can understand him not wanting to get up right now, but WHEN is he going to sort it, we looked at these things 9 MONTHS AGO, we now only have 7 MONTHS UNTIL THE WEDDING.... yes still time to book them (hopefully) but what is wrong with having them booked in advance and knowing we have them, rather then booking them later and finding people are fully booked up.


    Why do I have to arrange everything? It's stupid. Like I don't have enough to sort out with everything else to do with the wedding, my open university course, my 6 year old son and working full time.


    He hasn't sorted his stag yet either, not even set a date for it, I'm fed up of telling him he should sort it, before he kept saying-I'm waiting for new years as I'll be seeing my best man, dad and brothers together, fair enough-but that's passed and he still hasn't sorted it. I wouldn't mind, but I want him to have a nice stag and for people to be able to go (we know a lot of people who have awkward jobs so could at least do with a date so they can book the time off) If he ends up not sorting it and then moaning at me about him not having a great stag but my hen looking good them I am going to freak out!




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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    Uh oh! Unfortunately, most men don't understand weddings or the importance of sorting suppliers in advance. With an August wedding, he's really running the risk of not having a cake at all!! Sometimes it's nice having people help out like that but if it's only going to cause stress or having to do it yourself anyway, sometimes it's just not worth the hassle... I feel for you because it must be infuriating!

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    We've managed to find them and I've sent them an email, but obviously it's so late after the wedding show that we won't get the deal they were offering. They had said they were offering 10% off to the first however many to book at the show, but since we had got some samples they said we could have it as well, but I'm assuming that's gone out of the window now lol. Also their prices may have gone up anyway since last year.

    Will wait and see what they come back with, if anything at all.

    So next thing on my list of things to do will be finding the camera's and getting them booked.

    I need to have another look at all the things we have already booked and what we think needs booking, I think most things can be done closer to the time now like gifts and favours, but I'm starting to worry that we've forgotten big things.




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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    Men are clueless when it comes to organise things for the wedding (My H2B needs a boot up the backside too).

    Glad you found the details did you say in your email you have tried their samples and now hoping to book and ask for a price? If so what I would do is when they come back with a price ask if thats including the 10% discount they said you could have and hopefully you get it a bit cheaper.

    In regards to the Stag the best man should be sorting it out unless your H2b prefers he does it but hes not leaving much time to get things organised.

    Ive just went through everything we have/need for the wedding so im hoping ive not missed anything out either xx

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    Yeah I mentioned that we saw them at the fayre and that we had the samples, it can't harm to be cheeky and ask if we can still have the 10% off.... worse they can say is no.


    They're organising it together, at least they're supposed to be. He did have a date pencilled in, but it ended up being around his best man's girlfriends 30th and she's invited us away for the weekend-don't think we can make it with work :( but obviously means that his best man will be away so he's having to look at another date, but just hasn't done anything about it. Saying that I believe booking on my hen has come to a standstill as well, but at least everyone has a date and my bridesmaids know who's going. They're doing it all as a surprise for me.



    It's a bit scary isn't it, I know all this is just padding now, but I still want it all to be perfect and don't want to miss something big. Trying to get little bits paid now as well (like just ordered some mother of the bride and mother of the groom glasses) so that we're not paying EVERYTHING out in May, June and July




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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    Men! Who'd have em lol.. You love them but can't stand them at the same time!

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    I imagine if you got samples though and still have their details, you might still get the 10% though :)

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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    I don't count on my OH to sort anything out. I know it's not gonna work properly. His only responsibility on this wedding is to sort out our new home... And that's it! All I want from him is to decide between options, but I would never ask him to sort anything out, he is not good at that...
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    My hubby done nothing in organising. I gave up when I asked his opinion and he shrugged his shoulders and replied whatever! I did tell him he was to sort the suits out for him and the boys. As it was, we went out one day, and off chance popped into the shop, and ended up booking them all with my help!!!

    I even organised getting stuff for his stag night as I knew nobody else would.

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    It's definatey a man thing, it's a nightmare trying to get any opinions or feedback from my oh.

    He still hasn't told me names of people of who to invite or he would like to invite.

    Drives me mad!!
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    • Mrs M Wade
      CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    My OH is starting to take an interest in things now. He's looked at cars and rings so far and told me the things to look for on the internet. I've told him his one job is to sort suits out when the time comes x

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    OMG-I am fuming, just looked up the camera's and their package has gone up by £50, considering that they were £100 last year that's a massive increase.

    It just really annoys me, he holds off on things thinking ''why spend the money now'' and he's actually cost us at least £50 plus whatever we've lost out on the pork pie cake as well.




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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    I'm really sorry about that. Try to find any alternatives and please, don't ask your OH to do anything else lol for your own sake lol
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    Can you not just buy the disposable cameras yourself and save a shed load of money?

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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    I'm going to see what they'd do less camera's for, as we don't need the 10 that they offer in the package.

    He's looking them all up now, too little too late I think and I wouldn't trust him to sort it anyway. He's decided he doesn't like the idea of the digital, he doesn't think anyone will use them as people have their own camera's (I pointed out that I was the only person who took any pictures at our friends wedding other then the professional, as she even commented when we gave her an album with some in and space for her to add others that they were the first pictures she had of the wedding as she was still waiting on the one's from the professional and that no one else had taken any) and also that if people would pick up a disposable because it was on the table they'd do the same with a digital.

    So he's now looking up disposables and saying that we could get them for £60 including processing.... personally I'd rather see about a price for 6 or the digitals, as I think £60 is very expensive considering they might all be rubbish as people these days don't know how to use disposable camera's.




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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    The annoying thing is Catherine, if we'd booked last year the disposables wouldn't have worked out much cheaper then the digital one's... which was why we wanted to go for them.

    I'm going to wait and see what they come back with, I sent them an email as if I hadn't seen the price increase, so when they reply and tell me about it I'm going to ask about hiring less camera's if we can.


    Like I say, what annoys me is he's wanted to hold of on booking everything. My opinion has been the more things we book and pay deposits for earlier the less money we have to pay closer to the time and we have prices frozen. Now we're losing out on money because he just didn't bother to do anything... or if we don't lose out on money we're not getting what we actually wanted. But looking back everything I've booked he's not seen why I've booked them when I did, I just think if it had been left to him then would we even have a date right now? I know even if the venue was booking nothing else would be




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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    Like I said on the disposable camera post, I'm planning to ask my guests to download an specific APP to share the photos, so everyone can see everything :) That's free and everyone has a phone with camera nowdays :)
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    Problem with the apps is that most people don't bother with that and pretty much every wedding I've been to, people just upload straight away to fb, twits or other social media. Tbh, I've got to the point where I think yes it's going to be uploaded as I'm walking down the aisle but hey, at least there's pictures to see the next day and ultimately, all I will care about is walking towards my fiancee and getting married :) at least with disposables, they'll be left on the tables and used. A wedding I went to did this and was really good!

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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    You've got a point :/ Still kills me to spend the money on the cameras lol
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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    Well he seems to have pulled his finger out slightly and is discussing his stag




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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    Invites have actually been sent for the stag, I'm actually a little bit jealous-his stag sounds amazing!




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    • Emmilou82
      CommentAuthorEmmilou82
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 10th 2015
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    So far, I haven't had a lot of input from my OH and by the sounds of things it's a man thing...... I'm pleased to hear he has shifted slightly

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    • TashaM95
      CommentAuthorTashaM95
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 11th 2015
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    Mine just really has the job of turning up, looks like that's a good thing!
 
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